awwwwwwww that sux big time!!! I just hate it whey you psych yourself up for stuff, and through circumstances beyond your control, stuff gets all screwed up!!!
If there's anything I've learned along the way, is that I can't control the outside world. I can't stop chocolate from existing LOL All I have care & control of is myself, and once I worked on that and beat my inner spoiled brat into submission, things got a whole lot easier LOL
Whatever WORKS for you is what WORKS for you, if that makes sense! What worked for me might not work for some, and vice versa. If it's something you can live with day after day after day, that's all that matters. Even if things aren't as speedy as you want, I honestly truly believe that being able to stick with it super long term is more important.
Calorie counting was easy for me, because I hate the idea of anyone saying I CAN'T have something -- with counting, it made me accountable for what I want. Just like an expensive pair of shoes when living on a budget... I might really WANT them, but I know I can't have them. Or rather, I'd prefer 4 OTHER things instead of that ONE thing, if you get my meaning! You can have what you like as long as you 'pay' for it!
Best of luck, and don't get discouraged - these little blips in life are sent to try us!