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Originally Posted by frenchiepolarbear
If you feel strong enough, you can also stay close to her, but not letting her negative thaughts invade you. Basically, you can have an empathy relation; meaning you let her know you understand her problems, but that they shouldn't affect you.
I absolutely agree with frenchipolarbear. I believe in trying as best I can to follow the Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." Your sister is an addict, so you can't apply reasonable expectations to an unreasonable person. I don't know if you're able to do this or not, but I would recommend REALLY TRYING to increase your coping skills so you're not taking on her stress and anguish and then trying to release it with food. In our maintenance lives, we're all going to be exposed continually to different stressors, and we are going to have to learn how to cope healthfully rather than turning to food.
It sounds like she's all alone in a dark place, and really needs you right now, so maybe you can share in your own individual healing processes -- hers with meth, and yours with food. I know, it's easier said than done, but usually the really important stuff is harder. One of my very best friends had an incredibly ugly parting of the ways with alcohol during a time when I really needed a lot of support and kindness, as in that year my then-partner of 4 years was killed, and 2 of the 3 women who raised me (I considered them my mothers) died. My friend just didn't have it to give -- he was a bottomless pit of need and focus on self. He says now if I hadn't found the wherewithall to be there for him during his hardest times, he's sure he wouldn't have made it through to the other side -- and now his life is great, and he's healthy and happy. It was hard as ****, but again, I think the important things we do in life usually are.
I wish you all the best with it, Pam.