I don't consider any foods entirely forbidden or off-limits, but instead I try to ask myself, "is this the best choice I'm willing to make, and am I prepared for the consequences of this choice."
Just as an extreme example, I am allergic or sensitive to wheat (mostly a skin reaction of red, puffy, and itchy patches on my face, hands, and feet).
When I "forbid" wheat, all I can think of is good, crusty home-made bread (a flavor and texture that no gluten-free bread can duplicate) or amazing thick-crust pizza.
So instead of forbidding it, when I get the craving, I ask myself "are you really willing to put up with two or three days of itchiness and red, flaky skin just to eat a slice of good bread or pizza. Isn't there something similar that will satisfy the craving without the negative consequences?"
That being said, there are foods (even those most people consider healthy) that I do choose to be very careful with (usually keeping out of the house).
I eat fruit, but can easily overeat many types. So my binge-fruits I usually keep in only small quantities, so that even if I overeat the fruit there's minimal consequences to doing so (one exception is Ranier cherries. The season is so short, and I love them so much that I do accept the consequences of bingeing on them (often regretting it after the fact).
Watermelon is another example for me too. I allow myself only a few watermelons per summer, because hubby doesn't like watermelon, so it's only me eating it and I can easily eat a whole watermelon in a day.
I try to eat paleo, but I don't follow a paleo diet so strictly that I forbid all non-paleo foods. I'm more likely to happily give in to the occasional quinoa dairy, or lentil craving than one for wheat or processed sugar.
I suspect that learning to compromise and to accept less-than-perfect behavior and results from myself is largely responsible for my unprecedented success not just in weight loss, but in maintaining the losses and maintaining the vigilance (not deciding to give up, even when I stumble and fall - over and over and over again).
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