we've lost the same amount of weight, but i'm still bigger than you now. Would you ever tell ME that I'm disgusting and a fat cow??? I doubt it very very much. So why would you say it to yourself??? Any time thoughts like that creepy in, i do the British thing -- stiff upper lip, straighten your shoulders and say "at least i'm not 300+ pounds" that's ALL THAT MATTERS! Imagine if you'd never started? Yoikes, imagine how crappy pant shopping would be then!!!
I know just how you feel and how depressing it can be.
It's draw a line in the sand and move on time: you've lost over half what you wanted to do, you are so on the downward path now. You can do this.
wow you've lost an incredible amount of weight and that is VERY impressive!!! hang in there!! you will get there one day!!! :-)
you're doing really well!
you're definately an inspiration to us all!!! instead of focusing on what your body looks like right now. try to visualise what your body will look like once you lose the weight... and you will get there . you've already proven you have the ability to do so, by losing 88lbs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nope- Quiting is not an option!! You are doing so well, please don't beat yourself down! You have come a very long way already and it is only going to get better. Don't let some mirror tell you otherwise! Hang in there, you have a whole herd of us cheering for you!!!!!!!!
Mug the good news is that although there is a ways to go your getting to the exciting part now. For me once I got under 225 or so I could really see a huge difference every 10lbs or so as opposed to before when I'd lose a ton and you couldn't even tell. Just give it some time the differences will start being very cool.
I totally understand your frustration but, to echo another poster, please don't speak that way about yourself. You'd never call a friend those names and you deserve the same respect.
Please focus on what you've done. I've never in my life lost that much weight (and yes I need to loose at least 100 lbs and my thighs sag and my belly is big too). I've always given up before the job was finished. Please don't give up the amazing amount of work that you've done. If you've come this far you can finish the job, I just know you can.
One bad day just can't be allowed to negate all the wonderful work you've done.
Last edited by ANewCreation; 08-10-2009 at 06:22 PM.
I can't add anything better than what has already been said. I KNOW you can bounce back from this feeling, though. You are strong and you can do it.
Besides, if you notice, there are a lot of people here who are in awe of what you have done. If not for you, then do it for us! (just kidding) (no I'm not) (I mean, you have to do it for yourself) (but what about us?) (It isn't about what others think, it is what you think) (well, no, it is more about keeping all of us motivated...)
I understand this so well...When I go try on things the mirrors dont lie! I cant stand it! I was going to buy a one piece bathing suit but since Im 24 and all the other 24 year olds would be wearing 2 pieces I bought one too! It took me so long to find one...I hate my core...Its getting better though..Im on the P90X with my husband. It helps ALOT! Try not to let it get to you..I know how hard that is because I just sit there and look at myself and shake my head...
You have to think of it this way....if you dont loss the weight and you give up..In a year or so you will be in the same situation....I think of myself as starting "my sexy" next year...lol...
holy smoke, those dressing room mirrors are cruel and unusual forms of punishment; bf says they're engineered to bring out flaws (he had some sales reasoning behind it but I was too busy feeling like spray painting my reflection to listen to him that closely). plus, that lighting, how does anyone look good in that lighting??
I wanted to get some cute bras and went to Lane Bryant. Saw a couple of styles on the mannequins that looked adorable. I'm not sure who does wear them well, but t'isn't me. I admit that was something of a scary experience.
so, 316 to 230...WOW! I know you know how huge a difference THAT is. I remember at my heaviest feeling so defeated because I struggled even finding clothes that fit me in the stores, let alone that had any style or that I might like. That puts my bras experience more in perspective for me, and I even can chuckle at it...a little (the horror! the horror! heh heh)
hang in there, it's definitely worth it! you are not alone.
I suspect you look beautiful! Your body has changed so much since the beginning of your journey that you probably feel light and airy in comparison to where you were. You just need to wrap your head around that, Mug. Hugs. CJ
Wow, these posts were really good to read.
I am totally having the same issue.
My skin is not bouncing back as I would like, that, coupled with the fact that it has been over 15 yrs since I've been thin so all my bits and pieces are NOT where I last left them (my memory of myself thinner happens to be in the form of a 20 yrold-to compare myself to that ideal is just cruel)
But even though my inner thighs are saggy and my arms and face seem to have fallen and I find new stretch marks and lumpy shadows everyday, I need to just deal with it and press forward.
The alternative is not only stupid, but dangerous.
Someone said on another thread that having sagging skin, etc is no reason not to deflate it.
This is so true.
Its hard, but I know being heavy makes me miserable in ways that skin tone never could.
Soldier on and good luck.
Mug, you can do it! Those dressing room mirrors are brutal. Forget them and keep right on plugging away. Just think of how you felt 88 pounds ago. I'm willing to bet you feel a heck of a lot better today, even if your thighs sag a little and your belly seems a little too big. Every day I tell myself "Today I am getting a little thinner." Silly, but it cheers me up.
You only have 3 more lbs until you get your tan and meeting a goal and rewarding yourself will feel amazing! 
Hope you feel better! 
(my memory of myself thinner happens to be in the form of a 20 yrold-to compare myself to that ideal is just cruel)
