3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > Support Groups > 100 lb. Club

Wanna throw a tantrum like I'm 5

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 04-09-2013, 10:14 AM   #1
Senior Member
 
Michelle125's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Philly burbs
Posts: 480

S/C/G: 222/ticker/122

Height: 5'4''

Default Wanna throw a tantrum like I'm 5

Ok, I'm not a food addict. I don't give in to cravings and I swear off junk food from my house. I'm totally on the organic/health bandwagon and it's a way of life for me and has been for years. However, my own food plan has not been working for me so I hired a nutritionist. She sent me a food plan to follow for Insulin Resistance. It's ALOT of produce. It will not be fun digesting all this roughage. Plus, I think I have issues stemming from my childhood around controlling food. My food was always strictly controlled by my parents and now as an adult, I eat healthy because "I" want to, and not b/c someone else told me to. Since that plan still is not helping my IR, I obviously need outside advice. But just the fact that someone else is telling me what to eat (and to a "T" she said)... I totally want to flip out because I'm no longer in control. The food plan is very restrictive and there is no room for substitutes. I can't even have 1 glass of wine per week on a Friday night. There is not even a 'free' meal.

I can totally restrict myself to this degree on my own.. but now someone else is telling me to, and my childish demons are surfacing. Blah. Anyone else feel that way at times? Mind you, this meal plan is great for my health and there are so many reasons why I should follow it and not stray.
__________________
- Michelle

Facebook! https://www.facebook.com/HormonalChicks

Michelle125 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-09-2013, 11:35 AM   #2
Rachel
 
Keep Moving Forward's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Louisiana
Posts: 395

S/C/G: 295ish/278.4/145

Height: 5'5"

Default

When I was kid, if one of my parents or grandmother commented on what I was eating "Oh you don't need that," "That's enough ice cream," "No more cookies" that just made me want to eat more to spite them. I definitely hate when someone tells me what to do, especially with food.

What if you tried to mentally reframe this nutritionist situation? She gave you the plan, sure, but it's totally under your control now. You could have the wine, but you're taking control & choosing not to. That kind of thinking helps me out a lot when I want to eat junk because I can't handle feeling like something is off-limits for me. I guess I'm just rebellious like that
__________________
Keep Moving Forward is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-09-2013, 01:17 PM   #3
drifting downward!
 
Desiderata's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Northern Virginia
Posts: 550

S/C/G: (HW 194) 175/168/140

Height: 5'5 1/2"

Default

Oh, yeah, I totally relate! You can definitely still have these issues when eating organic/having a relatively good diet. I had tons of food restrictions growing up due to health issues (still do), and rebelling from those restrictions in secret is one of my challenges. Though it's a lot better now -- it's v. different (easier) to be the adult choosing my choices - but it can still be hard, even though these are voluntary choices I'm making for my health.

You've got to manage this in a way that works for you, regardless of what your nutritionist says. Your nutritionist may be 100% on point as far as what's ideal for your body, but that doesn't mean she can relate fully to what it takes to keep you in compliance with it. Accept you might fall short here and there of the nutritionist's template, but don't let that keep you from striving towards it as your goal.

Look at it as an experiment. Aim for better, not perfect. And what Rachel said is great advice - try reframing this away from "I CAN'T have it" to "I COULD have it, but I'm choosing not to for right now." Having a mental escape hatch of "it's possible" seems to quiet the tantrum-y part that hates the restriction.
__________________


Desiderata is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-09-2013, 01:46 PM   #4
Senior Member
 
BreathingSpace's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Vancouver, Canada
Posts: 506

S/C/G: 183/166/135

Height: 5'6"

Default

Yup, I understand. But that's your ego screaming at you. The ego kicks and screams when it doesn't get what it wants :-)

What you were doing is not working, right? That's why you hired her in the first place. So tell your ego to shut up for a few weeks and try this plan and see how it makes you feel. It may be that you need something restrictive for a bit for whatever reason (don't know, I'm not the nutritionist) and you will have to trust her/him.

I agree with the reframing. You *could* have that glass of wine but you are choosing to set your ego aside, let the nutritionist guide you and see what happens. :-)

Just try and quietly accept this instead of fighting it, it will make it easier. Resisting against something makes it so much harder!
__________________
"There is simply no way for the scale to accurately measure the most beautiful part of your spirit".

Check out my BLOG here for weight loss woes, yoga and life!

BreathingSpace is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-10-2013, 01:26 PM   #5
Senior Member
 
Michelle125's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Philly burbs
Posts: 480

S/C/G: 222/ticker/122

Height: 5'4''

Default

Wow thank you everyone! Such great advice that really hits home.

@BreathingSpace... you are dead on. I have such an ego!!! I'm realizing it drives a lot of what I do. I mean, I did hire her to assess my eating and give me recommendations... then I found myself not wanting to follow what she gave me at all. She is a friend of my parents' so it was sort of like my mom telling me to eat this way and my ego just went crazy. I actually wanted to cry when she sent me the meal plan, it struck such a cord. And what's dumb is that I've totally restricted myself like that before. It was just my decision at the time.

