This is a weird thought and I hope I word it so it makes sense! So there's this guy (single) at my church and he's pretty cute and really nice. There are about 5 single girls (his age) at my church-me included. Well of course he falls for the one girl who is not interested in him at all! And of course she's beautiful and skinny. Anywho, my grandpa-bless his heart-reminded me that if I'd hurry up and lose this weight, B would probably be interested in me. At this point, the thought of someone who knew me fat, asking me out when I get skinny is absolutely reprehensible. The thought of that situation just really makes me mad for some reason. I expressed this thought to my mom quite a long time ago (she's thin, though struggles to stay that way), and she said, "yeah right. It'll be different when you actually lose the weight." My roommate who is also overweight agrees with me completely. Have any of you (guys or girls) been in a situation like this? Have you gotten to goal and had someone you knew for years all of a sudden be interested in you? Did you hook up with this person or did you say, "Why couldn't we date when I was fat? Screw you!" Now, this guy and I aren't even friends really and he's so wrapped up in this other girl that he pays no attention to anyone else, so he's just an example, but I've had other male friends that I feel like would be interested in me if I were skinny and I just can't imagine letting myself be with someone who couldn't love me the way I was before. I'm nowhere near my goal, so I don't have to worry about this yet, but it just plagues me. I think I'd constantly be afraid that I'd gain a few pounds and he'd dump me. On the other hand, if I "got skinny" and met a new guy, odds are he wouldn't have been interested in "fat me" either, it's just KNOWING it you know? I just can't stand the thought of losing all this weight and having some jerk that I've known for years come up and ask me out like I'm a different person! I know I'm all over the place, but I hope someone can understand what I'm trying to say and has some thoughts on the subject. This is something I've thought of before when I liked a guy and thought, "He'd probably like me if I were skinny. Oh well, he won't get me then! Jerk!" And when I saw Matt's post about meeting up with an old friend who hadn't seen him since he'd lost weight, I thought oh I hope this isn't one of "those situations." Matt - if you read this, I know it's none of my business, and it may not have even been like that, but I do hope (if you're single) that you find someone who loves you for you, thin or not. Not that I think you'll gain your weight back, because I don't, but I'm just sayin'. Am I being completely unrealistic? Everyone deserves to be loved just like they are. Skinny, fat, ugly, pretty. The sad thing is, looks are so important to so many people and it just sucks. I do think guys have it a bit easier because IMO, girls in general aren't as concerned with guys' weight as guys are about girls. I think most guys would date seriously ugly girls as long as they have nice bodies. I just wish I could meet someone now so I'd know he loved me for me. Even though I can't even imagine being with someone at this point. If I hug someone all I can think is, "OMG they must be absolutely disgusted by my fat." I think having a boyfriend right now would make me completely neurotic! The last time I was in a relationship ( about 100 lbs ago, seriously), when my bf would have his arms around me, all I could think of was him touching my fat. And I wasn't even fat! A little thick, but in a good way! Anywho, I better quit. Sorry for all this, it's just on my mind and hey, it didn't cost you anything but time! And it's a good thing, huh?