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Old 12-21-2010, 04:24 PM   #1
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Default Not doing it alone

I've been gone from 3FC for so long, and I kept thinking I should get back, but I never did. I think I somehow got it into my head that I shouldn't come back unless I had something awesome to share. Dumb, right? It's like not wanting to see friends/family unless you've lost weight. The only thing that does is make you lonely.

I've made some really bad choices lately and it's stressing me out and making me feel bad about myself. I decided that, instead of beating myself up about it even more, what I really needed to do was get back to 3FC and work on making better choices. So, here I am.

I've lost almost no weight for the last eight months (mostly, I'll admit, from lack of trying), but I've been maintaining. But now I'm worried that I'm going to start gaining, and I just refuse to let that happen. Sure, some of the extra few pounds that I've seen on the scale lately has to be salt, but I know that some of it is from the bad choices I've been making.

Relying on good habits isn't cutting it right now, so I need to remember:
  • Yes, one cookie/chocolate/piece of cake does make a difference.
  • There are always going to be temptations in the world.
  • If I want it, I can plan for it. If I didn't plan for it, I shouldn't be eating it.
  • I need to be actively planning for holiday events.
  • There is no such thing as "starting again". I can't "start again" after the holidays, because there's nothing to *stop*.
  • I am not on a diet that I can put on hold. I eat how I eat by choice and it works for me.
  • Getting back into a habit is harder than breaking one. I am not afraid of hard work, but why should I let it get to that point?
  • There are an infinite number of excuses out there. Each and every one of them means I've done something that I shouldn't. A "good" excuse is still an excuse.
  • I do not need to do this alone. People will help and support me if I let them, and let them know I need it.

So this is me, letting you know I need it. I fully intend to be an actively back at 3FC from now on. Just being here and seeing what other people are doing helps so much, but I have to actually be here for it to help, so I would really appreciate it if someone could poke me if it looks like I'm disappearing again.

I'm glad to be back.


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Old 12-21-2010, 04:37 PM   #2
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Nicely worded, Lisa!!
"Finish what you've started."

Re-re-re-RE-started on 2/25/17

Mini Goals
Out of the 270s by 3/17/17 - DONE 4/10/17
Out of the 260s by 5/14/17
Out of the 250s by 6/19/17
Out of the 240s by 7/23/17
Out of the 230s by 8/21/17
Out of the 220s by 9/18/17
Out of the 2-teens by 10/22/17
Out of the 2-Ohs by 11/23/17 (Onederland?)
Out of the 190s by 12/30/17
Out of the 180s by 1/25/18
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Old 12-21-2010, 04:46 PM   #3
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Welcome back! Thank you for sharing. I have been struggling in the last week, even though I know how important this is for me. Your post has helped to remind me why I am doing this. Thanks, and good luck!
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Old 12-21-2010, 05:06 PM   #4
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Hi, Lisa--

I'm new to this forum, and find myself here for similar reasons to yours for coming back! The support that comes from others is a great way to stay on track. I lost weight 2 years ago mostly because of my participation in a forum like this one--unfortunately most of it found me again, and now I have to start over. I'm in the process of collecting new "tools" to set myself up for success again--sounds like you're doing the same thing!

Good luck to both of us!
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Old 12-21-2010, 05:27 PM   #5
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Welcome back! I know I do worse with my maintenance and losses when I am away from the site, and we all totally understand where you coming from with this.

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Old 12-21-2010, 05:47 PM   #6
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Welcome back Lisa.

I've been stuck for five months, sometimes trying as hard as I could, and sometimes making so-so choices, but I have kept coming back here and it has helped me stay on track.

Maintaining a 120 lb loss is a remarkable achievement!

Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.--Winston Churchill
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Old 12-21-2010, 06:21 PM   #7
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Your post is awesome...I feel the same way, I just wish there were an easier way to get it to REALLY sink in! You can do it!
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Old 12-21-2010, 06:31 PM   #8
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Hi Lisa,

Thank you for the inspirational post, I also sometimes think that I can do it alone but the fact is I can't. I am a little bit different that the majority of the people out there who either eat anything and don't put on weight or have amazing food/portion control and just don't overeat. I need help and to stick around people like me, who are weight aware and making effort not to take that first bite because it does make a difference. Welcome back! And don't go out so that you don't need to come back, just hang in here like the rest of us. When I was away I put on few pounds and binge ate, I really don't need to do that again.

Love yourself, no matter what!

I place my hand in yours and together we can do what we could not do alone
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Old 12-21-2010, 07:27 PM   #9
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Great post Lisa, and welcome back!!
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Old 12-21-2010, 10:22 PM   #10
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that was a really great post! I really liked the "waiting til your thin to see friends/family just leaves you lonely" That's a great thing to remember. There's no "magical" time of thinness when the world will be full of rainbows and gumdrops LOL the time is NOW. NOW is the time to rejoice in life and be happy and do things you want to do -- no matter what size.

Good for you for maintaining all this time, that's really hard to do. I'm glad you're back @ 3FC and ready to continue marching on

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Now: 171 - nope, 165 now!
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Old 12-21-2010, 11:50 PM   #11
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Wow. Great post. I have felt the same way. That "waiting til you're thin", got to me too.

Give yourself kudos for maintaining, welcome back, and thanks for the inspiration. I have been stuck (deservedly) myself for awhile. WE CAN DO THIS
I will:Journal every bite * Be gentle to myself and my family * Exercise to the best of my ability * Drink at least 8 glasses of water * Focus on colorful veggies, salads, low gycemic fruit, lean proteins and healthy fats * Limit grains * Get up at the same time everyday and get back into routine * Visit 3FC every day, it makes a big difference to my attitude, thanks to the wonderful folks here.

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Old 12-22-2010, 10:29 AM   #12
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Thanks, everyone. It felt really good to finally say all that - I didn't even realize how much I'd been holding in until I started to write it.

The good news is that when I got on the scale this morning, most of the gain that had me freaking out was gone. I suspected a lot of it was salt, but didn't realize just how much. The remaining couple of pounds are completely deserved. It's a lot easier to (mentally) cope with a two pound gain than a seven-pound gain. The really good news is that it was an extremely effective wake-up call, and I am now more determined than ever to stay on track.

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Old 12-22-2010, 12:23 PM   #13
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Reading and posting here helps me keep my mental focus on making positive choices throughout the day. We are here to encourage one another. Each post we read is a proof that we are not alone, and that together, we can reach our goals!

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Old 12-22-2010, 02:50 PM   #14
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Welcome back! You've done so well maintaining...and were glad you came back! You're such an inspiration to those of us here who are trying to lose big..youve accomplished so much losing over 100 pounds now you're going for your goal and we are all here to cheer you on!! You can do it!

P.s. I loved the cookie part..I know exactly what you're talking about!

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Old 12-22-2010, 04:05 PM   #15
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Thank you for this. I really needed to read it today. I'm glad you're back!
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