Ok, time to grow up, be a big girl, and do what needs to be done!
__________________
- Michelle

Facebook! https://www.facebook.com/HormonalChicks

Michelle125 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-10-2013, 01:31 PM   #6
I can do this
 
bethFromDayton's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Dayton, Ohio
Posts: 1,181

S/C/G: 230/222/175

Height: 5'2"

Default

As others have said, you actually DO control this. You decided to seek out help. You decide to follow the plan that help gave you. She isn't telling you what to do--you are deciding.

One doesn't want to consider a person as a 'tool', but in a sense she is--another tool in your arsenal to get healthier. If that tool was a book, it might feel different to you--she is an expert giving nutritional guidance, not a controller in your life.

So, if any of these thoughts were helpful, that's good. Please ignore any that don't resonate with you!
__________________
~~
Goal: Back to where I was!
bethFromDayton is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-10-2013, 01:50 PM   #7
Senior Member
 
Michelle125's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Philly burbs
Posts: 480

S/C/G: 222/ticker/122

Height: 5'4''

Default

@Beth- you are right. I was seeing her as a controller! But in reality I can choose to stop paying her and never use her again.
__________________
- Michelle

Facebook! https://www.facebook.com/HormonalChicks

Michelle125 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-10-2013, 07:41 PM   #8
Senior Member
 
BreathingSpace's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Vancouver, Canada
Posts: 506

S/C/G: 183/166/135

Height: 5'6"

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Michelle125 View Post
Wow thank you everyone! Such great advice that really hits home.

@BreathingSpace... you are dead on. I have such an ego!!! I'm realizing it drives a lot of what I do. I mean, I did hire her to assess my eating and give me recommendations... then I found myself not wanting to follow what she gave me at all. She is a friend of my parents' so it was sort of like my mom telling me to eat this way and my ego just went crazy. I actually wanted to cry when she sent me the meal plan, it struck such a cord. And what's dumb is that I've totally restricted myself like that before. It was just my decision at the time.

Ok, time to grow up, be a big girl, and do what needs to be done!
I have a huge ego too, I think we all have that part of us. There was a quote I read that really spoke to me about ego:

"The ego speaks first because it speaks loudest. The ego needs to speak loudly in order to seem real. Your internal teacher (your inner wisdom) is a soft, honest whisper. It whispers because it is truth, and truth is gentle and honest."

:-)
__________________
"There is simply no way for the scale to accurately measure the most beautiful part of your spirit".

Check out my BLOG here for weight loss woes, yoga and life!

BreathingSpace is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-12-2013, 07:55 AM   #9
Senior Member
 
Michelle125's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Philly burbs
Posts: 480

S/C/G: 222/ticker/122

Height: 5'4''

Default

*update* been on the food plan for 3 days and I feel really good and in control! Lost 3lbs, too. Thanks for the advice everyone It really helped. I am now more aware of my ego in all areas of my life, too!
__________________
- Michelle

Facebook! https://www.facebook.com/HormonalChicks

Michelle125 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-12-2013, 09:47 AM   #10
Living Intuitively
 
lunarsongbird's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Colorado
Posts: 1,272

S/C/G: Heavy/Happy/Free

Height: 5'6"

Default

Oh- I was also reading yesterday and came across a passage that reminded me of this thread. Let me find it...
It's out of Intuitive Eating: http://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eati...dp/1250004047/

"One Problem we've seen with our chronic dieters is that they've been 'veggied out.' For example, nearly every diet regiment prescribes celery and carrot sticks as the safe and approved snack of choice. If that's your case, ask yourself how can you incorporate vegetables (and fruit) in a manner that's pleasing and does not smack of a weight loss diet, such as adding grated carrots to a favorite pasta sauce."

For me...it's all about the pleasure. In fact- I started an entire pinterest account dedicated to pleasing foods.

What do you think of my veggie/salad board so far?
http://pinterest.com/cofinchfamily/vegetablessalads/
__________________
"Summer afternoon—summer afternoon; to me those have always been the two most beautiful words in the English language." ~Henry James
lunarsongbird is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-12-2013, 10:18 AM   #11
Senior Member
 
charliee's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 382

S/C/G: 286/see ticker/130

Height: 5'6

Default

Congrats on the loss Michelle! When it's working it's easier to get over your frustrations right?

Lunar, I love it! The fried cheese with the arugula from edamam is like my favourite ever!
__________________
charliee is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Posts by members, moderators and admins are not considered medical advice
and no guarantee is made against accuracy.


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
September Weight Loss Challenge FullSteamAhead Chicks up for a Challenge 713 10-03-2009 10:55 PM
TBL "WMB" - Black Team Chat chellez Biggest Loser Challenges 1246 03-20-2008 05:00 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 12:48 PM.






Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2015, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2