Comments for Oh RubyJean

Comment on Leaving on a jet plane by round

round — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 08:42:29 +0000

As a fellow expat, I had been thinking that maybe a trip home would do you a world of good.

It sounds like a nice opportunity to take a break from the stresses in your ‘real’ life (even if caretaking of your mom & aunt might give some different stresses). It sounds like the kind of trip you’ll remember fondly for years to come (and maybe it will be peppered with a few funny stories too…).

I hope the trip gives you the opportunity to see things from a new perspective, recharge your batteries, and re-think a few things.

My suggestion is to put all dieting officially on hold until you get back. Sounds like you’re not doing the action but feeling guilty about it - so letting go of the guilt and enjoying being back in S Africa for a few weeks guilt-free could really help. When you come back you can decide if you’re ready to recommit or not, and at what level.

Comment on Still here. Still Trying by iniya

iniya — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 09:51:59 +0000

Hi Ruby,

I logged in after a long while here. Good to see you. Hope you come back too.

Lots of love,

iniya

Comment on Still here. Still Trying by lynard

lynard — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 16:03:49 +0000

Hi Ruby,
I’m trying to get back into the swing of logging on here. Glad to see you’re still blogging periodically. When I joined Facebook, I kind of dropped the ball here.

Comment on Still here. Still Trying by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 06:34:28 +0000

*sitting quietly in her corner awaiting the return of
Ms. Rubyjean*

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoox

Comment on Still here. Still Trying by round

round — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 18:15:40 +0000

Hi, I’m so glad to see you still fighting, still here.

We definitely miss your voice around these parts.

hugs hugs hugs

Comment on Still here. Still Trying by anngirl

anngirl — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 18:31:22 +0000

My goodness Ms. Rubyjean is it GOOD To see you back here if only for a moment.

do come back and let us know how you’ve been doing.

you are sorely missed honey!

xoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Still here. Still Trying by brseay

brseay — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 10:32:23 +0000

Hey, good to see you back See you tomorrow.

Comment on Lost…a bunch of things…but not weight! by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 00:24:04 +0000

Hi ya darlin -

wonderin’ what you’re up to and how you’ve been.

Miss ya Ms. RJ.

Much love to you xoxooxxo

Comment on Lost…a bunch of things…but not weight! by round

round — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 19:40:23 +0000

Sending another hug to you - thinking of you my dear

Comment on Lost…a bunch of things…but not weight! by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 04:47:08 +0000

Love to ya Ms. Rubyjean -

Just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you and wishing you the very best day after day
xoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxox

Comment on Lost…a bunch of things…but not weight! by ravengirl

ravengirl — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 21:01:20 +0000

Hey Rubes!

Good to see ya! I know, I have been treading water myself…I just looked back a little bit through my own blog and I have…bottom line…like gained 4 pds since I started the blog. Yeah, it has been over a year and I have made no progress in that area. But, I have also managed to go off meds and stay off, I am recovering from my sugar addiction, I am deepening my spirituality, I am living my life…even if I feel like I am sometimes just treading water, I AM NOT DROWNING! And neither are you and that is the most important thing!
Take care…miss you…
Raven

Comment on Lost…a bunch of things…but not weight! by anngirl

anngirl — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 21:37:57 +0000

Hey ya Ms. RJ - good to see you sweetheart.
No worries, guess we’re all ‘trying’ one way or another or perhaps we’re the ones who are ‘trying’ on other folks last nerve - who knows!

Me, I’m finally gonna see a shrink and get a less leaker inner tube. The last two weeks mine has really nearly collapsed and by golly my mouth is still salty from drinking all of that sea water.

It’s time to call in the troops.

Hmmm, don’t know what to say about your ‘burst’ - I enjoyed it and wish I had one myself. But what I don’t like is that it’s gone away and now seemingly we’re back to square one.

Well hang in there darlin’ - know that you are loved, cherished and thought of often.

Do come back and let us know how you’re doing from time to time. I’ve been quite amiss myself but have been ‘trying’ so to speak.

Love ya xx00×0x0×0x0×0x0×0x00×0x0×0x0×0x0×0x0x

Comment on Thursday by anngirl

anngirl — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 20:15:08 +0000

Hi ya Ms. RJ -

Just a hug and a smile to tell you that you are sorely missed
xoxoxoxoxoxooxxoxo

Comment on Thursday by feathers

feathers — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 03:59:21 +0000

Hey Ruby
how hard it must be for all of your family. I think I know how you feel about your girls. I love Poss so much but sometimes she just drives me nuts, but she’s good and kind and happy and got all the right survival traits and none of the self-destructive urges that you sometimes see in a 20 year old and I love her so much but sometimes it all gets nutzo here.

Hope the baking all goes well.

Comment on Thursday by round

round — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:37:31 +0000

Sending you virtual hugs ((( )))

Comment on Thursday by anngirl

anngirl — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 01:53:36 +0000

hey ya ms. darlin
Just wanted to say hello xo

Comment on Thursday by round

round — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 08:14:17 +0000

Just another one checking in on you - how was the cooking and the visit?

Hugs

Comment on Thursday by Joy

Joy — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 10:37:24 +0000

Ruby
You doing okay??? have not seen you in a while. I hope you are doing well.
Take care
Joy

Comment on Thursday by iniya

iniya — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:07:11 +0000

Hi Ruby,

I am so sorry to hear the sad news about your nephew.

Hope you enjoyed the weekend with your daughter.

Lots of love and a big hug,

iniya

Comment on Thursday by anngirl

anngirl — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:27:28 +0000

Hey ya Ms. RJ -

How are you doing? I’m thinking of you
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Thursday by anngirl

anngirl — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 23:15:47 +0000

Hope you’re havin a great time with your baby girl Glad to hear the P is keeping you afloat although not particularly thrilled - but you are right - wanting to get up is a big step from pulling your blankets over your head. Small steps no?

Hope by now your home is smelling of rusks and hot tea

Take Care Ms. Rubyjean
xo

Comment on Thursday by ravengirl

ravengirl — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 15:25:29 +0000

Oh Rubes… I am so sorry for your family’s loss… I just stopped in to check on you and bam…I am so sorry… I have been really busy, I have been getting more dogwalking assignments…which is great and I am getting a lot of exercise but my weight is still stuck…I think it is simply my calories. I am still working the Radiant Recovery program for sugar sensitivity but I need to find a balance that will allow me to drop weight… I have been seeing adds for the anti-d you are on, I really hope it helps. I was on “P” for a little over a year and it was just the help that I needed when I needed it. Feel better Girlie…big hugs…

Comment on Some times by Joy

Joy — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 11:10:58 +0000

Are you doing okay? I hope so. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Hope to see you back here soon.

Comment on Some times by ellabella

ellabella — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 12:22:36 +0000

Oh, here I am a day (month?) late and a dollar short as they say. I will never get life quite figured out, I’m afraid. All the whys and wherefores. I know mine hasn’t gone anywhere near where I expected it to, and now I’m wondering how the devil I managed to get where I am now. I’m sad for you - and your family - about your nephew’s troubled life, and now his passing before it could get better. The human condition sure could use a major overhaul. Ahhh, I’ve been thinking about you, dear woman. I hope you’re feeing better.
Warm hugs,
Z

Comment on Some times by anngirl

anngirl — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 02:11:58 +0000

Hi Rubyjean,

Missin you honeybunch - hope you’re doing well
Come back when you get a chance…
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Some times by islandgrl

islandgrl — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 06:59:58 +0000

Sorry about your nephew Rubes. I lost my 18 yrs old niece five years ago. She was killed in a car accident. Still hurts.
Good for you on the “mood enhancer” as annie calls it. I too am on that route, and doing better. At least as annie again says, no salt water in the lungs.
xoxoxo

Comment on Some times by round

round — Sun, 31 May 2009 18:23:30 +0000

I am very sorry to hear about the tragic decline and loss of your nephew. Even when people are troubled and causing pain to others it doesnt lessen the impact of losing them.

You & your family are in my thoughts.

Comment on Some times by tjnorth

tjnorth — Fri, 29 May 2009 01:12:57 +0000

So sad when someone you love dies at what feels like their lowest point. I have had a similar time in my family…what comfort I could find came from believing that he had demons no one else had ever seen, and despite the sorrow we all felt, at least he was free of them now.

Comment on Some times by anngirl

anngirl — Fri, 22 May 2009 15:03:06 +0000

So good to see you again Ms. RJ.

I’m so sorry about your nephew. I can appreciate your loving memories of him despite the horrible way things have been recently. I’m also comforted by the fact that your sister is surrounded with love to help her through this terrible time.

Honoring his memory and remembering him for the best things are truly the way to go.

I’m so glad that you’ve got your own little ‘mood enhancer’ that keeps you afloat. Yeah, you’re right - it’ aint no utopia. But after all, as long as we’re floating - it’s better than having that salt water burn our lungs.

I’ve got my ‘floater’ on as well.

