Originally Posted by Scilla90
She knows nothing about my plans for US. I know how that sounds, but its not what you think. She's been complaining to me for a while that she wants to lose weight and wants to exercise, etc. She's seen me lose over 100lbs and knows that I know what I'm doing.
I, up until recently, wasn't mentally ready to start the process again. Now that I am, I know she'll be excited about this. So nox I'm not 'forcing' her to lose weight, if thats,what you're thinking.
I, too, saw my mom lose a lot of weight when I was a teen.
Just because she's been complaining about her weight though doesn't necessarily mean she's mentally and emotionally ready to do it. It's a lot for a 16 year old to handle. Going through the process myself as a twentysomething I know that there's no way I could have handled it as a teen.
The best thing my mom did for me when I was 16 was take me to a supportive gym and go to group fitness classes with me. I've been going to the same gym ever since. Eight years later I'm thin and fit.
She never mentioned weight loss and just made it about getting healthier. I stuck with it even though It took me YEARS to get below 200lbs. Last year I started eating healthier at 182lbs and because I had already made exercise a habit it was honestly a lot easier than it could have been to lose the weight because I wasn't changing so much at once.
Sure, it took me nearly 8 years to get to this point, but it's better than never getting there at all
I found that my family was inspired by my own success and I wasn't pushing them to do any of it. I just kept doing my own thing and eventually it became obvious I was losing weight. Now my whole family is on the bandwagon and I never mentioned weight loss to any of them.
I think leading by example is very, very powerful and much more effective than trying to lead someone there intentionally.