Hey BellaBlonde, I know and live the "overwhelming" feeling.
I'm 284 lbs. at 5'4", so ya' , I can relate.
It's a tough road to weight loss goals, but we just have to do it for our health.
The post before me that mentioned breaking down the goals, step by step by step is REALLY good advice.
Perhaps, go week by week. Okay, this week I would like to take off 5 lbs.
Then, (hopefully) the next week comes round and you're down that 5 lbs. so this week I would like to take yet another 5 lbs. off.
It really does help to take the small baby steps in your goal thinking.
Try it and see if it helps that "overwhelming" feeling.
Yes I felt that way, and for many years I hid from the problem and it just got worse. I finally decided that no matter how long it took I was going to get the weight off. Once I took the time factor out of it and focused on ten pounds at a time I was successful. When a year goes by and you look back it doesn't seem nearly as long. It amazes me now that the weight came off as quickly as it did. One thing that really helped me was that the weight comes off pretty quick until you get closer to goal. I also focused on how much better I felt after just losing 10 pounds. I didn't exercise before I started losing so I saw big improvements in that area too. You have to let go of that desire to have the weight miraculously gone overnight. It takes patience and determination, but you will get there if you decide you want to. Think how happy you will be in a year if you commit to losing and accomplish your goal. You can do it!
In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins... Not through strength, but through Persistence.
yep, and whenever I get that feeling I tell myself a year from now I can either be sitting there thinking about how much I accomplished in that year or wishing I had started a year earlier. Because that number isn't going to get any better on its own.
Be glad that you've already tackled the biggest hurdle: deciding to do something about it. You'll really be thanking yourself in the future.
A while back I snapped into the realization that my weight had gone way outta control, and I remember how intimidating it was to make myself do something about it. In my case I knew I had over 200 pounds to lose!
But yes, as it has already been mentioned here, break that big number down into smaller goals. Find ways to reward yourself as you go. And yes, it will take time, but remember that the excess you've gained didn't exactly happen overnight. It's helped me to be in the mind-set that everything I'm doing is to feel healthier and happier, and that losing the weight and having a nicer figure is just a bonus.
Anyway, always remember that the commitment you make to yourself will be well worth it! We all deserve to be healthy and happy.
I know how you feel, I have almost 100 lbs to lose (more if I change my goals), it seems like a lot but with time it'll be less. It took years to gain that much it's going to take years (possibly) to take it all off.
Small changes are awesome cuz they are the ones that last! You can do it
Yes it is and can be overwhelming. I have made myself see the "big picture" in smaller bites...set small goals. Don't think of 105...think of 10lbs or 2 weeks from now. The changes you are making are for a lifetime. You are doing the right thing...making changes slowly. It is proven that changes made like this in moderation are more likely to stick than a drastic change.
I have found so many awesome recipes here as well as tips and words of encouragement. Good luck and keep posting!
Gosh, you guys are amazing! And it's so inspiring to hear from people who have been there before me. Thank you!
I'm just SO used to that instant gratification feeling. Eat a cheeseburger, feel better. Then feel even worse than before. But it's still instant! It's so early in my weight loss goals that it just seems like this impossible mountain to climb.
I'm going to try really, really hard to listen to your advice about breaking it up into mini-goals.
So, without further ado, my first mini-goal... I want to be 230 by September 29th. Doable? Maybe? I hope so! I'm gonna work towards it! 12 pounds, here I go!
Yeah, I have that much to lose too, and it's crazy overwhelming. Some day it feels like it will never happen. You're totally right about the instant gratification thing.
When my mind is rational though, I remember that I can start to lose weight now, and in a year I'll be very close to goal if not there, OR I can not do anything and probably gain weight and a year from now I'll be even fatter.
Still pretty terrifying though!
No binge since 5/10/10
Mini-goal #1: 1st 10 lbs: 10/07/09
Mini-goal #2: 10% of body weight: 4/28/10 (Finally!)
Mini-goal #3: 211 lbs (my all-time adult low): 1/26/11
Mini-goal #4: 20% of SW (202lbs):
Mini-goal #5: Onederland!:
I've tried not to look at it that way because I know I'll get overwhelmed, all the other stuff is overwhelming enough. So I look at the number and then think, okay I can do this in little bits and concentrate on that and then the big number hasn't been so scary for me.
Donna -Snowbound Start March 2, 2013
I also broke it down into mini goals. When one goal was achieved, I crossed it off and moved on to the next. Made a little game of it in fact. I also really enjoyed the time I spent losing. It was an adventure. I found out a lot about myself. It was exciting and I made the most of it.
Another thing, the time spent LOSING the weight, is very valuable. Think of that time as a learning experience. Time used learning new and healthy eating and fitness habits that will last you a lifetime. Healthy habits that will not only help you to get the weight off, but to keep the weight off. Use that time to find a plan that suits you, tweaking it along the way. It's time used to find what works for you and what doesn't. It's when you find coping skill and techniques to get you through the tough times. Time spent finding new recipes and foods to enjoy. Time learning about nutrition. Time very well spent indeed. Because I'm telling you, had I awoken one morning slim and trim, I wouldn't have a clue how to STAY that way. I would have turned around and put the weight right back on.
You'll get to your goal. In as long as it takes. And in the end it won't matter if it takes you a year, 18 months or longer. Just you keep at it and that goal is yours for the taking.
Last edited by rockinrobin : 08-25-2009 at 02:30 PM.
I also have a lot of weight to lose and have frequently felt overwhelmed. But I know that hiding under the covers/ignoring the situation is why I've been living (if you can call it that) at this weight for so long. I try and not think about it as one big huge number. I understand up front that it will take at least a year to get to goal. And that's okay. I look at short term goals...like what can I lose by my birthday (in early September), what can I lose by Christmas, what can I realistically do (exercise, eating, etc.) to help me get there. I make lots of NSV goals. I know that if I stick to this, I will lose the weight in a year or so...and if I come up with excuses or just ignore the fact that I need to lose weight...I never will get to my goal weight.
I totally agree with RockinRobin...time frame is not important. If I don't lose all my excess weight in a year, that's okay...at least I know I'll be a lot closer to goal than I am today. And I also realize that the changes I'm making aren't just until I get to goal. These changes have to become habits I maintain for the rest of my life.
Say it... shout it... believe it... "I AM GOING TO MAKE IT HAPPEN!"...then DO IT!
"You don't drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there." ~ Edwin Louis Cole
Starting weight: 245
Lap RNY 11/19/2014: 215.5 surgery weight
My Mini Goals:
1) Consume less than 120 grams of carbs, 30 grams of sugar and 1,100 net calories (factoring in exercise) 2) Exercise 6 days per week at least 45 minutes per day
3) Follow the Bariatric surgery eating plan
4) Make the most of each moment