It was very painful, but I did it.

ubergirl · 01-14-2012, 09:44 AM

I reset my ticker. Ouch.

I saved all of my achieved mini-goals from 2009 and 2010 on a document on my computer.

This time I'm setting my goal at a weight that I know I can maintain.

I feel as if last time around one of my problems was that I put a huge effort into trying to starve my body below 190 or so, when I should have accepted this as an acceptable maintenance weight and focused on maintaining it.

While it is NOT pleasant to contemplate the fact that I have gained fifty pounds since July 31, I'm trying to focus on the positive.

I am much fitter than I was last time around, and I'm in a smaller size of clothing than I was at this weight before... I can still fit into a 1X or 18 whereas before I was up in a 22 at this weight.

I think that I'll be back to "normal" by June.

I'm planning to run a 5k in July.

:c arrot:

bargoo · 01-14-2012, 09:49 AM

ubergirl, good planning, many of us have had to rethink goal weights. What is reasonable ? What is maintainable ? We might have to experiment a little to hit that happy figure.

JessLess · 01-14-2012, 09:51 AM

Good luck with your new goal. As someone who is trying to understand why I have only lost inches, not weight since 10/15/11, I am very interested in your decision making process.

Ciao · 01-14-2012, 10:10 AM

yes, it was painful for me as well having to reset everything.

gaining 30+ lbs from feb 2011 - august 2011 was not my cup of tea.
BUT now is the time to do it right, even if you have to do it all over again. good luck.

ubergirl · 01-14-2012, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by JessLess

Good luck with your new goal. As someone who is trying to understand why I have only lost inches, not weight since 10/15/11, I am very interested in your decision making process.

Jess, I'm 5'8" too, and I my lowest ever weight was 186. I got stuck around 188-189 and just stayed and stayed and stayed there. I was very slim through my arms and shoulders, and my face and legs were very slim, but I still had a bit of a spare tire around my middle, and I am booby. I had my body fat analyzed and was told that I had above average lean body mass and normal body fat for my age. I think that I should have gotten a clue, but I was shooting for a "normal" BMI.

Now, when I look at my pictures from that weight, I see someone who looks trim and fit and I'm looking forward to getting back there.

Listen to your body, and if you haven't done it, consider getting a body fat percentage/lean body mass analysis. If it's normal, you may want to consider trying to maintain for a while.

Goddess Jessica · 01-14-2012, 01:12 PM

Girl, I know that was hard for you to do but facing up to your actual weight is so much better than hiding behind a lie that just makes you feel guilty!

This is why I put my actual weight on my driver's license. I know, it's crazy but I just didn't want to lie about it and I was proud of my weight and what I had accomplished so why lie about it even if it's not a number other people would be proud of.

JessLess · 01-14-2012, 01:15 PM

Thanks, ubergirl, that is great advice.

TiredOfMySize · 01-14-2012, 01:15 PM

Ubergirl:
Peronally, a goal weight is not important to me. What IS important is getting to the size that i FEEL comfortable in. No matter what the tag on the garmet or the weight on the scale says. We all know when we 'look' good and we all know when we don't feel like we look good. So no matter that number, I am going to do my darndest to get there.....best of luck to you!

ubergirl · 01-14-2012, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Goddess Jessica

Girl, I know that was hard for you to do but facing up to your actual weight is so much better than hiding behind a lie that just makes you feel guilty!

This is why I put my actual weight on my driver's license. I know, it's crazy but I just didn't want to lie about it and I was proud of my weight and what I had accomplished so why lie about it even if it's not a number other people would be proud of.

I know you're right. That's why I did it. I think I'm mostly just STUNNED. The last four months just passed in this enormous blur-- it's absolutely bizarre to look at pictures of myself from September and know that I was fifty pounds lighter then.... it seems completely surreal. I keep thinking that a week or two of eating right and exercise and I'll be back to "normal."

Oh well, time passes anyway. Eventually it will be summer and hopefully I will be back to "normal" by then.

Arctic Mama · 01-14-2012, 02:46 PM

That's a huge step, good job owning yor current weight AND resolving to change it. Weight gains and losses are a part of life, as long as you don't give up its just a matter of asks asking the steps to get to where you want to be.

I look forward to seeing you lose this again, I think June is a good date to set!

linJber · 01-14-2012, 04:57 PM

Good job in facing the truth. It is liberating, actually. And feel free to adjust goals as needed. I set a goal of 100 pounds not having a clue how it would look on my 60 year old body - just a memory of how it looked at 35. I stopped at 90 pounds because I felt it was best for me and how I felt I should look. It took a while to allow myself to "quit," so I'm telling you right up front it's OK to move your goal to what works for you. Anything is healthier than what we are at the beginning of the process. And - being able to maintain is key to being successful in the long term. Good luck.

Lin

thistoo · 01-14-2012, 05:03 PM

I feel you on the ticker reset. It was painful indeed.

I've also had to admit to myself that I'll probably never hit my original goal weight of 120. That's still in the high normal range for my height, but my body just doesn't want to do it. At this point I am willing to accept that I'll never be 'skinny' and just focus on feeling healthy and confident. It's a tough pill to swallow for sure.

ubergirl · 01-14-2012, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by thistoo

I feel you on the ticker reset. It was painful indeed.

I've also had to admit to myself that I'll probably never hit my original goal weight of 120. That's still in the high normal range for my height, but my body just doesn't want to do it. At this point I am willing to accept that I'll never be 'skinny' and just focus on feeling healthy and confident. It's a tough pill to swallow for sure.

I remember so well when we used to have discussions about feeling stuck....

oOPeanutOo · 01-15-2012, 12:16 AM

Uber, I have to send a huge thank you your way for being brave enough to jump back on 3FC and start posting. I’ve been avoiding 3FC for about a year now and over that time, like you, have gained 22kg (close enough to 50lbs). Your last few post were some of the first I read and made me realise that yes I’m human and we all have obstacles in trying to get the weight off. Sometimes it just takes someone else taking the first step to help you along with your own journey.

ubergirl · 01-15-2012, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by oOPeanutOo

Uber, I have to send a huge thank you your way for being brave enough to jump back on 3FC and start posting. I’ve been avoiding 3FC for about a year now and over that time, like you, have gained 22kg (close enough to 50lbs). Your last few post were some of the first I read and made me realise that yes I’m human and we all have obstacles in trying to get the weight off. Sometimes it just takes someone else taking the first step to help you along with your own journey.

I remember when I was on the losing path, I used to really wonder how the people who jumped in to restart managed. It seemed so awful, so depressing.

But now, I realize the truth-- it's all a process and we will sometimes be on the down swing and sometimes not, but as long as we're trying, we're better off than if we are not trying at all!