I didn't want to thread jack linJber's thread about how we handle compliments, but I thought maybe it would be helpful to have a thread where we talked about compliments that made us uncomfortable and compliments that made us feel good.
Here are some of mine -
-scream like a banshee when you see me for the first time after I have lost a few pounds. I might not even realize that you are screaming over my weight loss and think you are in some kind of serious pain. Aside from that, I don't enjoy the attention of everyone in the room turning to see the spectacle.
-grab me around the middle or any other "formerly flabby" places and ask where it all went. I don't really enjoy having my problem areas groped by anyone, much less someone I'm not even in a physical relationship with.
-discuss my weight loss with others behind my back, and then tell me how you were all saying how I don't even look like the same person anymore. It's nice that I am unrecognizable to all of you - perhaps next time we all get together I'll wear a badge with my name and social security number so you won't be confused.
-exclaim loudly to me (and everyone else within earshot) when I walk into a room, "What did you do with the rest of you?" or "Where's the rest of you?" In a pickling jar on my night stand. Where else would it be?
-ask me if I am starving myself or if my husband is starving me. Yes, because my husband controls my food intake and I've been way over my maximum daily allowance for the past 5 years.
-Announce loudly, again to me and anyone within earshot, that I've lost "half a person" or a "ton of weight." Yes, I've lost about 1 fully mature elephant's penis. Next subject.
-Tell me I'm looking good, great, healthy.
-Speak to me in a normal tone of voice and not a shout.
-Be discreet about where and in front of whom you are discussing my weight loss - I might not want it pointed out at a professional work conference, in front of strangers, in front of someone who doesn't like me very much, etc. Even though our weight is obvious and outward, it is still a very personal thing.
-Ask me how I lost the weight if you are really interested in knowing the answer. I have no problem giving the short or long version. Many people have given me compliments as an opening to asking how I lost weight, because they are looking for answers to their own weight struggles. I am happy to help if I can.
Anyone else have any dos and donts to share?