I've had people ask me if I've been sick. I've had people assume that I've had WLS. I've had one person that finally agreed that I hadn't had WLS, but had liposuction.
I've had people tell me how *lucky* I am that I was able to lose the weight. Lucky? So it kinda just came off??? It's dissolved on its own???
And just last week, after someone said it yet again to me, that I was lucky I lost the weight and I went into a whole song and dance that "luck's got nothing to do with it, we get to choose whether or not we lose the weight, it's our choice, it's up to us,"
And she conceded that okay, maybe I wasn't lucky that I got the weight off, maybe I DID work for it, but that I was lucky that I had such discipline. "Well, ummm, again, luck didn't make me disciplined, it was my commitment and determination... ah, nevermind"
People want to believe what they want to believe. It makes them feel better about the choices that they make and the ones that don't make.
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