Okay ladies..I need help. Serious help!
While am still healing from my divorce, I have begun to meet new people and to "kind of date". LOL I am in no way ready or wanting a relationship yet, but it's kind of fun to be single again. Kind of.
I don't know if I told you all about the chef here at my job. Well, here's some history before I ask for help.
This may be a bit long...lol
The chef (Mike) and I have been "eyeing" eachother for a bit now, and we finally hung out 2 weeks ago only because I called him at 11 pm on Saturday, I was a bit drunk and I as flirting. He said "Let's do this, and hang out and stop saying we will". So we made plans to meet at my friends house and we played cards into the wee hours of the morning. We had SO much fun! He is hilrious, sweet, gorgeous, and kind. I ended up falling asleep around 7 am, and he left without waking me. We didn't speak on Sunday. Monday after work he called me, we spoke for a few minutes. Tuesday he called me, telling me that my friend (the ones house we were at on Saturday night) asked him and his friend if they were interested in another night of playing cards. He said he was definatly interested. We made plans for Friday night. Friday he called me and told me that everyone from work was hanging out at the local bar right after work. I had stuff to do I told him. Then he said "But were still getting together tonight?" I said Yes, and he was happy. Told me to call him later when I was done. We had plans to meet at 11:30 since his friend was working late. I called him at 10:00, left a message. Called again at 11:00, left a message saying "Hi, it's Jennifer. It's about 11 pm, just wondering what's going on. If something came up and you can't make it, it's okay, just let me know, cause am gonna head up to Danbury (a town with alot of bars/clubs)." He didn't call. Thought I was being blown off. Made plans with other friends and went to Danbury. He called about 1 am explaining that when he got home from hanging out with everyone from work, he ended up falling asleep before he got in the shower and he is so sorry, blah blah". I played it cool, saying that I understood. I did understand, I didn't think he was like that to just blow me off. So, he then asks what am doing and tells me that he is wide awake, and to call him when I was done. He said he was looking foward to hanging out with me all week..blah blah blah. So, I tell him that I won't be long in Danbury..he says to call him when I get back NY. So...an hour later, he calls me and tells me he is making his way up to my area..he lives about 30 minutes south of me but his friend isn't coming, is it okay if he comes alone? I tell him of course, it's fine. That I would give him a call when I got back to NY.
(am smiling just remembering this..lol) So, I call him and he is near my friends house, since it's now about 2:30 am..we decide to hang out at my friends house and play cards. AGAIN, we have an awseome time. We kissed..ahhhhh. We end up sleeping there, watching the sun rise, so nice. We fell asleep and we woke up and spent the day there till about 4:30, watching TV, eating, ect. It was fun and nice. That was Saturday. He said to call him. I didn't. I saw him Monday morning at work, but you see, we kind of have this "silent rule" to not really let ppl at work know we talk, because this place lives off of gossip. So, I see him "Hi how are you?"
This is really long..sorry. Just want to give you all the whole pic before you give me advice..Which I really hope you do. LOL
So, I called him Monday while I knew he was working and just said "hey, it's Jennifer. Just calling to say hello. You didn't look too happy this morning when I saw you, hope you had a nice weekend. Talk to you soon"
He didn't call. But were both alot alike in that area..will explain that later..haha
Tuesday morning at 10:30..he calls from the kitchen at work. "Hey, how you doing, blah blah. telling me how much fun he had hanging out with me. Blah blah. Talk to you later, have a good day"
Didn't talk again.
Wednesday: I walked into the cafe to get my ice water and he was at the grill with this guy Enrique. I pretend to not notice. Enrique calls my name, "Good morning Jennifer" Mike looks up and calls me over. REMEMBER..we don't talk like that at work. So, I walk over with a big poopy eating smile on my face. "How you doing, blah blah blah" Enrique says "No breakfast today, you don't love me today" (big sweetie old man flirt) I say "No, not today" as am laughing. So, Mike says "But you love me today, don't you?" I say "Yes, today I love you" And Enrique says "What about me?" I say "I love you everyother morning, but today I love him" Hahahha Were all laughing, talking about the Yankees and stuff. Mike is giving me that oh so cute smile..ect. I go back to my office on Cloud 9. I really don't even know how I got back to my office..I glided the whole way. THIS was a HUGE step for us..we've never talked like that at work. It was always hey how you doing, and then a whisper "call me" or something like that. So, this was huge but NOT as big as today. Ha ha ha
Are you bored yet????
We didn't speak again till today. This morning I went outside to smoke (bad I know) on the terrace. Now, understand my building is all mirrord glass outside. I cannot see in from outside. So, am sitting outside, and it's right outside the dining area here and little do I know, but Mike is inside with all of the other chefs eating. So, all of a sudden. He walks outside saying to the other chefs "Yeah yeah, I smoke now" He does not smoke and everyone knows that because he is the only one there that doesn't. There isn't a soul outside but me. So, he walks over, sits next to me and we begin to talk. About everything..how much fun we had last weekend, how my friend was, the weather, yankees, work, ect. It was time for us to go back in and this woman walks outside, so it's an akward goodbye..but he turns and says so sweetlt "Jennifer..you have a great day" You too..bye.
SO! That was huge for us to talk in front of everone here. Nothing has been mentioned about hanging out this weekend and I would love to but I don't want to ask. I want him to ask. But nothing has been mentioned, but am not blind, he is obviously making it known that he is interested in me. Am I wrong?
Okay, so here is the deal. I am not the typical woman, and being that am going through a divorce, I am very uhm, what's the word? Hesitant about everything. I don't sweat things. I go with the flow, blah blah blah. Some of my friends tell me I need to let ppl know when am interested because I don't call them and all that jazz like most women do. Other friends tell me am doing the right thing by just playing it cool..let him ask.
Mike and I are both Sagitaruins. We love our freedom and independence. We are alot alike, I can see that just from hanging out twice together. Which is very good. BUt can be bad too. We both don't want to come off as strong. But I kind of feel like he is waiting for me to ask him to hang out. He is obviously trying to let me know he is interested. So, am left at this dilema. What should I do now?
I thought about giving him a call maybe tonight or tomorrow night and just saying "Hi, how you doing"..since he obviously has made the "move" twice in a row. I don't want to come off as too strong, but I do want to know that I dig him.
So..what do you all think? I am just having fun right now..still hurting..but I have been enjoying meeting new ppl and hanging out.
If anyone survived reading this book about the latest saga in my life..please give me some advice. I haven't "kind of dated" in years..very long time.