I agree with the poster that said it is just a personal thing. I, too, have been in situations where I was talking about someone else's attributes in a negative sort of way, and then realized that the person I was speaking with may have thought I was referring to them. But I didn't think of them
in that way, so I said it not thinking it might hurt their feelings. She probably thinks of "getting fat" more like a loss of self, and self-esteem, rather than just a physical state or adjective. She probably highly identifies with her physical appearance, and may not be as connected to her emotional, intelectual, or spiritual sides. To lose the identity she has most connected with would be like losing her self. Does that make sense? I think of myself as living in my body, but not really being my body. I am more comfortable on an intellectual plane, just hangin' around thinkin'. That's probably some of how I get fat so easily. I just don't pay as much attention to my physical stuff, until it gets out of hand. Don't sweat it. We all have plenty of stuff to get offended over, and this isn't it. She's a friend who said something sensitive. That's all it really is. Don't look at it any other way, or overanalyze it. You'll drive yourself nuts! I'm sure she sees you for how you really are- a good friend and a good person.