Thank you!
He was actually at work and got out after 9 himself. Our LO goes to bed at 10 but I bathe her around 9:30 and I'm the one who usually puts her to bed.
During the day she is actually watched by her grandparent, who said they didn't mind watching her but I will be taking her with me from now on and leave the grandparent at home if need be.
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Originally Posted by TooWicky
First off, great job on exercising!! I'm a failure at trying to incorporate some physical exertion in my life. I really admire your dedication to get in the car and go to the gym. I need to get motivated!
Does he have a thing about handling bedtime for your toddler? I saw that you mentioned you got back home at 9:30pm. I know when our kids were really little, my husband tried his best but he somewhat freaked out about handling bedtime alone. Not sure if this contributed to your situation, though. Sometimes some men can get alarmed when they see their wife doing something for themselves. I'm not explaining this well, but what I mean is, when they are accustomed to a partner focusing on the family and everyone else's well being, etc., it can be startling to see their wife take a new interest. They might even erroneously view it as selfish or as a loss of attention or priorities.
About a year ago, my husband got into long distance running. I was really griping about how long he was taking working out, especially over the summers when the kids were out of school. He worked all day, then worked overtime, then came home, then ran on the treadmill for about an hour and a half, had a late dinner, and by then the kids were already put to bed (by me of course.) I felt like a single parent at times, at least as far as watching our children and having family time goes -.- The situation caused some friction. He was offended and felt I did not care about his trying to get physically fit. I would rather him have a different athletic pursuit other than long distance running specifically, because it does take very long runs and long workouts and it's a major time sink. He's very important to me and our children obviously, and we were missing him. We worked it out! Sometimes he still runs for long periods of times, but it's not as nearly as frequent. Some days he spends less time running and other days he just lifts weights. I very much appreciated his acquiescence on the issue and am fully supportive of his current exercise routine, without complaint. He's getting healthy, he's setting a great example of healthy behavior for our children, and we still get our family time.
