I think it may help to point out that you aren't "blaming" him for your eating, because he's right, there's nothing he can say that will "make" you eat, but if he loves you, he'll want to truly help, not just "be right." The trigger his comments have is within you, but if he understand the trigger, he can help help you, assuming he wants to. But you have to realize, the issue may be complicated for him, and there may be reasons why he doesn't want you to lose weight (that he may not even be aware of) like fear that you'll expect him to change his habits, that you'll become more attractive and lose interest in him, that he'll lose his eating buddy..... But most guys won't admit to having ulterior motives, even to themselves, so to them women are always just "making excuses."
Good luck, and if all else fails, give him the "I'll kill you in your sleep if you keep talking" look, and if he doesn't "get it" you may have to supplement with actual threats (for legal reasons, I must state that I am not advocating domestic violence in any form).
Colleen
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