So happy to see you again Ms. RJ. If you can stay awhile. I’ve missed you terribly.

My best to you.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Some times by Joy

Joy — Thu, 21 May 2009 10:14:03 +0000

Wow I am so sorry for the very hard times your family is going through. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Joy

Comment on Some times by feathers

feathers — Thu, 21 May 2009 05:40:58 +0000

That was so sad. I am still picturing the sweet little boy with his “fisherman’s boots” on. Adults become whole other people who can mess their lives and the lives around them, but we were all cute little kids once. I hope your sister is okay.

I was thinking also about your “vanity” blog. It made me think of two of my buddies. Evil Twin is a couple of inches shorter than me, and although nicely curvy, certainly never what I’d call “fat”. GrannyGirl is my height and I’ve always thought she was more or less my weight.

Recently Evil Twin told me that she and GrannyGirl weigh the same. A good 20kg (about 44lbs) less than me. Yep. There’s my vanity, right there. I know how you felt. Sometimes belief is just not enough to sustain the reality around us.

Comment on Oh RubyJean, who are you, anyway? by stillclock

stillclock — Thu, 21 May 2009 00:03:50 +0000

i wish rubyjean lived down the street around the corner from where i live….

isolde

Comment on Some times by km25

km25 — Wed, 20 May 2009 22:19:35 +0000

That is really sad about your sister’s son. I’m sorry for your whole family.

I also wanted to say that I am starting Pristiq in a couple of days- I’m weaning off of Cymbalta, another anti-depressant, and then switching to Pristiq. I’ll be interested how it continues to make you feel, and how it will do for me!

Comment on A Setback by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 19 May 2009 02:54:01 +0000

come back to the five and dime
Ruby Jean
Ruby Jean…

we miss you buttercup!
xoxooxoxxo

Comment on A Setback by islandgrl

islandgrl — Mon, 11 May 2009 10:26:58 +0000

I echo what everyone else says. We are much more conscious of our weight than others, so they don’t see the weight difference they look at coloring etc.
And you are a very attractive woman, I too have seen pictures.
So cheer up baby, you are dynamite

Comment on A Setback by anngirl

anngirl — Sun, 10 May 2009 15:51:05 +0000

Happy Mother’s Day sweet RJ -
Have a fanastic day today and everyday.

You are wonderful and I am so happy to know you love ya!
xoxooxxoxo

Comment on A Setback by ellabella

ellabella — Tue, 05 May 2009 19:22:08 +0000

Okay, I’m late commenting, behind in just about everything lately, but wanted to play a little catch-up hereabouts. Ann-girl is right, of course. It’s more about coloring, hairstyle, etc., than it is about weight - that mistaking you for someone else stuff, I mean. But don’t forget, luv, that we’ve seen pictures of you - and I’m thinking of one taken not so very long ago with your girls - and you are, in fact, a a very attractive woman, RJ. No, you’re not a size ONE, but nobody really is, after all. I’m afraid that you see yourself in a much harsher light than the rest of the world does. Throw away that oversized top that you don’t like anyway, immediately! (I am the fashion police!) You’re a lovely woman…even DH said so when I showed him the picture. So there.
Love,
Z

Comment on A Setback by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 05 May 2009 04:08:00 +0000

I feel ya Ms. RJ because it happens to me all the time. There’s this gal in another building that people always get me confused with and lookin’ at her I peg her to be a good 40 pounds heavier than me but more than a few folks have called me her name on numerous occasions. Now, you’re right at first you feel like utter (*&^ - then you realize that it’s not the case. Because her hair is curly like mine, she’s a mix like me and she’s about my height - it seems to be a common mistake.

I don’t think it’s superiority - rather you are acutely aware of how much of a weight difference there is between you and your pal. Those of us who are agonized by this always can peg weight rather accurately. So don’t be so hard on yourself otay?

Don’t let it propel you into the land of horrible eating and a downward spiral - trust me wasted a good 4 pounds on this myself the first day I heard someone call me by her name.

The bottom line is that folks sometimes do that - they don’t see the 40 pounds rather they see what’s similar in hair, skin color, height and in your case : similar dress and it’s an easy for them to make a mistake.

So please, don’t let this bother you. At the rate you’re going with your mindful eating and exercise - you are on your way to looking like you want to be and feeling much healthier.

A bum day - that’s what it was and guess what - tomorrow is a new day full of good things for you Ms. RJ.

Don’t let it pass you by otay?

Sending you tons of hugs and lots of kisses.

((((((HHHHHUUUUUGGGGGSSSSSSSS))))))

Comment on A Setback by paperskin

paperskin — Mon, 04 May 2009 15:06:39 +0000

Instead of using this as a set back, could you turn it around, and use this as a motivation to lose weight.. that you will do whatever it takes not be confused for your friend EVER again. By the way, if you dress how you feel, then you will continue to feel that way. You have HAVE have to force yourself sometimes to make yourself look good.. not for the outside world, but for yourself. Especially on days when you are down.

Comment on Well what do you know… by anngirl

anngirl — Fri, 01 May 2009 17:27:51 +0000

Hiya Ms. RJ -

I’m so happy to hear you are happy!!! You are right - moderation and sensible eating.

Now when I apply it to my life - I’ll let you know!

Take care sweetpea!
xo

Comment on Well what do you know… by round

round — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 20:34:08 +0000

Grrr I hate reading that you’re being so hard on yourself. Sounds like you are making more good choices than bad ones.

I had a doctor friend (cardiologist) say something to me about exercise that really helped shift my mindset - that dieting is to lose weight, and exercise is different - it’s helping on all kinds of levels in the body (metabolic, cardiac, etc) and that they are not in balance - it’s not one or the other or negating one by what happens with the other, but rather that each is important but in different ways. Made me much more at peace w exercise as a goal in itself, and not for the ‘fat burning’ or ‘calorie burning’ effects of it (which are minor compared to controlling your diet).

Anyway, hope it brings you some of the peace it brought me…

Comment on Well what do you know… by Joy

Joy — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 11:21:34 +0000

I love chicken salad as well. I make mine with chicken breast, light Hellmans, Djon mustard, a ton of celery, a bit of green onions, white pepper, and the tiniest pinch of curry powder. I put it in 1/2 of a whole wheat pita with lots of arugula. YUMMO and not too many points.

Comment on Well what do you know… by ellabella

ellabella — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 02:14:18 +0000

Oh, I LOVE chicken salad!!! I make mine with white breast meat, chopped celery, lite Miracle whip and black pepper. Oh, yum! I don’t see how it can be that many calories - or points, or whatever you happen to be counting. Nice to come upon your post, tho…been missing you, RJ…
Hugs,
Z

Comment on Just…….Do It! by anngirl

anngirl — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 15:30:15 +0000

Howdy Ms. RJ -

How are you doin’? Miss ya hon!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

Comment on Just…….Do It! by round

round — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 08:50:41 +0000

so glad to hear that you seem to have found the groove of ENJOYING the exercise, adjusting to the diet, and resigning yourself to the life…

Keep up the great attitude!

Comment on A pat on the back… by round

round — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 08:49:20 +0000

I thought I was alone in being annoyed with all the first suggestions from weight watchers being the branded processed foods! I HATE it. I also hate how slow and heavy the site is. I too am not finding much fun in tracking points, although I force myself to do it a few days a week.

I also dont think the forums are very good and generally have been under-whelmed. I joined largely because of some behavioral change tools that I confess to not having used…

I’m not sure how long I’ll continue with it.

Comment on Just…….Do It! by feathers

feathers — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 02:08:16 +0000

Yes. Yes you can. You can do it. It’s such a great feeling when you know in your heart that you can.

Comment on Just…….Do It! by tjnorth

tjnorth — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 00:01:45 +0000

Hang on to that feeling and pull it out when you need it, because that feeling comes from deep inside. So much about modern life seems designed to force us to doubt ourselves and tie ourselves up in knots. That’s the external crap that just lands on us - that feeling of ownership and rightness is a true original feeling.

Comment on Just…….Do It! by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 02:41:59 +0000

How’s it goin’ hon?

I love moments like that when during a sea of tumultuous crap (my life thank you) you suddenly feel a ray of sun against your cheek that says - you’re gonna be alright hon.

You’re right tho ms. rj - chew it up in manageable pieces.

Love ya!
xo

Comment on Just…….Do It! by ellabella

ellabella — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 12:02:31 +0000

I’ve had a couple of those epiphanic(?) feelings myself from time to time. I remember one, in particular, when I was out jogging around the park just following my divorce from husband #1 - I suddenly felt powerful and capable of anything…hummed “I am woman, hear me roar…” for the whole remainder of my jog. We should really have these feelngs more often, because we really CAN do it, you know. All we have to do is make up our minds…

Comment on Manageable Pieces by Angel

Angel — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 01:24:07 +0000

I’m catching up on your post. Gosh, we are two peas in a pod! I loathe tracking things daily, whether it be calories/points or dollars. I chalk this up to my independent/creative nature, of course. For me, the trick is to be obsessive about tracking until it comes naturally; then, I just sort of live and count as I go. Every once in a while, I go back to the obsessive tracking just to stay on top of things. But, that’s just me.
Hope you’re doing great this week! XOXO - Angel

Comment on Manageable Pieces by Bobbie

Bobbie — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 01:25:59 +0000

Hey RubyJean

Where are you. Come out come out wherever you are! We miss you!

