I just have to share these two stories with people I know can sympathize in a big way. I am a strong person and I wasn't hurt by these incidences, I was FLABBERGASTED at the audacity and stupidity.
A woman I work with, I'll call her Judith because that is her name, is a fairly petite woman although probably could stand to lose 10 pounds, has been supportive and has told me along my journey every time I see her how good I look, how well I am doing, how she wants to lose weight (asking for advice) and the like.
About 6 months ago, I am walking with my other friend and we come upon Judith. At that time, my friend and I were both a size 14 or so. Judith says "Oh Bee! You look so good! You look like you took all your weight and gave it to <friend!>". Luckily, my friend didn't hear that. I turned to Judith and I said "that is the single rudest thing I have ever heard someone actually say out loud". Judith apologized and did this ridiculous "I'm so cute I didn't mean it " giggle she relies on to get her foot out of her mouth. I just turned and walked away from her at that point.
Fast forward to yesterday, and a group of 15 of us go out to a working lunch at a nice Peruvian restaurant. There is not a lot on the menu that I can have, so I order a side salad and some ceviche. Other people are having paella, burgers, half chickens, really yummy comfort food. Desert rolls around and every single one of them order dessert.
The dessert menu is incredible at this joint. So the table starts filling up with mango cheesecake, chocolate lava cake, creme brulee, shortbread cookies with hot caramel, yadda yadda. I order a hot tea, and the people around me give up the apple slices they have on their plates for me to nosh on. I guess I was making quite the sad face because my friend (same as the one above) asked me if I was ok to which I responded "Yes, sometimes this just sucks is all..."
As we are leaving, Judith turns to me and says "So Bee, how did you like your desert?" Oh my gosh - I let her have it. I can't remember the exact words I said but it was something along the lines of "Judith! You know I didn't eat any desert and all I had was tea. Your desert looked delicious though. Why would you bring that up? You are so rude I can't believe it" She started giggling and saying she was only kidding. I think I said something about not caring she was kidding because she was so tacky it didn't matter.
What would you have done?