Girl Gone Strong
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Atlantis, which is near Manhattan
Posts: 6,836
S/C/G: (H)247/(C)159/(Goal)142-138
Height: 5'3"
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Community standards, my dears.
If, when you go to your Saturday morning Pilates class, you look at all the women beside you in class with their bare feet sticking out in the air, and all of them have perfect glossy pedicures, except yourself, you may start thinking about going for a pedicure.
If you are walking down the street in Midtown, and every woman you pass is wearing skinny jeans, most tucked into boots, while yours are boot-cut, you may think you got left behind a little bit.
If you attend a lecture, or a gallery opening where a friend is showing her paintings, and look around you, and find that, invariably, out of 100-plus females in attendance, you are always the fattest one in the room, at, say, a size 14, you may think maybe it's time to lose a little weight.
If you are browsing through shops in NoLita, to pass time before meeting someone for a cup of coffee, just idly looking at clothes, and discover that, within a four-block radius, the largest size the boutiques carry is a 12, you may feel you're being left out of the party & you need to lose some weight.
If you are walking in the East 40s and 30s, and see a mob of people in line outside a storefront, all excited, and women coming out with heaped-up shopping bags, exclaiming about bargains, and see the words "Sample Sale" in the window, and go in yourself, and find the largest size available of these beautiful, beautiful & suddenly affordable cloths is a size 8, maybe a 6, and your size is in the double digits, then I defy you not to leave with a feeling of disappointment.
If you are having a cup of coffee in the West Village, and the photographers & models from Industria Superstudios come out for coffee or (in the case of the models) to smoke cigarettes, and there you are, a lump of humanity, without a camera around your neck to excuse yourself, while everyone else is 5'11" or 6', pale, leggy, attenuated, and blonde (and likely Eastern European, and no older than 19), then you will feel short, dumpy & comparatively old.
You need to have a cast-iron level of self-esteem & force of will not to be influenced by these things. You will either work to conform with the norms you see around you -- or, on your bad days, sink into a feeling of despair, that you just can't do it, you can't keep up with it all, so why even try?
If you pass your days without being exposed to these little moments when the Sesame Street song plays in your head: "One of these things is not like the others/ One of these things just doesn't belong" then it stands to reason that you are more likely to be at peace with yourself & not feeling pushed toward making a change to be more like the standards continually raised by the community around you.
Last edited by saef; 01-29-2011 at 08:24 AM.
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