Comment on Manageable Pieces by ellabella

ellabella — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:51:18 +0000

I took an unexpectedly brisk walk today myself - against my will. Went to a meeting across town (in a cab) and when we got out, there were no cabs to be found and we just kept walking, hoping to see one. We never did, and I was SOOOO miserable - cold, and in dress boots NOT made for distance walking. Other than that (which, surprisingly, didn’t cause me to have a heart attack or some sort of nasty sprain) I have done very little exercise this week, and I am in AWE of you, Ruby Jean!
Hugs,
Z

Comment on Manageable Pieces by chel

chel — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 04:26:59 +0000

I love that machine. It would be the reason I would join a gym again. Good job on the organizing. You got me started on it and now my house is torn apart.:) One of these days, I’ll keep things organized.
I sent ya an email, in case ya didn’t get it. Let me know.

Comment on Manageable Pieces by islandgrl

islandgrl — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 07:38:29 +0000

Slow and steady wins the race. Progress is being made and in your time, you are doing great Rubes.
Great job on the exercise!

Comment on Manageable Pieces by anngirl

anngirl — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 23:19:41 +0000

You’re doin’ a GREAT job Ms. RJ - it all takes time…but you’ve started and that’s the most important thing. It’s even better that you’re doing your exercising and your conscious about the tracking game.

* sucks * I know I’m up to it to right now.

Hang in there Ms. RJ - little steps to the goal.
Goodness knows…
xoxooxxooxxooxxooxxoxoxoxo

Comment on Manageable Pieces by lynard

lynard — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 17:47:39 +0000

Your exercise sounds great for this week. Nice going. I can’t get my heart rate much higher than 140 on the eliptical..but I did about 3.3 miles last time i WAS ON.

Comment on A pat on the back… by Bobbie

Bobbie — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 02:45:27 +0000

Ruby Jean How is the organizing going? I think it’s great that you are doing this! Check in and let us know how you are! Hugs

Comment on A pat on the back… by tjnorth

tjnorth — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 01:16:42 +0000

aaah, family. Sometimes it doesn’t matter what you do, you can’t keep ahead of the drama/interactions/plain old stuff. Just try to keep hold of your own place and needs….even though you love them forever, you can’t make them change or be happier. So pay attention to yourself.

Also, can you come fix my home office?

Comment on A pat on the back… by anngirl

anngirl — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 23:57:21 +0000

A pat indeed and a GIANT hug from me for being so doggone in control of stuff.

Girl, you’re one to be admired and emulated.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxox

Comment on A pat on the back… by ravengirl

ravengirl — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 20:10:04 +0000

Hey Rubes!
Thanks for the support (as always) I am happy right now, well I would be better if I wasn’t sick but I finally feel like I may have figured out the cause of the weight creep and am getting a handle on it. Plus, I think the decrease in exercise was not helping me…I need it but I need the stillness to balance it…that was what was missing before I think. Also, my MIL is here and we have been really busy…our DVR went toes up and we are still dealing with the ramifications! Ugh! Take care Girlie! Stay strong…
Raven

Comment on A pat on the back… by ellabella

ellabella — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 09:58:35 +0000

Morning, Ruby J. Ah. Organization. It’s something I’m not particularly good at myself. I know where my money stands at all times, but that’s about it. All that other stuff…oh, ugh. Now you’ve reminded me, I suppose I ought to start thinking about it. DH keeps things neatly organized in file folders - insurance policies, all that good stuff. I rarely bother with any of it, and I should.
Oh, the drama. Always the drama with families. All families. Not just yours. Maybe it’s just the stuff of life - something to boost the adrenalin levels on a regular basis. With my ex-H, it seemed like I was always just living from crisis to crisis, because most of them centered on him. Now, life is a little smoother for me, but that’s not to say it’s entirely smooth. I don’t think anybody’s is, really.
I’ve been eating stupidly, too. It annoys me, even as I’m eating the forbidden item. Tsk.
Spring. Nice.
Love,
Z

Comment on A pat on the back… by chel

chel — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 11:27:14 +0000

Super duper! Good job! Sorry so much drama. I really really don’t like drama and tend to distance myself from it as much as possible… probably even when I should be in the middle of it all. I hope you had a pleasant day. Sunshine can brighten many a gloomy thoughts! Especially when it’s shining in on your nice clean and organized hard work!

Comment on A pat on the back… by lynard

lynard — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 00:39:23 +0000

Good for you…you deserve to pat yourself on the back..the idea to have your mother write out her thoughts is a good one.

Comment on A pat on the back… by gottaloose4

gottaloose4 — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 23:35:25 +0000

yay to being organized, once it’s all complete it’s funny how suddenly you get this warm fuzzy feeling that you didn’t even know existed with something so small but significant with a clean desk.

i heard that the WW site wasn’t as helpful as it should be, sorry you had to “waste” $39 to discover that. i wonder if we could put in suggestions to WW customer service to be more user friendly, or at least helpful, and if we could would it even really do anything?

boo to family drama, hope things start to settle, i’ll pray for you guys.

http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/gottaloose4/

Comment on Not yet… by espencer

espencer — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 19:35:41 +0000

Look at Dotti’s weight loss zone - all kinds of points values for restaurants. http://www.dwlz.com/

Comment on Not yet… by chel

chel — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 13:56:28 +0000

It takes a lot of doin’. I end up needing to organize something at least once a week. It gets too frustrating to try to do everything at once. That’s how I used to do it. But it never lasted long at all… and I got a useless type feeling. Now, I take about 10 minutes a day to organize something, like a cupboard or drawers. And I usually take about 10 minutes to look over bills and paperwork. If I don’t in a couple of days I have to spend a half a day re-organizing. But that initial organizing frenzy is enough to kill a gal. And when it comes to money, it’s so much more difficult to face. I have no doubt you and Neil can get through this!

Comment on Not yet… by islandgrl

islandgrl — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 12:23:30 +0000

You will get there, one day at a time.
Not an easy thing to do, but you are a strong woman and you will do it.
Gosh when I see what it took for you to pack up and move to the US, h*ll Rubes, I think you can do anything…you are super girl!

Comment on Good Morning (yawn) by anngirl

anngirl — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 06:12:41 +0000

You’re doing BIG thangs! As they say Ms. RJ!

I’m proud of you because I know it takes a lot to stop thinking about change and actually make it happen! I also love that DH is in it too! Two heads are better than one!

Great job darlin’!
xoxoxoxo

Comment on Good Morning (yawn) by ellabella

ellabella — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 22:22:34 +0000

Well, I guess all that stuff has to get done, but for sure not all at once! A little at a time, I’d say. Oh yes - do it together, and then you can take yourselves out for a celebratory night on the town when you finish. All that work deserves a nice reward to look forward to, yes?
Hugs,
Z

Comment on A little progress… by Bobbie

Bobbie — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 05:41:04 +0000

You know, listening to Otis Redding does me some good. I found that several artists have recorded Try and Little Tenderness and NONE of them do it justice like Otis does. Just a sidebar and my humble opinion. Have you heard other versions?

Ruby pat yourself on the back and accept this big hug from me. You are doing a great job and taking huge steps. That is great. The first few are the hardest. Do whatever it takes to make YOU feel comfortable and safe.

Comment on A little progress… by islandgrl

islandgrl — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 07:10:10 +0000

Big steps Rubes, major steps….good for you.
Not easy to do…I too have always done the books and all the bill paying in the house. Have done so since the day we moved in together 10 years ago.
Just last week, I gave up the reins and am “allowing” him to take over some of the bills…scary for me. Cause I am the classic control freak, but I am also tired of always doing it all..
Now I just have to grit my teeth and “allow” him to do what needs to be done…

Comment on A little progress… by ellabella

ellabella — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 13:09:39 +0000

Oh, yes, Ruby M’dear. I know that I’ve always felt better KNOWING where I stood rather than assuming that I knew, and assuming the worst. I don’t think that men (unless they are financiers) have the same priorities as women, who are after all, the hub of the family wheel, you might say.I think we’ve been managing so many things for so long that managing money is second nature to us. And of course there’s a bit of the control freak in me as well, so I’ve never been comfortable with (either one of my) husbands managing MY money. You’ll feel better once you see exactly what you’re dealing with, and are able to make a plan for going forward. BIG step, indeed. Good going,darlin’ -
Hugs,
Z

Comment on A little progress… by anngirl

anngirl — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 01:13:51 +0000

Wow, this is awesome Ms. RJ. It’s definitely a step in the right direction. CAN YOU IMAGINE what will happen when you get ‘unstuck’? Shoot girl.
A lot of wonderful things …

I wouldn’t characterize this a small step missy - this is a GIANT move towards resolving this issue.

