[marigrace]

Mothers seem to do the most disturbing things sometimes. When I was about 16 my mother took me to a diet doctor. He put me on a very strict diet...about 1000 calories a day with the same specific foods everyday ... and the weight melted off quickly. It was then that my mom started offering me foods that were't on the diet plan....I still don't know why she did that. Maybe she just felt sorry for me because the diet was so strict, I don't know.. but I also think there was a part that didn't want to accept the new me....and I gained all the weight back after that.

[KnitALisa]

I honestly think she thinks that a 16/18 is normal and anything smaller is too thin. But in the end this is about me, and I'm going to keep going til I feel I'm where I want to be. Maybe when I get to a 16 I will decide that that is the right place, but I don't think so.

Replace those sizes with anything lower than weighing 150 lbs and you have one of my best friends. I love her dearly, but when I told her that I wanted to get down to 135 (a perfectly normal number for a 5'4 gal), she completely flipped out. She's 5'9 and looks great and slim at 150; when I weighed 150, I still felt very heavy and in my opinion, was fat. She was maintaining I looked fabulous back then and that I would look anorexic at 135 (melodrama much?). It's kinda one of those things where all I could say is, "Ok, well it's still a long way off and I just evaluate as I go..."

[PeanutsMom704]

I've been thinking about this a lot all day, I think what I posted to LovingMe is really what's happening here. I think that she cannot imagine whatsoever putting in the time and effort herself to get down to my goal weight (we are about the same height). So I don't think she can imagine me putting in that effort either. Not as a judgement about ME, but in a more general sense, it's just a mountain that seems far too high to climb to her.

And like I said initially, she's very supportive overall, and it's not like she's saying things like "oh, you'll be too thin." I think that as I get closer and she sees what I'm capable of, she will be just as supportive as she is now. But I can't really blame her, I've never pulled off this amount of loss (let alone maintained it!). Of course, I never had 3FC before either, so now I KNOW that I CAN do this!

[Heavenlymom]

Hang in there. My mom is very supportive to my face lol but then tells my family I'll fall off the wagon behind my back. Prove her wrong!! We support you all the way. Don't let her get you down and remember you are the only way who can stand in your way. (That's someones quote on the bottom of their sigg who posts all the time on here and I LOVE IT!!)