Ok, I am reconfiguring my approach. I have been at the same weight now for almost 4 years, with minor dips and doodles along the way. What’s that saying, “Crazy is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results?” That would be me.
First, I am making my goals small and short. Instead of looking at the endpoint I will look at benchmark dates along the way. It’s not that I want to lose 50 pounds, it is that I want to lose 10 pounds by Sept 1. Not so daunting, not so far away.
Second, I am going to work at facing the reality of my behaviour each and every day. Scarfing down a huge amount of food at the end of the day and treating wine like a beverage instead of a treat keeps me where I am. Overdosing on fruit and bread and cheese is still overdosing, even if no sugar is involved.
Third, I need to get moving again and I will just have to be honest with Sailorboy about why and when I need to do this. I feel like I have been trying to ’sneak’ in exercise to avoid cutting into our time together. The better way to go forward is to ask for his support.
There.
July 16th, 2009 at 9:49 am
You’re right. You have to make time for yourself. Then when you lose weight you’ll feel better about yourself and look better, he will notice and maybe it will make more sparks…
July 17th, 2009 at 5:42 pm
I just recently took the same approach that you’re going to and it’s working! Sometimes looking at the big picture is too overwhelming but something smaller is something that can be done. Can’t wait to hear about your victory on September 1st!
July 19th, 2009 at 4:50 am
I think this is a good approach.
I also think you need to give yourself some credit for the past 4 years of maintaining a constant weight.
It’s funny, when I was younger I didn’t ever think about losing weight in any way except big numbers fast, but now I’m recognizing that small numbers slow is probably more realistic for me.
Did you ever read Brian Wasniak’s book Mindless Eating? He talks a lot about slower, smaller weight loss.