Wow. It’s a good day Ms. RJ.

A doggone GREAT day!
xo

Comment on A little progress… by ellabella

ellabella — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 13:03:42 +0000

I need to see if this shows up. I’ve tried to comment twice, and twice it hasn’t appeared. Grrr.

Comment on A little progress… by brseay

brseay — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 22:18:40 +0000

This isn’t a little progress, it’s huge progress. Many times it turns out that once you face your fear it wasn’t as big as you were thinking it might be. I know for me as long as I’m feeling somewhat in control and have a plan I know I can fix things. It won’t happen overnight but you’ll get things figured out.

Comment on Ruby’s fear…why I am stuck… by Bobbie

Bobbie — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 19:35:39 +0000

Ruby - it is all the things you said and more. While money doesn’t buy happiness it does make things easier. Unless you have too much money then everyone wants some and hates you for what you have. I do the bills/accounting in our house. My hubby is horrible at it and would have us over a barrel. Maybe you could do the bills together. I update my hubby on an almost daily basis on how things are. I have also started selling things we don’t need either on line or at garage sales. You can always look at a debt consolidation business to help out. Once you take control, I think you will feel better. And I think you are feeling what most of us are feeling right now, like we have a noose around our necks and are not sure how to untie it. You are not alone.

Hugs!

Comment on Ruby’s fear…why I am stuck… by brseay

brseay — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 22:01:13 +0000

I don’t know that you can ever get past it but I try to approach life by worrying about what I can control and letting go of what I can’t. My hubby was laid off when I was pregnant w/our younger son, almost 3 1/2 years ago. He decided to finish his college degree and will graduate this May. Sadly, our local school district (he’s a teaching major) is in a financial bind so there really aren’t teaching jobs. I have been fortunate to get some serious raises over the years so we have been able to keep our home through cautious penny pinching and hopefully the end is in sight. Even though I stress out when I look at our bank accounts I realize that we are still probably better off than many people our age. We’re doing the best we can in a bad situation and that’s all we can do.

It sounds like you are also making the best out of a not-so-great situation. Kind of like the scale after a good binge, sometimes the scariest part is facing the numbers. Avoiding your accounts won’t make the problem(s) go away, but if you don’t look at them you can’t fix them.

Sorry to ramble on and on but I feel a kinship with you over this situation. Good luck to you and hopefully when you decide to look at the numbers it won’t be as bad as you think.

Comment on Just quickly… by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 03:52:44 +0000

Awww shucks - love happy endings! Especially FAMILY happy endings. So glad you helped Mom get on the right track - sometimes our elders get a bit distracted by the minutia.

Hope you had a lovely time with your daughter and shoot - I think you looking out for everyone is absolutely wonderful.

Never bossy, Ms. Ruby - NEVER.
xoxoxoxoxoxooxxo

Comment on Just quickly… by feathers

feathers — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 00:47:43 +0000

Bossy is working so well for you. You are the peacemaker and the healer.

Hope you enjoy those movies.

Comment on Just quickly… by ravengirl

ravengirl — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:49:47 +0000

Oh Rubes!!! That is great!!! I am so happy that your sister is realizing how important her relationship with your mother is. That will be a load of stress off you as well. Wow! I had some catching up to do! I have been away for awhile, I got a new job (dogwalking!!!yay!!!) and that has been keeping me busy! I am still fighting with the weight creep, I think it may be something as simple as mis judging my calories…hmmm This new way of eating I am doing for my sugar addiction is different than anything I have ever done before so I think if I focus on checking the calories for awhile I may get it under control. I have also added restorative yoga poses for an hr daily and they are working wonders for my sleep, my stress, and my pms! Maybe that might help for you? Sure is nice to catch up with you!!! Hugs!
Raven

Comment on Just quickly… by ellabella

ellabella — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 12:45:55 +0000

Oh, I’m so glad your sis gave in and did the right thing! Deep down, your mom is greatly relieved, no matter how she tries to avoid the issue. And, there’s nothing wrong with being bossy, RJ - after all, we DO know best ;-). Enjoy your weekend with that lovey Caroline of yours and bugger Weight Watcher points!
Hugs,
Z

Comment on Patterns…and we ain’t talkin’ paisley by islandgrl

islandgrl — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 12:58:01 +0000

I have really missed your blogs, so welcome back.
Families can be so heartbreaking
I am sure one day your sister will be so glad you deleted that email. And no reason for your mum to ever know..
I have a brother that will totally freeze you out if you do not “dance to his tune” he has not spoken to me for almost 5 years. I don’t care anymore, I don’t dance for him..
Woohoo on the extra cash, and more important for Caroline coming home.
xoxoxo

Comment on Patterns…and we ain’t talkin’ paisley by Joy

Joy — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 11:34:56 +0000

First off you did what you did out of love for your mom.
Second I LOVE that you are so in depth in your blog.
Third? Woohooo for the extra money in these hard times.
You have a wonderful day.
Joy

Comment on Patterns…and we ain’t talkin’ paisley by ellabella

ellabella — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 03:29:32 +0000

You just noticed THAT, my dear woman???? Why of COURSE Neil loves you. (That has come through loud and clear, you know.) And we all love you, too. But you knew that, as well. Ahhh. Such love between your mum and sis,too, with neither of them having a clue how to just relax and admit it,eh? Human relationships certainly do get tangled and complicated, don’t they? Well, a bonus check and Caroline all in one week - now that’s a real bonanza! So nice to read your words again, Ruby Jean. You have been sorely missed.
Hugs,
Z

Comment on Patterns…and we ain’t talkin’ paisley by Angel

Angel — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 03:14:43 +0000

#2 - unethical perhaps, but quite a loving thing you did for your mum. I was rooting for you to delete the email!

and second #2 - a bonus check during a recession? WOW! kudos to you!

Comment on Just for today… by feathers

feathers — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 22:23:29 +0000

I loved your story about your flowers, RubyJean. It’s all about patience and belief. For me, that’s what this whole process of weightloss is all about, too. There are years and years where we just don’t bloom, where we’re put out in the cold and nothing happens. Then that sunny windowsill comes along.

I’m wishing sunny windowsills for everyone.

Comment on Plants, Pots, Points by anngirl

anngirl — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 04:42:24 +0000

I enjoyed that story about the blooms - it was deep yet so simple at the same time. So much wrapped up in that story…
Definitely food for thought.

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Just for today… by Joy

Joy — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 11:28:41 +0000

Patty is right. I cant add to that advice.
That soup sounds delish. Do you use any kind of broth at all?
Joy

Comment on Just for today… by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 06:36:00 +0000

You had a fresh start today Meanwhile, your girl was busy eating candy, burping, poppin motrin, eating candy…

Yep, some folks have talent when it comes to not letting others know that they are hurting inside. I admire you for wanting to deal with the blues without meds and having come out of the dark myself a few years ago - I can say that it’s a process. More power to you Ms. RJ….

May you be peaceful - especially in the wee hours of the morn’…
xoxoxoxoxoxooxoxxoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Just for today… by patty

patty — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:56:03 +0000

Just do the best you can today, Ruby Jean, and let tomorrow take care of itself.

Hugs!

Comment on Accountability….hmmmmmm by Bobbie

Bobbie — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 05:11:30 +0000

Maybe you suffer from S.A.D. Have you talked to your doctor about that? It is common in the winter. It does get hard dealing with winter. Of course change is always hard and brings on additional stress. I love what you have done with your bathroom. It’s too bad the owners don’t want to invest in their investment. Who in the heck will ever want to buy a house with a crappy tile job? Cheap is not the best. But I do love the look of crisp white.

When my beloved Spiderman passed I was so heartbroken. I cried for days because I missed him so much. I had him 15 years and life without him was too quiet. Hubby went out and got me a new kitty to love. We rescued her and she has been a blessing. I am glad your friend found a new kitty and while it can’t replace the one she lost, it is wonderful that a kitty was saved.

Big hugs to you. Close your eyes and feel them.

Comment on Accountability….hmmmmmm by islandgrl

islandgrl — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 11:46:24 +0000

Spring is just around the corner Ruby so hang in there.
You have had a lot of changes in your life lately as well as a lot of stress: you lost your beloved Shelby, one of your chicks left the nest, problems with your mom when she went on her trip to SA, and then the job fears hanging over your hand.
No wonder you are fighting off the black waves of depression.
Be kind to yourself my friend…you are loved
xoxoxox

Comment on Accountability….hmmmmmm by ellabella

ellabella — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 05:20:36 +0000

I have attributed my own miserable and lethargic state of mind to this awful,long and heavy winter. Your plan for the bathroom sounds perfect, though - light and airy, and to heck with the pink! I once suffered through several years with that old retro tile in a shade of blue that clearly was discontinued before the damned flood, and I couldn’t find anything that would either match OR coordinate with it. That bathroom caused me ongoing discomfort because I’m a tad on the obsessive side about my surroundings. Things that strike a sour note tend to gnaw at me like a toothache until I find a solution. I’m glad your friend opted to rescue a new kitty after losing her old one. She’ll love it immediately and therefore will brighten her own life whilst saving another.
Spring aproaches, dear Ruby J, and we’ll all feel better once the flowers start to bloom.
Love,
Z

Comment on Accountability….hmmmmmm by tjnorth

tjnorth — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 03:20:43 +0000

You started me on a trip down memory land…’ugly rentals I have lived in’…the best was not one of mine, though, but a friend whose master bath was purple. Purple fixtures, purple walls, purple SHAG RUG…and not a soft, lavender but a definite purple. It was a mandatory stop on the house tour.

