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Old 02-18-2009, 02:03 PM   #1
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DH and I were out for dinner with two other couples. One of the men looked at me, commented how good I looked and that I was losing weight. Then said "Are you going to keep it off this time?"

In fairness he's watched me lose and regain twice before. Still...I was stunned. I know others (including me) may have thought that, but no one else has said anything.

My response was "I hope so" and then to move on. What would you have said?
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:06 PM   #2
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You could have asked him how big his penis was.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:08 PM   #3
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"You do a back-handed compliment so well."
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You could have asked him how big his penis was.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:25 PM   #5
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I think you made the perfect response. What else could you say and not ruin the night?

Weight is a sensitive topic and everyone feels differently about it. Take the high road and assume it was a sincere question of interest and not trying to be mean and move on.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:26 PM   #6
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He's an idiot and didn't deserve to be answered.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:32 PM   #7
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"Nah, why would I do that?"

Stupid question, stupid answer.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:38 PM   #8
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Interesting question.

I agree that you handled it very well . . . calling him out on the condescension of his question may well have put a damper on the evening, and it sounds like he was sincerely trying to be nice.

Maybe it is just me, but I hate it when people I don't know extremely well comment on my weightloss - it is just too personal a subject imho. There are plenty of other ways to give a compliment - a simple "you're looking great" or "I love that dress" gets the job done, and lets ME be the one to decide if I'm comfortable addressing my weightloss.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:40 PM   #10
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BTW, I see nothing wrong with your response. That was the very first thing that popped into my head so it might have fallen out of my mouth too.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:42 PM   #11
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I would have said

"Well my plans are to make changes that will last forever, but for you I am sure you will be rude for life"

But then again that is me.....I also like the penis question!
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:51 PM   #12
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You could have asked him how big his penis was.
I just spit water out onto my laptop keyboard when I read that..

I would have probably said exactly what you said. I tend to be one who tries to keep things smooth, so I downplay that kind of comment. I would have wanted to say something more witty, but inevitably wouldn't have thought of anything until hours later.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:52 PM   #13
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I would've said, "No, I think I'll put it all back on after I reach my goal."
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:52 PM   #14
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I like GirlyGirls response of: "You do a back-handed compliment so well".

I hope you don't mind me using this one!!
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:53 PM   #15
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Love the penis response. That's usually my approach - involving genitalia insults when a stupid man offends me. Works like a charm!

Honestly, I would have been so shocked and taken aback that I would have been speechless. That's incredibly rude.
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