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Old 08-24-2010, 12:11 AM   #1
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We found out less than two months ago that he has Stage 4 small cell lung cancer. He's gone through one round of chemo but his other ailments have kicked up since then. His diabetes put him in the hospital, so he's to be monitored and given insulin before meals. Plus, now he's in isolation because he's got no immunity. My Mom is with him but they are in the City. My brother and I are ready to go at a moments notice. His cancer is not curable, the chemo is only to extend his life but he's feeling at the moment, not to fight it, he says if living is this hard, it's not worth living. he's in pain and tired. I'm a huge mess emotionally. He's kept this secret and I think he must have suspected because all last winter he was sick and coughing all the time but never went to the doctor. So I've not posted this on my real facebook page as I have a lot of real life people on there that are local, so can you please say a prayer for my Dad.

How do you prepare children for this? My 8 year has been pretty emotional just about the cancer but I know he knows that you can die from cancer and he starts crying if he thinks about it.The 5yo is not so intuned and the 3yo,well he just won't understand. I've trying to be dumbed down honest with them but haven't actually said my Dad would pass, haven't mentioned the possibility yet but i don't know if I should.
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I'm so sorry. I live with my Pampie who is dealing with double lung cancer right now, and I know how awful it is to deal with. (Consequently, he's also dealing with diabetes. It totally blows.)

Your family will be in my family's thoughts! Remember that life/God/The Universe NEVER hands you more than you can deal with. You will make it, even when it feels like you can't.

I'll be thinking about your son.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family.
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Such a very hard situation to deal with ... especially with children who will be affected. My prayers will go out for you dad and your family tonight.
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I'm SO very sorry, Donna. My prayers are with all of you.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. My son was 7 years old when my Mom died (of colon cancer). I wish I could wave some magic wand to make it easier on all of your family. Everyone reacts differently to loss and to seeing loved ones when they're sick (that was the hardest part for us, was thinking of Mom being in pain). Since his grandfather is already in hospital, your son must know something is going on, and that it's serious.
I can only suggest that you be as honest with your son as you can, and be accepting of whatever reactions he may have.

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I'm so sorry. I wish I had some advice to offer regarding the kids but I'm sure I wouldn't have any idea what to do either. I've always thought honesty is the best policy but when it comes to the children, I just don't know if I'd be able to have that conversation either. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Big Hugs and Much Love. xoxo
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Thank you. Yes, I'm going to be honest with them. It's just tough finding the words and not breaking down to tell them.
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I lost my dad when I was 8, of cancer. It is hard, but easier if you believe they go to Heaven to be with God.

Prayers sent. God bless.
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