SO, reading the excellent thread on banishing regrets caused me to consider what, if anything, is good about the obesity I have experienced. I think it is important to contemplate and celebrate many facets of my journey through life. So, keeping in mind that there are health risks with obesity and that we are all here to move towards healthier weights, I just wanted to comment on some good things that have come from being obese. (I truly do not mean to offend anyone, so if you feel disconcerted, I apologize).
1) My husband thinks I am hot at any weight. He really does. He has never commented negatively on my weight and always comments positively on my physical <ahem> attributes. Because of this, I know he is not shallow. I know he loves me for me! Fatter, thinner, crankier, happier, depressed or not. He loves me.
2) My in-laws are only supportive. I have never had a negative or nagging comment from them. They celebrate my achievements, but never criticize my short-comings....in any facet of life. They also love me for me.
3) I discovered that I love to run. Growing up (thinner) I hated running. With a passion. If not for this journey into and out of obesity, I might never have discovered how I love it and had such a wonderful way to be healthy...not just weight-healthy, but cardiovascular health.
4) I mindfully consider nutrition. I have educated myself regarding nutrient dense foods and wonderful healthful recipes. I cook more often.
5) I have a deeper understanding of other women (my patients and colleagues) and how difficult the struggle can be. I am aware and more insightful and that allows me to be a better midwife.
Obesity will always be part of my life. Even at goal weight, I will be reduced obese, with all the challenges that holds for the rest of my days. But I have found value in that part of my journey.
I am a different person because of my obesity than I would have been otherwise.
Anyone else?