Originally Posted by Cglasscock1
Dating at age 50 --- is it very different than it was at age 20? Share -- if you dare!
You're not kidding sister, and the last time I dated was in my 20s.
First, how to find a date has changed. There was no internet dating services then and now it seemed like my only option to find single 50-somethings.
The things about it I like:
- the way you can screen for the things that are most important to you before getting infatuated with someone.
- rejections are gentler, both when I wasn't interested or when man on the other end decided not to go any further in the process (but I did notice that even like real life 25 years ago, if I decided not to go any further I would tell the person I was corresponding with that I wasn't interested in taking process further where the men, with one exception, just stopped chatting).
What I don't like about internet dating:
-Feels a bit like catalog shopping so both myself and a potential date can keep looking for a "better" match rather than working at making a connection.
-I've always found talking to someone socially a bit difficult and was afraid that after chatting on line, then phone calls, then finally when meeting face to face that I would have nothing left to say.
How the actual date has changed since I last dated 20 years ago:
- I was able to tell my date how talking on a date was a bit stressful for me.
- Better body confidence. I'm currently the same size I was in my 20s when I remember being very self conscious about my fat parts. Now I'm still aware of the fact I have parts that could be better, not a worry that date will reject me because of them.
- I'm dating the men they've become at this age rather than their potential they had in their 20's.
So anyone else want to share their midlife dating experiences? I don't have anyone else in my real life that is dating now. They are all either married or given up on the process.