Boy do I understand! Your journey sounds very familiar to me! I thought I was fat at 145 pounds and boy wouldn't I love to be back there now. 135 is the "ideal" I have for myself in my head now which is a very realistic "ideal". Back then I thought ideal was 110 or below.
The pounds packed on early in my marriage and I fought each and every one of those pounds!! I didn't understand why the weight was piling on. I think I know now it was because I went from walking miles and miles in college just for the sake of existence to being nearly perfectly sedentary. I never knew I lived an active life, but apparently I did.
I'm getting this weight off one pound at a time with a commitment to myself to see the plan through for one solid year, period, no excuses. My past problem has always been that the scale didn't move fast enough for me and therefore I must be broken...might as well quit. So for one year, no matter what that scale says, I am eating a diet rich with good wholesome homemade foods (little processing) within a restricted calorie amount and I am moving more six days a week. Well, actually I'm moving more seven days a week and exercising really hard six days a week.
But I worked up to that! I just want to see how much I can lose in a year's time if I do not give up. And I've lost 65 of those pounds so far, so not too shabby. And trust me, nine months into this process, there's no going back once that year is up.
You can do this! I like that you've broken down your goals with 30, 55 and 10! That's an awesome way to look at it!! Maybe break them down that 55 a bit more so it doesn't look so daunting.
And one of the most amazing thing many of us have discovered is that you don't have to get to goal to feel incredible. I feel really good about myself now at 170 pounds and I think I look good too. I haven't felt like this in TEN years!!