I've been an off and on again 3FC member for about 3-4 years (?) I take looong breaks when life gets in the way of putting myself first. For instance, I met a great guy in June 2009, we dated, moved in together and then got married June 11, 2011. While meeting him was a HUGE positive for me, I put off losing weight while we were courting and newlyweds as this.guy.loves.to.eat.
I don't mean just chips and dip in front of the TV. When we first met we ate out at nice restaurants 5 nights out of 7. I was mostly careful and only gained back about 10 lbs of the weight I lost. We curtailed the eating out most nights as it just got too expensive. We only eat out now maybe 1 time every 2 weeks.
I'm sure it won't come as a surprise that a guy that likes to eat
is a big guy. At 305, he always prided himself (delusion perhaps?) that he was fat but fit...as I did. Well in the last 3 months he's had 3 wake up calls that his life style had caught up to him. High Blood Pressure, Sleep Apnea and now a serious back injury caused by improper lifting but also from carrying the 200 extra lbs right in his belly (weakened core muscles, etc). The Orthopedic back specialist embarrassed him all to **** when he said, point blank..."What I'm doing right now is only a temporary fix if you don't lose weight". (He did a spinal injection of cortisone and lidocaine to shrink the disk that had bulged and to numb the nerve that was getting pinched by the disk.
He's scheduled for his 2nd procedure on his back as the first one only gave 50% relief, just got fitted for his C-Pap for the apnea, took baby steps toward joining a gym. Last year when I was on my quest for health he was very supportive but did not join me, just watched me eat healthier and increase my activity level.
Last night as our last hurrah,we start our "getting healthy together plan" today. We went to our favorite Buffet place. I ate reasonably having lost my need to "get my monies worth" the last go round with "getting healthy". But my husband really went all out 4 or 5 trips including dessert.
Half way through our meal this very large lady rolled in on her scooter and sat herself at the table next to us. God Bless her, she must have weighed 600lbs. I tried very hard not to judge nor to stare at the 6 plates she had piled high in front of her not making separate trips but getting all 6 plates one after the other and placing them all in front of her. I don't suppose she wanted pity but I felt sorry for her. It's a chicken and the egg thing for sure, which came first the loss of mobility and then the weight gain or the weight gain that causes the loss of mobility? Is it any of my business? NO.
My husband and I both were struck by her appearance and the quantity of food she placed in front of herself. I do not believe in coincidences and believe that there was a lesson to learn there. #1 Don't judge-still working on this one!! #2. There WE are if we don't stop our ways. My husbands back injury prevents him from walking comfortably and we've actually resorted to using a scooter just like hers while grocery shopping for him. GAH!
I'm back and I'm committed to getting healthy. I'm hoping my husband's recent health crisis is motivating enough for him to join me.