What would you have said?
 

DH and I were out for dinner with two other couples. One of the men looked at me, commented how good I looked and that I was losing weight. Then said "Are you going to keep it off this time?"

In fairness he's watched me lose and regain twice before. Still...I was stunned. I know others (including me) may have thought that, but no one else has said anything.

My response was "I hope so" and then to move on. What would you have said?

You could have asked him how big his penis was. :)

"You do a back-handed compliment so well."

:rofl:

I think you made the perfect response. What else could you say and not ruin the night?

Weight is a sensitive topic and everyone feels differently about it. Take the high road and assume it was a sincere question of interest and not trying to be mean and move on.

He's an idiot and didn't deserve to be answered.

"Nah, why would I do that?"

Stupid question, stupid answer.

"Well, you know, that is usually the plan!"

Interesting question.

I agree that you handled it very well . . . calling him out on the condescension of his question may well have put a damper on the evening, and it sounds like he was sincerely trying to be nice.

Maybe it is just me, but I hate it when people I don't know extremely well comment on my weightloss - it is just too personal a subject imho. There are plenty of other ways to give a compliment - a simple "you're looking great" or "I love that dress" gets the job done, and lets ME be the one to decide if I'm comfortable addressing my weightloss.

BTW, I see nothing wrong with your response. That was the very first thing that popped into my head so it might have fallen out of my mouth too.

I would have said

"Well my plans are to make changes that will last forever, but for you I am sure you will be rude for life"

But then again that is me.....I also like the penis question!

I just spit water out onto my laptop keyboard when I read that.. :)

I would have probably said exactly what you said. I tend to be one who tries to keep things smooth, so I downplay that kind of comment. I would have wanted to say something more witty, but inevitably wouldn't have thought of anything until hours later.

I would've said, "No, I think I'll put it all back on after I reach my goal."

I like GirlyGirls response of: "You do a back-handed compliment so well".

I hope you don't mind me using this one!!

Love the penis response. That's usually my approach - involving genitalia insults when a stupid man offends me. Works like a charm!

Honestly, I would have been so shocked and taken aback that I would have been speechless. That's incredibly rude.