I found that St Johns Wort helped when other things didn’t. My doc was sceptical but I tried it anyway, and after about 2 weeks things started to lighten.

Honey, just keep reminding yourself it is just something that is happening to you, it is not coming from inside you, and that eventually it will ease. Hugs hugs hugs

Comment on Accountability….hmmmmmm by iniya

iniya — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 02:42:19 +0000

Hang on there! Things will get better.

I feel the depression might be due to the other physical problems you are having. Once they get resolved, you will anyway feel happier. You are working so much on that. You will get it.

Love,

iniya

Comment on Ruby is a grown-up by iniya

iniya — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 02:35:57 +0000

Ruby,

We have seen your photos. You look beautiful. Look at yourself with our eyes. You will see an incredibly sweet, wise and fun woman. I can understand why you are struggling though. You really were awesome hot in your old pictures. Yes, you may be strained and tired, no wonder you are with all that is going on. But just smile a little when looking at the mirror and remember something good that happened or something that you did well, and just watch the transformation.

I am doing the same and I am much more comfortable these days. Okay, I was never beautiful, so even a little improvement looks great to me. But I stopped bothering about the flaws. No one bothers about them, simply because they don’t care. As long as I am happy, upbeat, empathetic, funny, that’s all it takes to be attractive.

I agree with you on the instructor. You should not get hurt. Please be careful. I agree she has reasons, but her mind needs to be on the job.

Lots of love and hugs,

iniya

Comment on Gifts in unlikely places…. by iniya

iniya — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 02:14:34 +0000

Loved the article. It is such a blessing that I get to read you and have you as my friend.

Please do take care of yourself. We want our dearest Ruby to be healthy and strong.

Lots of love and a big hug,

Iniya

PS read up cryoablation. Hope things will improve after that. take care.

Comment on Accountability….hmmmmmm by patty

patty — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 21:48:44 +0000

Hang in there, Rubes! You know it’s gonna get better.

Been there with that ugly bathroom routine. My house is 60 years old. We did various “fixes” over the years. Chipped out the old pink and black octagon tiles (that one had every joint in my body screaming for three months!) and installed new ones. Replaced the pink toilet and the pink sink. Couldn’t get away from that ugly butt tub, though. I stared at that thing and tried to figure out how to make it look decent for years! Finally decided to bite the bullet last year and completely gutted the bathroom. Installed a beautiful white, extra deep tub, white toilet, white sink, and gorgeous new marble tile on all the walls and floor. It was sooo worth the wait!

Comment on Ruby is a grown-up by anngirl

anngirl — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 19:50:38 +0000

I am feeling you on the instructors - anyone can be an instructor. But there are few that ACTUALLY care about what they are teaching and understanding their students needs. Your friend’s Yoga class sounds like the BEST choice.

Yes, Ms. RJ you are way to hard on yourself. You know those days when you look good and you FEEL like you look good. That is how you normally look - sometimes we think that’s only a rare occasion.

Geez, growin’ up just ain’t easy to do
xoxo

Comment on Accountability….hmmmmmm by anngirl

anngirl — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 19:37:32 +0000

She lost a life, but she saved another… how lovely is that? I’m all for it. Losing a pet, as we all know is devastating - but if you find yourself in a space to open your heart to another creature - it’s a beautiful thing.

I have to say that your additions to the bathroom sound wonderful. I like that you’re making the gray a part of the decor and white sounds crisp and clean. You’ve got an eye! Even despite that those crazy retro colours.

So happy you’re getting in the swing of things again Ms. RJ. It’s distressing that the meds aren’t working, sometimes they can help a bit but it takes a while to get them moving in the system. I think though that you’ve narrowed down the source of most of the discomfort and you’re working to make your body a place that you enjoy living in.

I’ve been acutely aware of my jowls, jelly jiggle and wonder when I’ll REALLY get it together myself….

Here’s to taking it one step at a time and getting pleasure from the small things - like baking rusks because you know your family likes it.

That’s love and you know it flows back….

Bring on the flood!
xoxoxoxox

Comment on Gifts in unlikely places…. by lynard

lynard — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 20:48:04 +0000

Thanks for sharing the article. Lent always brings me inward musings. Sometimes I feel like I get to the first sentence of the Nicene Creed and can’t really go any further because of my doubts. I like the word searching instead of doubt myself. I am definitly still searching. I did go to church on Ash Wednesday and found myself quite moved by the sermon and service. I am joining a Lenten book study group - we are going to read “The Shack” and I’ve heard it’s quite powerful.
Lyn

Comment on Ruby is a grown-up by tjnorth

tjnorth — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 15:53:16 +0000

Funny how hard it is to be ‘real’ about ourselves, sometimes, isn’t it? In my head, I am a 6′ tall, blonde, amazon…hah. In pictures I am a short bloated woman with changing bushy hair and a really unhappy looking mouth. In the real world I am something else again (tbd)…lol.

Comment on Ruby is a grown-up by ellabella

ellabella — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 23:19:44 +0000

Y’know, Ruby J., sometimes I think you’re just a little too hard on yourself. I have seen your pictures, dearest, and you really are quite a lovely woman. Of course, strained and tired is one thing, but when you were enjoying yourself with your girls, you were positively glowing! Yes, of course you’re a grown-up, but there’s still a wonderfully impish grin lurking about and waiting to pop out. But I won’t invalidate your feelings - we all do a bit of struggling with the age business, and adjusting to a more mature sort of beauty than we once had can be challenging. I know that when I look at my lovely adult daughters (who are a good bit older than yours, of course) I can’t help but feel a bit overripe myself. Funny thing is, it’s all good. You’ll see. I promise.
Love,
Z

Comment on Ruby is a grown-up by lanvin

lanvin — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 20:02:20 +0000

Hi ~ if it helps, I try to remember that we can’t control the outcome, just the steps! Hang in there!

Comment on Gifts in unlikely places…. by Joy

Joy — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 12:27:29 +0000

Thank you for sharing that article Ruby.
Paper whites are soooo pretty! That will look so nice on your desk in full bloom.
I hope that your back feels better.
Joy

Comment on Gifts in unlikely places…. by anngirl

anngirl — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 08:12:40 +0000

Yikes - you and I were thinking about faith at the same time.

Spooky really
I’m happy to hear you are taking care of health issues - anything Ms. RJ to keep that pep in your step. Goodness, I didn’t know you were suffering so - giant (((((HHHHHUUUUUGGGGGSSSSSS)))))!

Yep, I also have a very very complicated relationship with faith. I doubt it will ever be easy. I pray every night yet refuse to ascribe completely to any faith.

But you know RJ - like you said - what you feel inside is what counts and whatever gets you through the rough spells with your dignity intact is worth the effort.

Spirituality which brings one peace, comfort and support is whatever we choose it to be.

It’s a beautiful thing and sometimes we just need to get in touch with it again….

Sounds like we’re moving in the same direction right now
On many different levels.

love to ya Ms. RJ….
xo

Comment on Gifts in unlikely places…. by Bobbie

Bobbie — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 07:11:09 +0000

RubyJean thank you so very very much for sharing that article with us. I felt so moved by it. It is good to realize that even saints have doubts and are just like the rest of us. I know God has a plan for us and I think we get spoiled sometimes and take Him for granted. Lucky for us, he patiently waits for us.

Love the deal that you got on the paperwhites. I hope the at home one is doing as well as the office one.

I hope you’re feeling better soon and you get your spring back in your step soon. I’m glad to hear you’re taking care of you.

Huge hugs

Comment on Gifts in unlikely places…. by Angel

Angel — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 20:49:26 +0000

RubyJean! I’ve missed you, too! Thanks for your comment today. Just this week, I’ve been thinking about shutting down my 3FC account. Honestly, one of the reasons I haven’t done so is that I feel incredibly connected to your blog. Thank you for writing from the heart and sharing what is important in the monotony of life. I think I’ll go write a new entry now.

Comment on When You Just Smile… by islandgrl

islandgrl — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 11:45:32 +0000

Don’t stay away Ruby, we miss you so much

Comment on When You Just Smile… by Bobbie

Bobbie — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 04:50:45 +0000

Hey Rubyjean
Thank you for the nice words. I dropped out for a while too. I think it happens. Falling slowing off the face of the E
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But it’s great when we come back and when others come back. You know how much you were missed and girly, you have been.

