Just after reading some people's journals and some posts here and there it occurs to me that we spend a lot of time beating ourselves up over overindulging in food we know we shouldn't eat or over not exercising or over not meeting goals we have set. Isn't losing weight hard enough without adding a ton of guilt to the mixture?
We have taken on a very large project that may take years to complete, losing weight and keeping it off. It is very hard work. I think overcoming food addiction is harder than quitting smoking or doing drugs or drinking alcohol. We need to eat, we don't need to smoke, do drug or drink alcohol. That is why it is so hard. It's not like you can say, I'm never going to touch food again.
We are all human and not perfect. We make mistakes, we fall off the wagon but we dust ourselves off and try again. Learn from your mistakes. Don't dwell on them and let them take control of your life. I think that is where the real failure is, agonizing over something that is done instead of recognizing that something needs to change so that it doesn't happen again.
I hear a lot of time from a lot of different people, I have to do this or that. The plain and simple truth is that you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. You may feel that you do because that is how you've been raised...to be the good girl, to do the right thing. There's a thread up about somebody taking cookies to work and that is was expected they would make cookies or someone was making cookies for their husband. Well that is what everyone expects of you but you and I both know that it is completely the wrong thing for you to do yet we do it because it is expected, we have to do it. I hate when people say that to me. My SIL is having a baby shower for my other SIL and even though I have given her several hundred dollars of baby stuff free I'll likely still be expected to go to the shower with a gift even though I don't want to go because that is what is expected of me, the nice thing to do. Well I'll tell you right now that I'm not going and I don't care what anyone says. My SIL that is having the baby already knows I don't want to go and she could care less but I know I'll get it from the other SIL, my MIL and my husband, why aren't I going?
Stop living so much for other people. We make all kinds of excuses why we haven't lost weight. The baby was sick, I don't have time, I ate cookies I made for someone else. I love my baby of course but he's not attached to my hip 24/7. I can't blame him because I eat like a horse or don't workout. I have some time, I can't blame him because I'd rather sit on the couch and watch tv or waste my time in other frivolous ways.
Does anyone else feel that you've just wasted enormous amounts of time pretending you are trying to lose weight and just not gotten anywhere at all? How many of us can honestly, honestly say, YES I have done my best to lose weight. My best doesn't include eating 3 Cadbury Easter Cream eggs in one day. (drat those Cadbury people - see I'm trying to foist responsibility on to someone else)
I guess this tirade has come to its conclusion. Let's stop beating ourselves up about our failures. No we're not perfect, we are fallable human beings HOWEVER let's admit that sometimes when we whine and complain about not losing weight it is our own darn fault because we aren't giving it the effort that we say we are.
I don't mean to offend anyone or single anyone out. There isn't a thing that anyone has done on this board when it comes to eating that I haven't done myself probably half a dozen times. Let's learn from these mistakes, stop making excuses and start losing some weight!