Old maid?
My back is killing me today - not constant but a certain way I move it grabs me. I think I slept twisted the other night, thats what started it, then last night when I was helping that lady clean she decided she wanted to rearrange her bedroom furniture so we did that and it didn’t help my back any. I took 2 Advil, hopefully they will kick in soon. I ended up cleaning for 3 hours last night, not bad and easy money. I think I’m going to take the money and try to buy myself a black purse this weekend. I’ve been looking for one for a while now and haven’t been able to find any that I like. Even though I didn’t “officially” exercise last night, I got some in with the cleaning and it showed up as a 1.4 pound loss on the scale this morning. Yay! Gotta’ keep it moving in the right direction.
Some of the clothes that I had altered like a month ago are almost too loose to wear again. Now that I look back I wish I’d have just both new clothes instead of paying $200 to have them altered. Live and learn. One thing is that she didn’t take a couple of the things in far enough and another couple pounds lost on top of that and they aren’t fitting right again. Its too expensive to buy dressy clothes for work plus casual clothes for outside of work. Now that I went down a little in size it is a little bit easier to find stuff that will fit me in second hand stores to get me by until I can afford other good stuff. 40 pounds ago I couldn’t find anything to fit me in the thrift stores. Wonder why there are so many fat people walking around but no plus sized clothes in the thrift stores. Hmm… Hopefully soon I will be out of plus size. What is the cut off for plus? 14?
Yesterday I was kinda thinking about if I will ever find another man. LOL. I’ve been single for over 2 1/2 years (after being with the same man for 18 years) and haven’t been on one date since. I’m not that bad, I have a good job, I’m independant, which should hopefully be attractive to a guy, I’m a good housekeeper and a good cook, I don’t drink (only socially) or smoke, I’m 41 years old, not that old. (Who am I trying to convince here? LOL) I don’t want to be by myself for the rest of my life. I’d just like to find someone to date and not live with. Someone to just go do something with and then go back to my own house at the end of the night or if they get on my nerves. LOL. But then again, once you start dating someone then they are going to start expecting sex and all that business, which I’m not up for right now, so IDK. I’m kinda torn between being okay by myself and wanting a little companionship.
I need to get myself in gear with losing more weight so I can get someone half decent when the time comes. LOL. I mean, I don’t want someone that is fat and gross so why would someone want me fat and gross, you know? I’d like to find someone that is kinda into fitness and healthy eating so we can do this together, someone that I can learn from. Not someone who parks it on the couch with a remote, chips and ice cream. So, to attract the kind of man I’d like to have, I need to become the kind of woman that a man like that would want, right? I have my work cut out for me. 
LOL. I also need to get out of the house to meet people. I’m not going to meet anyone if I stay home all the time. I’m not a very social, outgoing person so that is a little weird for me.
Oh well, I guess I’ll just keep working on myself and hopefully, when the time is right, I will attract the right person. I’ve been feeling old lately, I guess thats what got me thinking about all of this stuff.
Looks like it will be a slow, easy day at work today and only one glorious day until FRIDAY! Yee haw!
Filed under: Uncategorized on November 5th, 2009
I think you’ve got the right idea in attracting a certain type of guy. I definitely do appreciate having an active DH because it means that he doesn’t mind when I’m going out for a run or doing exercise DVDs instead of being parked in front of the TV. And some of my favorite times are when we do active things together (hiking, running, etc).
It’s almost like dressing for the job you want, not the job you currently having!
Fat Pants - I love the way of thinking about dating as dressing for the job you want. Its true!
I hope your back feels better. Definitely take it easy today back-wise =/
Finding a mate with similar interest and goals is definitely necessary for a healthy/long-term relationship ! You sound like you have a lot of great qualities so any guy would be lucky to be with you ~~
You sound like my mom when her divorce had been over for a while and she was feeling ready to date.
She signed up for match.com and actually liked it- sure she met a few douche bags but because she was smarter she would just cut off contact immediately with them.
You are very young girl- my mom was 48 when she divorced- and now she’s 51 and I know she’s dating someone but isn’t telling me… Probably afraid I’ll scare them off lol
If she can do it so can you! She started dating I’d say almost three years after her divorce.
Awww… I have to say, I miss having crushes. That was the best thing about being single and dating, crushes. Nothing like someone getting you worked up because they did something stupid like writing you a note or texting you
You’re a fabulous person, you’ll def find someone equally as fabulous to grown old with
Some really, REALLY lucky man out there is feeling the same way; lonely, a bit lost, and wondering where his Ms. Right is. Lucky for him you are free! When the time is right, you WILL meet each other. Don’t ever doubt it!
awe…hugs…you are NOT old…LOL I am 44! LOL Some days I feel really old! LOL He is out there, he just needs to find YOU!
It’s okay to be alone. Being alone doesn’t always mean lonely. I’m older than you, never married and haven’t been on a date in years… and I’m not unhappy at all. You find things to fill your life.
I figure if I really wanted a man, I’d go get one so I must not really want one. A rental would be good though.. soemone to go to do things with, have a date for holidays.. etc. But until one comes alogn that isn’t more pain than he is worth, I’ll be a cat lady!
It does sound like you’re getting ready in your mind to meet a man for another chapter of your life. I do think online dating is a good option if you work & are busy & don’t have a lot of new people you come into contact with daily otherwise (of course I met my husband online, so I’m biased!). If you do go online, keep your expectations in check & try to avoid a few pitfalls - don’t chat or email for a long time w someone — move quickly to a first date (coffee, drink, something short) so that you don’t tie up your time & emotions on something that is really artifical. Meet the guy, then decide. Also, don’t plan on meeting “Mr Right” nor be turned off by all internet dating based on a few bad dates or liars that you might meet. What I did (and what I counsel to my friends) is to set a certain number of dates you’ll go on before you re-evaluate if you’re going to stay w the online dating service. My number was 10, I have friends who’ve done 5 or 20. I told myself I’d at least have 10 stories to tell over drinks with girlfriends — and I did have a few! My husband was number 7, I never got to 10, and I only saw #8 once (a few days after I met my husband) because it was serious fast w him….
Much less interesting & important : on alterations. I do think that doing alterations of high-quality clothing (especially professional stuff) is a better deal than buying new, even as we shrink. I have several things that I need to take in, I’m waiting for my surgery belly swelling to go down (and to get closer to going back to work & actually wearing such items). It’s also kind of normal that they get baggy fast - most tailors alter things to your current body - whereas when you go shopping while you’re losing weight you might buy pants that are too tight, hoping to fit into them in a few pounds, then they last through about 10 pounds, then they are a bit too baggy for another 5 and then they don’t work at all. In general w alterations you are skipping the ‘too tight to wear in public but they zip’ part and starting straight away at “fits well’…