You have so many things to do. They all sound like fun. I have been “crocheting” too. Making scarves. It’s good practice and keeps my hands busy. I love the idea of the book. I think Costco online provides that service too. Funny, my daughter and I were talking about book ideas tonight and ta da you are already all over it. The pie class sounds very comforting. I think there is nothing at all wrong with pie. You just have to share and can’t eat the whole thing. But you can always have pie. There are no NO foods.

Your blood pressure is great and I am glad it is staying stable. That is important. My gf and I always called our time of the month GEORGE. No one ever knew what we were talking about. LOL!

Keep up your good work. I know it’s hard to feel up when you are feeling down. But that’s what we are for - to hold each other up and celebrate each other.

Hugs to you!

Comment on When You Just Smile… by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 04:28:22 +0000

Sending you love Ms. RJ. xoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on When You Just Smile… by anngirl

anngirl — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 23:03:42 +0000

Oh my goodness…

You NEVER know what the day might bring.

I can’t tell ya how warm my heart is to see you back here again.

Damn girl, c’mon in - sit in front of the fire in that plush plum chenille lounger, kick your boots off and let me pour you a glass of NZ sauvignon blanc.

So happy you came in out of the rain.

Welcome back friend - I’ve missed you lots. Sounds like you’re back on track and amongst some of your dearest friends here in cyberspace.

Stay a spell Ms. RJ - we just adore you
xoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxxxxxooooooooxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo (keep this goin!)

Comment on When You Just Smile… by ellabella

ellabella — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 14:17:11 +0000

I, too, am needing spring quite desperately hereabouts. This winter seems to have been especially tough for a lot of us this time around. SO very good to hear from you again, Miss Ruby Jean. Don’t be a stranger now, you hear?
Hugs,
Z

Comment on When You Just Smile… by islandgrl

islandgrl — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 09:51:54 +0000

Wow, so good to hear from you again Rubes…I missed you.
I love your book idea. I made one for the son and DIL . It was all about my grand daughter and her family and her first year. It was beautiful and in hard cover and so much fun to make.
I did it thru shutterfly.com.
Sorry you have been fighting the blues again. Hang in girl, spring is almost here.

Comment on When You Just Smile… by lynard

lynard — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 15:48:25 +0000

Hi ruby - So glad you’re back. Sorry it’s been a rough couple of months. Hang in there, spring is coming. The bookclub sounds like fun..have a glass of wine for me. I’m pretty much holed up here until my broken kneecap heals. For some reason, I’m losing weight, though…can’t get up and eat as much I guess.

Lyn

Comment on When You Just Smile… by iniya

iniya — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 08:56:11 +0000

I can’t tell you, how incredibly and unbelievably relieved and happy I am, to hear back from you. I missed you so much. I was worried.

I agree. For me too, big words about a new plan somehow makes me go to the other direction. My current thoughts on this is that I get anxious when I say I need to pull my socks up now. Instead now I am planning to just be generally happy and relaxed and be confident about my good intentions and I will find the way slowly and comfortably. Nothing will change in a day. Not sure I would want it to change that much either.

The book idea is awesome. Caroline is so nice. I am sure you must be really really proud of her. I am storing it in my mind too. I also may do something about it. Maybe I should gather the photos taken in our last family weekend trip and weave a story around it.

Ruby, I know you can be very happy. You have the capacity to have joy in so many ways. You can generate happiness and joy. I have started to love myself and not worrying so much about my weak points and it is working well for me, as of now. Well, it helps that right now I have no problems in my life. So what I can do, you definitely can do 50 times better. Sending you many good, calm and happy thoughts. The cloud in front of my window will carry them to you in America. Meanwhile I know you will have much happiness of your own.

Lots of love,

iniya

PS did I sound pompous?

Comment on When You Just Smile… by Joy

Joy — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 11:49:24 +0000

I am so glad to see you back . That pie making class sounds like fun. You take care and have a great weekend.
Joy

Comment on Getting back on track… by lynard

lynard — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 16:29:04 +0000

Hope everything is ok with yu. Miss you!

Comment on Getting back on track… by feathers

feathers — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 04:23:14 +0000

Take care, RubyJean. I know how it is for someone to die mad at you. I’ve had more than one person who I had loved as a friend, and they died hating me. It’s a very difficult thing and you have my sympathy. I hope you’re getting back into a really good routine.

Comment on Getting back on track… by iniya

iniya — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 07:19:34 +0000

WHere are you? Missing you!!!!!

Comment on Getting back on track… by ravengirl

ravengirl — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 19:48:42 +0000

Hey Rubes!

I am so sorry to hear about your friend…and I understand about the things that can happen between friends sometimes..I had a falling out with a childhood friend that lasted a couple of years…after my DH’s diagnosis I learned quite a bit about what is really important…and how to grow up without losing your inner child. I have been visiting family for about 3 weeks and just returned home…rested and recharged…(well, after I get over the travel tiredness anyway…) I have now idea what I weigh right now…don’t care…I am releasing myself from the scale right now, it makes me compulsive and insane and I am not going to do it. I feel fabulous and my clothes aren’t feeling tight and I am liking the mirror…that is all that matters and I am going to remember that this time. I also got the opportunity to help a family member that I truly believe is Sugar Sensitive like me and that feels amazing! I will hopefully be back to blogging soon… Hope to see you around too…

love ya!!!

Raven

Comment on Getting back on track… by islandgrl

islandgrl — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 12:20:56 +0000

Hey Rubes, you are missed you know. Drop us a line and let us know how you are.
xoxoxox

Comment on Getting back on track… by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:08:21 +0000

Hmmm, I’m missing you.

I’m attempting to be subtle.

You know how hard this is for me…

come back to the five and dime ms. rubyjean -

missing you too much
xoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxox

Comment on Getting back on track… by tjnorth

tjnorth — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 21:53:08 +0000

So sorry to hear of your loss. It never gets easier, does it, dealing with that hole left in our lives when someone dies or leaves.

I am packing my fridge with good stuff too - my plan is turkey chili this evening.

Comment on Getting back on track… by islandgrl

islandgrl — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:17:32 +0000

Welcome back Rubes. Really have missed you.
Sorry for your loss

Comment on Getting back on track… by ellabella

ellabella — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 10:25:21 +0000

So sorry about your friend.
I know what you mean about getting back to your normal routine; I was glad to do it as well, despite how happy I was to have my son home and all the rest of the kids and kid’s spouses and kid’s kids around for the holidays. I too overate. Damn.
Glad to hear from you.
Hugs,
Z

Comment on Getting back on track… by anngirl

anngirl — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 07:52:28 +0000

So good to hear you Ms. RJ. I’m sorry for your loss - it’s heavy.

Here for you if you need anything….

You are precious.

Love to you

Comment on Keeping the faith by round

round — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:49:41 +0000

Another one sending you a shout out, wishes for a happy new year, and a BIG HUG!!!

We’re here for you when you’re ready to come back.

Don’t forget 3FC deletes blogs after 30 days so I think that means early next week for you… Just make a little “I’m alive don’t kill my blog” post & you’ll get another 30 days to decide if you want to come back or not.

Comment on Keeping the faith by anngirl

anngirl — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 06:50:45 +0000

Happy New Year Ms. RJ - love ya!

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxxoxoox

Comment on Keeping the faith by ellabella

ellabella — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 17:33:25 +0000

Dearest Ruby Jean - Sandy,

I just want to say hello, and happy new year! I hope all is well with you and the family. I suspect that the rest of the 3FC bloggers are missing you as much as I am. Please rejoin us when you are feeling like it. Did I mention how much I am hating this winter? The weather, I mean - just abominable, isn’t it? We had an icy rain falling all night and it took me twenty minutes this morning just to get down my street, which has a slight incline and was like a skating rink. Ack! Oh well, best wishes to you and yours, and may your days be cheerful and bright…and your Christmasses green instead of white. (mine, too!)
Hugs,
Z

Comment on Keeping the faith by lynard

lynard — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 01:57:57 +0000

Rubes where are you? Hope you are surviving the winter weather and end of holidays. Happy New Year, my friend. write soon..miss you!

Comment on Keeping the faith by Bobbie

Bobbie — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 23:45:30 +0000

Hey Ruby Jean. Just logged on, finally and see you have been MIA. I have been missing my gals and so you better log on and let us know how you all are. Big hugs to you my friend and know we all love you and miss you when you are out of the loop.

