Feeling a little weepy and overwhelmed. Sorry. Day 10 since Loverboy ended things, admittedly with a big push from me. It was for the best, but each day has been a bit of a struggle. Ever read the book, “It’s Called a Breakup Because it is Broken?” Definitely has principles worth adopting when going through this particular life moment. Sigh.
Well, I am sad, and embarrassed at my own behaviour but I know that this is the right decision. I am dealing with my feelings each day, and I have not fallen into chocolate, or vodka, or allowed myself to indulge in a huge binge. I am back to walking and am well, not 100% where I want to be on the food thing but maybe 70%. So good. I am cleaning out my closets and getting ready for a yard sale in a couple of weeks and finally, seriously, thinking about my next life goal. In a way that will (I hope) actually lead to action, not whining. But, at the same time, being careful not to make any decision that arises from my heartache and not careful consideration.
My instinct is to throw the rest of my life into turmoil ( new job! new home! major shopping spree for new debt!) but I am not doing that. OK, I did buy 2 new pairs of shoes, about $80 worth of clothes and some very expensive shampoo. I can probably survive that. Oh, and a hundred dollars worth of plants for the yard. Considering past behaviour in similar circumstances I am being very restrained.
June 19th, 2008 at 3:13 am
damn hon. I’m sorry. Don’t you just hate it when things don’t work out but you know it needs to end in order to make things better for yourself? Just went through that….
http://www.oprah.com/relationships/subsection_landing.jhtml?section=Breakups/Divorce&subsection=Breakups/Divorce
I actually read some pretty good things on there regarding this subject. I actually wrote out all the qualities I want in a man and posted it on my fridge.
yeah, I’m a sucker for that kind of thing. I also burnt sage all over my house to rid myself of any lingering residue, washed all linens and decided that sometimes crying your ass off is the best thing you can do for yourself.
I feel for you Ms. tj…. but better days are ahead for us
You did good on the retail therapy and staying away from the booze was an even better idea. keep strong and be extra kind to yourself ….
we’re also gonna beat these colds!!!!!!
xo
June 19th, 2008 at 6:38 am
I am so sorry that you are going through this pain and loss. You go ahead and grieve , you have the right to. Then understand this. You are too good for a man who will treat you like that. You will be better off without him.
I am so proud of you for NOT binging! Good for you! You stay strong . Keep up the good work.
Take care
Joy
aka
(Finding Joy in the journey of weight loss)
June 19th, 2008 at 7:03 am
I’m sorry about the breakup. Sometimes those type of things seem like a major blow, even though they may like our lives better in the long run.
Shopping is ok as far as therapy is concerned
I’ll be thinking about you, and sending you big hugs.
June 19th, 2008 at 7:19 am
tj sorry you’re going through a hard time w this breakup - they’re never easy, are they?
I hope it opens you up to a great person soon.
Sounds like you’re doing really well, being at 70% after a breakup is like at 110% in more normal times. It sounds like you’re developing new coping mechanisms.
I’m a big believer in lists like the one Ann wrote about - I had a clear vision of what I wanted in a man, and even though it seemed impossible to find a real-life person who met my criteria, my husband actually does — so the right person is out there!