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Originally Posted by Cglasscock1
Dating at age 50 --- is it very different than it was at age 20? Share -- if you dare!
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You're not kidding sister, and the last time I dated was in my 20s.
First, how to find a date has changed. There was no internet dating services then and now it seemed like my only option to find single 50-somethings.
The things about it I like:
- the way you can screen for the things that are most important to you before getting infatuated with someone.
- rejections are gentler, both when I wasn't interested or when man on the other end decided not to go any further in the process (but I did notice that even like real life 25 years ago, if I decided not to go any further I would tell the person I was corresponding with that I wasn't interested in taking process further where the men, with one exception, just stopped chatting).
What I don't like about internet dating:
-Feels a bit like catalog shopping so both myself and a potential date can keep looking for a "better" match rather than working at making a connection.
-I've always found talking to someone socially a bit difficult and was afraid that after chatting on line, then phone calls, then finally when meeting face to face that I would have nothing left to say.
How the actual date has changed since I last dated 20 years ago:
- I was able to tell my date how talking on a date was a bit stressful for me.
- Better body confidence. I'm currently the same size I was in my 20s when I remember being very self conscious about my fat parts. Now I'm still aware of the fact I have parts that could be better, not a worry that date will reject me because of them.
- I'm dating the men they've become at this age rather than their potential they had in their 20's.
So anyone else want to share their midlife dating experiences? I don't have anyone else in my real life that is dating now. They are all either married or given up on the process.
Ok, this is not the way to cross the 100 lbs. lost goal