Hugs, Bobbie

Comment on Keeping the faith by anngirl

anngirl — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 00:24:03 +0000

All right Ms. RubyJean - come back soon
Miss ya!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Keeping the faith by islandgrl

islandgrl — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 06:27:02 +0000

Happy New Year Rubes. Best in 2009 for you and yours.
Hugs
xo

Comment on Keeping the faith by anngirl

anngirl — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 07:07:07 +0000

sendin’ ya hugs and kisses ms. rj - miss ya
xo

Comment on Keeping the faith by feathers

feathers — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 03:51:31 +0000

Hey Ruby I hope your Christmas went well.
I understand how it is with depression. I know that feeling of just wanting it all to go away. I am learning new ways to cope with it all and one of them is to remind myself “this is just temporary, this bad feeling will go away” and the other is to just make myself do stuff. It turns out, as you say, to be fun when you get there, it’s just the getting that can be so hard. Take care and I hope the coming year brings you health and happiness and a lifting of the weight of depression

Comment on Keeping the faith by iniya

iniya — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 05:52:29 +0000

Oh Ruby, you dear dear sister, it was so awfully nice of you to remember my first day at work. I just love you. And the day was fine too.

I guess you are now busy with Christmas. Do let us know how it all went.

love,

iniya

Comment on Keeping the faith by anngirl

anngirl — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 05:34:35 +0000

Merry Merry Christmas Ms. Rubyjean

I’ll be there in spirit to enjoy that lovely custard and all the other goodies you are whipping up….

You’re a doll
xoxox

Comment on Keeping the faith by lynard

lynard — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 02:01:08 +0000

Hope all is well…Merry Christmas Ruby!

Comment on Keeping the faith by islandgrl

islandgrl — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 08:19:39 +0000

Hugs Rubes, and Merry Christmas! Hope 2009 is the best year ever for all of us….
xoxoxox

Comment on Keeping the faith by lynard

lynard — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 22:54:59 +0000

When I was growing up our Christmas dinner was always aged roast beef with potatoes and vegies…and plum pudding! Sad to say I have not continued with the tradition and will be having turkey, as there is still one in my freezer. I made old English fruit cake, however, and it has been steeping in brandy and sherry for a few weeks. We’re having a couple of friends over on Christmas Eve, and I am singing at the 11:00 service. You too, I bet. Happy Christmas. Glad you got out and enjoyed some music.

Lynard

Comment on Keeping the faith by iniya

iniya — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 05:04:30 +0000

Ruby,

Thank you soooo much for the kind words. I have come to depend on you.

I am worried about your lack of sleep. Couldn’t you take out your wand and summon the sleep fairy? Seriously, maybe you should see the doc now. I agree with Annie, all that you do with so little sleep is awesome. Sending some sleep across the ocean.

love,

ini

Comment on Keeping the faith by anngirl

anngirl — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 06:14:41 +0000

Your dinner sounds DIVINE Ms. RJ…just glorious.

Congrats to baby J and her new gig

Yep hon - sounds like we’re both surfing the wave. Thank goodness we’re both on top!

I feel you on the getting that ‘get up and go’ - I honestly love laying around the apartment in my bunny pants t-shirt without even opening the shades. I know that’s my blue side showing through… I also know that I’ve been happy when I have been ‘forced’ to do something. I’d always rather stay at home with myself you know?

We’ll ride this out Ms. rj - you and I

We’ll be alright… sleep deprived freaks that we are…

geez.

when you think about all that we do being sleep deprived - it’s actually quite amazing and commendable.

damn.

we really gotta get some goddamn rest.
xo

Comment on Keeping the faith by iniya

iniya — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 14:51:06 +0000

So good to hear that J got the salon job. I am so envious of her. I can barely fix my own hair.

Your Christmas dinner sounds lovely as always. You know there is a shoprite near our house here too. not a big deal. but I will think of you when I am there.

I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling blue. Hope you feel better soon. I wish I could hold your hand a little. Can’t anything be done about your lack of sleep? maybe that is what is making you feel down. Also the stress at the job sounds killer too. All we can do is hope and pray and hang on. Sometimes that sounds so pathetic and helpless. But that’s the only way. isn’t it? the cycle will turn. it will. definitely.

meanwhile love and hugs and I am thinking of you.

iniya

Comment on Just for today by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 07:25:43 +0000

Goodness Ms. RJ - lay offs have hit my work too but I think I’m alright and I’ll weather the storm. I have nothing good to say on the food stuff right now.

But I do have to say that as we are both treading water on the encroaching D - let’s keep our heads above the water and not let that get to us ok?

I’ve got a floatee and I’m sharin’ it with ya hon

I like what you’re thinkin’ about eating the right things first….

you take care of yourself ms. rj.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Just for today by islandgrl

islandgrl — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 06:37:30 +0000

I think for all you are going thru, you are a champion.

Comment on Just for today by brseay

brseay — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 21:24:45 +0000

Like the others, I think your goal of focusing on what you should do instead of what you should avoid is wise. You can do this, just for today.

Comment on Just for today by lynard

lynard — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 19:40:21 +0000

Good goal setting my dear. That reminds me I need to go and eat some fruit today. Sorry about the work lay-offs and all of that stress. Keep up the stair climbing and walking - that will help stave off the big”D”.

Lyn

Comment on Just for today by round

round — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 13:54:49 +0000

I have a similar experience - when I focus on what I SHOULD eat instead of what I SHOULDNT I find it so much easier to eat healthy. I often start w the fruit & veg count (and eventually push to 9). Then maybe water, dairy etc — leads me to healthy eating every time.

I like the daily goal - or even meal by meal when needed. Small, do-able goals. Add up the victories.

You’re doing really well in the midst of the stress, by the way

Comment on Stuff You! by round

round — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 19:47:24 +0000

Wow, I hope when I am a mom I am HALF as smart as you are, and just as calm about it too.

Must be stressful, but you are handling things really well!

Comment on Stuff You! by lynard

lynard — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 19:48:23 +0000

Just catching up. Your DD “J” sounds a bit like our DD, “R”. She has been using the f-word a lot all of a sudden and yes it bugs me. I applaud you for not giving in to her and calling her on her temper tantrum. I empathize as I constantly want to run to the rescue of our DD as she is always broke too. I’m hoping she will get a job over Xmas break.

lyn

Comment on Stuff You! by iniya

iniya — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 16:49:23 +0000

So sorry to hear that you are having such a tough day. I think you are on the right path with J. However since I have no experience, I am not sure of my opinion. I only hope that things get well.

About the laziness thingy, I get where you are coming from. But sometimes, I think, are we really? I mean how much can one take? be good at work, be good to relationships, be good at housework… maybe sometimes we drop the ball on taking care of ourselves… of course - very wrong… but maybe we feel that’s the only ball we can drop… I don’t know… muddled..
Lots of love and a giant hug,

iniya

Comment on Stuff You! by ravengirl

ravengirl — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:19:18 +0000

Good luck on the job hunt Rubes!!! Oh…and I wish you luck on getting over the insomnia as well…after reading what you had tried I didn’t have anything new to offer…sorry about that…
We have an only child as well…she is an anomaly though, from everyone that I know who has an only child. Her and I really are best friends…and she is 17 which makes it all the more amazing.. She is sweet, respectful, gets good grades, is home the rest of the time, and we usually don’t have to get on her too much to get her chores done… I truly don’t know what we did to deserve her…I don’t think we deserve all the credit…I think she is a beautiful person inside and was born that way… I am sorry you are having problems….I think you are right though…laziness is a HUGE problem a lot of the time in these situations, but I can’t imagine that that is your problem…
Hugs…
Raven

Comment on Cold, clear air by ravengirl

ravengirl — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:13:32 +0000

Wow! And I thought I had heard everything!!! Good to know what it is though, huh? I love the cold too…I grew up in Montana…I miss the seasons…A LOT!! I am living in perma summer…it isn’t all bad though…I am adjusting…

Comment on Stuff You! by anngirl

anngirl — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 06:40:42 +0000

What a GREAT day you had today! But the most important thing is what you did for both yourself, your family and your little J. Can’t tell you how great that was to read….

Time for a change Ms. RJ - it’s actually a good thing but you’re right we get ’stuck’ sometimes and miss out on a lot of things.

I am the WORST kind of lazy…

Comment on Stuff You! by sharedbalance

sharedbalance — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 00:43:50 +0000

Ruby,
As a mom of 2 daughters, one who is 18 , graduated, left to live w/ her father, thinks she has all the answers, and is just now finally realizing that my advise wasnt somehow for my benefit but for hers, is coming around. I SUPPORT you 100%. I think we mom’s are part of a generation that thought we would try parenting a little differently, and I’ll tell you, it hasnt worked with my clan anyway.
Be strong, and you’re right- we dont teach them if we give in.

Comment on Cold, clear air by Eileen2bLean

Eileen2bLean — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 15:33:39 +0000

Yes, I too love your writing! You are very talented. =D

It’s interesting that you spent so much of your young life allergic to cold and then the rest of your years craving it!

Comment on Cold, clear air by round

round — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 13:29:06 +0000

you are such a powerful writer, Ruby, it’s such a pleasure to come here and get wrapped up in your tales.

I hope telling the story allowed your mind to find peace and your body to find sleep.

Comment on Cold, clear air by anngirl

anngirl — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 05:58:36 +0000

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this today Ms. RJ…. I can identify completely with that sip of crisp, cold air that refreshes the soul. There’s something deeper about the whole thing…something to ponder.

