Wow hon I am sorry that is really rough. I would be beyond mad if my DH did that. Luckily he is VERY supportive and that helps a lot. Have you asked him why he is doing this? I think that is very rude of him. I am sorry he is making this so hard on you.
Isn't it great to have a group here to rant to who understand. My husband too brings junk in the house--mostly I resist but sometimes I give in. I like that throwing it away slowly suggestion--very passive agressive (in the best sense, of course).
BTW Lyn I love your blog.
I would take the amount of donuts and candy that you would be expected to eat, 50 % as an example, and throw them in the garbage, pour bleach on them or spray them with raid. He can have the rest.
Does he have weight to lose? Is he jealous of your success? It sounds like he is actively rejecting your accomplishments because of some of his own insecurities.
Obviously I don't know your situation, but I know that for me, I don't need people like this in my life. It sounds like a toxic relationship that you would be better off without. Especially when we're trying to do something as difficult as weightloss, we must surround ourselves with people who actively support us-- at least who don't actively work against us!
Can get some temporary financial support from family or friends in order to get him gone sooner?