The Three D's of a Regain

[Mamalicious]

Great post. I too have lost and regained. It is the most frustrating thing I have ever experienced. The 3 D's are right on point. We have to just refocus and keep on pushing. You did it once and you will do it again!

[thistoo]

Originally Posted by ubergirl

Honestly, I totally NEVER thought I'd be a regainer-- and here I am.

I thought the same thing about myself. I wanted it so much that I never thought I'd backslide. Then I had some work changes too and I backslid like crazy.

Though I think for me, the biggest problem was that I started to look in the mirror and see a normal person. Funny how that can be such a double-edged sword! I loved how I looked and felt, but at the same time I had the confidence for the first time in my life to go out with friends and 'eat like a normal person' (i.e. not worry about carbs) or go through a fast food drive-thru.

When the weight started creeping back on made excuses and put the scale away. Next thing I knew none of my clothes fit and I felt worse than ever. I'm still pretty mad at myself, but I'm trying to use that anger to fuel my success this time around rather than continuing to punish myself with bad nutrition.

[duckyyellowfeet]

Your post rings so true. I *never* thought I'd regain my weight either. I'm 23, I want to be healthy for the rest of my life. I threw out clothes, I made commitments, I promised myself I wouldn't ever come back here. Plus, its so easy to push those numbers off (these pants shrunk, I've been so stressed out, where is all the time?)

I suppose the only thing to do is learn and move on.... :/

[Angie]

Yes yes yes...all three for me too. Mine was a brief and small regain, but I resent having to relose every single one of the 17lbs. I gained it all between a cruise in November and then over the holidays -- crazy. Mindfulness is key for me...as someone else mentioned, I do my best when weight loss is my full time hobby...when my mind moves more to other things I make bad choices and don't take time to add up the consequences in advance.

[LitChick]

Once again, you've expressed it perfectly, Uber! I succumbed to the 3 Ds as well, and am now battling the 4th - Depression (not clinical) over how far I've backslid in my regain.

I think for those of us who've been morbidly obese, when the reason to lose becomes not so much a medical necessity as a matter of vanity (or some other less-dire reason), then it becomes much easier to set aside our new habits in favor of old/bad ones, especially when stresses - new jobs, etc. - crop up.

[TraceyElaine]

This post really hit home for me. Very insightful! Thanks for putting that out there.