I never watch Oprah, but I was home sick today, and she had the author of "Women, Food and God" I didn't get through the book as I found it a bit self-indulgent and facile, but some of the points they made on the show were valid and got me thinking.
How much time and energy have we all wasted on OBSESSING about weight, whether it was on the way UP or DOWN? How many books have we read on the subject? how much research? how many tears cried? how many missed opportunities? How many imagined slights/insults?
When I think of the time I've devoted to making myself sane, I want to weep. That time could have been spent in medical school and curing CANCER for god's sakes, and multiply it by MILLIONS of women who've done the same thing.
More than anything on that show, I wanted to weep for the women who spoke about absolutely loathing themselves. Not just "oh geez, I shouldn't have eaten that" but truly, genuinely hating who they are and hating their weaknesses. I can't imagine living with that, with no self-love, no "If I met me I'd want to buy me a beer" mentality. I can only imagine that makes getting from A to B a thousand times more difficult.
Anyway, not sure what this post is about as I'm a little loopy on migraine medicine at the moment. I just wanted to say something about something. I wanted, if at all possible, to let someone who's reading this who DOES feel self-hatred, to say "WHY?" You're the only one who will ever truly know you and love you forever; you're stuck with you, like it or not. Be kind to yourself. Be as kind to yourself as you'd be to a co-worker, or a stranger probably. Forget for today to count every single calorie and hate yourself if you eat 4 extra ones, or finally love yourself because you ate 4 less calories. Instead, make today a kindness day
. Make a kindness plan, say 3 nice things about yourself and mean them. Do something nice for yourself and don't apologize for it or feel guilty about it. You deserve a good thing
SOrry, I'm not usually so philosophical, but I feel strongly about this - I want girls to dig themselves, to feel groovy and special and awesome!