Originally Posted by cara1980
I always help other people out but Im not one to ask for help.
I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time. My husband also works really long hours, so I relate to how tough it can be for him to try and add extra responsibility and for you to try and take care of a 3-year-old and yourself without any assistance.
But I also know that my inability to acknowledge my needs and ask for help instead of hoping someone would realize that I needed help has been one of my major life barriers (and has contributed to my weight issues). So, I will share with you an assignment that my therapist gave me (modified for your situation), and encourage you to give it a shot.
Call your mom (or dad or someone else), tell her that you're in a great deal of pain, and ask her if she can come help you bathe and straighten up your house. Try not to do it with a "You owe me this and should have known what I needed so I didn't have to ask" attitude. Rather, take responsibility for ensuring that your needs are met by just letting her know you need help, and asking her to do very specific and reasonable things. It's a hard, hard thing to do, but so is weight loss, and you've been very successful at that!
Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon.