Yesterday I visited my special ed school for the first time since I lost weight. Japanese people are always quick to point out weight gains/losses and they're not always so tactful about it. At least 5 people said "oh you became pretty" or "you became cute" (literal translations) and rather than feeling pleased I felt all indignant, like "what, I was an invisible homely whale before?!"
I'm sure a lot of folks have these kinds of stories about people who mean well but insult you in the process. I'd like to hear yours!