I wish you peaceful, deep sleep snuggled in your blankets with an ample supply of frosty air….

xoxoxoxox

Comment on Cold, clear air by lynard

lynard — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 01:09:58 +0000

Hi Ruby, Remember me? I’ve been lax at writing to say the least, but i JUST Caught UP ON YOUR BLOG. sO very sorry to hear about the loss of Shelby. You sound pretty good, though. Still exercising and taking it as it comes. I had thAT skin rash from cold too….I had it for about a year, then it went away. I hope the job worries settle down for you too. Happy Thanksgiving. I’m going to write an update to me blog right now.
Lyn

Comment on Work/exercise/work/life! by islandgrl

islandgrl — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 07:20:03 +0000

Keep us posted Rubes on what is happening. I hope the single gal takes it on even thou her finances may suck too, but at least she is not the major bread winner for her family.
Hugs
xoxoxo

Comment on Work/exercise/work/life! by tjnorth

tjnorth — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 20:43:47 +0000

Oh man, you must be running a 100 different scenarios in your head trying to decide what to do. Just remember to put yourself & your family first, ahead your co-workers, however much you like them. No extra points for being nice when stuff like this happens!

Comment on Work/exercise/work/life! by anngirl

anngirl — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 03:16:16 +0000

So proud of you for keeping up on your walking! Awesome!

Dang, I hope JA chooses to do it. I know it sucks because often being an unmarried single woman with no kids - everyone always expects you to take up the holidays, working late etc but it’s NOT me so I hope she does it for you guys
That super sucks though RJ.

Super sucks.

geez.
xoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Work/exercise/work/life! by patty

patty — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 20:49:29 +0000

Crap. So sorry to hear about this. I’m glad I’m a teacher. At least I have job security. Retirement security? I’m not so sure about that.

I don’t think it’s fair for them to ask you to do this. Up to me? I’d never volunteer to take a cut. If you have to, so be it. But volunteer?

Comment on Work/exercise/work/life! by round

round — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 12:14:10 +0000

If you cut down by one day can you keep the full benefits? It might be something you can negotiate?

THese are really hard times. During normal times I personally might be inclined to accept such an offer, but in today’s world I dont know… I do have a lot of other interests (and I know you do too)

Its not reasonable that they ask for an answer without giving people time to discuss it - its not a decision that a person can take on their own (except if single) and it’s something that is needing to be carefully thought through. For me its the most troubling aspect of the request…

Good luck w the decision - must add a lot of stress to your life

Comment on Work/exercise/work/life! by soclose

soclose — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 23:59:37 +0000

WHY, OH, WHY do they mess with a good thing–I’m having to log in EVERY time I want to leave a comment???? This suc*s.

Anyway, that’s certainly not your fault! WTG on kepping up with the exercise.

What an awful decision to be faced with; I’m not sure how I feel about the job making you all decide yourselves…good luck whatever you decide.

Comment on Greedy Girl by feathers

feathers — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 08:12:40 +0000

Hey Ruby, {{{{{hug}}}}} your work situation is unfair. It totally sucks

Comment on Greedy Girl by soclose

soclose — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 17:39:45 +0000

Just found this……..I found the comment about “depressive realism” struck home with me, yepper, that’s me. On the other hand, if I wasn’t of this mindset, could I put up with it all?
Personally…….if and when your work ends (and I can’t believe they would let you go) I think you should uproot someplace south, maybe on the coast (wink) and closer to your daughter, a state that starts with V—with the military presence we are somewhat insulated against the general economy problems and things really are a bit cheaper here………

Comment on Greedy Girl by ravengirl

ravengirl — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 20:54:51 +0000

Ahh Rubes…

So sorry Girlie! It just seems crazy everywhere right now… I agree with all the lovely ladies above though… There has got to be a better way…a better life…more breath…more calm…more peace… Hoping you find it soon…

luv luv…

Raven

Comment on Greedy Girl by islandgrl

islandgrl — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 11:20:45 +0000

Hey Rubes,
Doesn’t seem fair does it, having to dig your own grave….WTF
I often wonder if there is such a thing as true happiness. I think that this is the only life we have and I hate the thought that when it is time to go, I will regret not being happy, but it is so hard to get there or to stay there.
We work so hard to get what we want and in the long run what are we really getting? All work and no play…until it is too late.
Good luck hun, I hope it works out for you
xoxoxox

Comment on Greedy Girl by Angel

Angel — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 15:05:13 +0000

Ugh, how terrible to be forced to do work that may lead to your own down-sizing. I’ll be praying for your job situation.

I understand the melancholy, too. I’ve heard it called “depressive realism” before. There was some study done a couple years ago that found that people with a more realistic view on life tend to be more melancholy. Now, that’s one depressing study!

Hang in there and meditate on the beautiful, peaceful moments in life. They’re out there, I promise!

Comment on Greedy Girl by sharedbalance

sharedbalance — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 22:36:19 +0000

hey girl.
much like you, my job in corp america loomed to “downsizing”, and I wasnt waiting for it to happen. I knew I wanted out a long time ago, and altho it paid well, it took it’s toll mentally and physically.
I can only tell you what I did, and it was best for me, was I got the hell outta dodge. Now you may have a sweet package waiting for you, I didnt. If I had, my decision may have been different. idk.
I can tell you this sweet Ruby Jean, my health and happiness could not be any better. I am now living. I got my yoga certification, I am about to teach a couple of art classes to kids thru our Rec Dept (for a fee) and I have finally been able to start my own Reiki practice. It took lots and lots of believing….. and some times we didnt have all the extra’s, but so worth it in the end. The more time you can spend being present- in the moment- I think you will find the peace you so deserve.
Love to you.

Comment on Greedy Girl by anngirl

anngirl — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 22:20:51 +0000

Wow did your entry resonate within me today….

Especially those last two paragraphs.

I’m sorry RJ about the job situation…. I hope that they take forever and you get a real decent severance package. Enough to float you a while and give you a chance to catch your breath to decide what would best serve you next…. if of course we have that luxury? I’d like to retreat to a flower shop and arrange flowers in the back with spa music playing in the background - free to work the register if I want human contact - free to lose myself in the petals, thorns and greenery if I don’t.

What’s the answer RJ? Medicate these bouts of melancholy? Numb it down? Having experienced both - I really don’t know. Happiness. Yes, you’re right - at times I’ve been happy but I think as always it’s rather momentary. Perhaps it has something to do with the hard wiring eh?

Hang in there sweets….

Comment on Day off by patty

patty — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 13:36:25 +0000

Hey, Rubyjean! Keep up those lunchtime walks! Although I don’t know how you can make yourself go back inside when it’s go glorious right now! Enjoy it while you can.

Comment on Day off by islandgrl

islandgrl — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 08:45:43 +0000

Me too Rubes, this is the year that I will get my butt in gear and get my citizenship.

Comment on Day off by feathers

feathers — Sun, 09 Nov 2008 07:20:52 +0000

Hey, I totally get being lonely when you’re in a house full of people. Sometimes it feels like I’m surrounded by glass walls.

I wanted to vote for Obama, too, and I have no intention of becoming a US citizen. I am sad about your old dog. I have 3 lovely cats, but I still miss my old cat, Jim, and it’s nearly 10 years since he died. They take up a lot of room in our hearts, don’t they?

Comment on Day off by anngirl

anngirl — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 07:30:24 +0000

Hey darlin -

Glad to hear you are really working it out during work! Some stress relief along with good stuff for your body
I mentioned it to Shopaholic today - brisk walks during the workday to relieve this stress….

Sorry about your babygirl J….perhaps counseling - but that’s only if she feels that she’s got some issues in that department. Otherwise unfortunately, life will bite back and some lessons are learned the hard way ;(

Wish we could spare the ones we care about the pain of having to go through that…

Comment on Day off by soclose

soclose — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 19:33:34 +0000

Enjoy your day off!!! Glad to hear you are still walking at work…..you are being so much more faithful to your exercise than I am at this point.
Sorry J. is still difficult—mother/daughter stuff is the stuff of minefields often. At times I was terribly conflicted between my mom and A. and very resentful of BOTH; A. in middle school and my mom in dementia……shudder. I’m wandering. Not your situation but anyway good luck on those fronts.
Nail your dh to a date and time—men ARE awful for putting off this stuff.
Enjoy those bittersweet Shelby memories and take care of you.

Comment on Harrumph. Me. Buggerbuggerbugger. by ravengirl

ravengirl — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 00:28:31 +0000

Happy Halloween Rubes!!!

I am sorry that it seems like you are having some struggles right now…and I ache for you with your grief for Shelby… I have been struggling with some food and PMS stuff lately as well…but I think I may have weathered this months storm and I am taking DD to a Haunted Plantation tonight that I am sure is just going to scare the heck out of us! It is one of those ones that hire actors and everything!!! (can you hear me squealing already!!!!) And tomorrow we are heading to the carnival for all the cool rides…seriously…sometimes I wonder if I am not a 17 year old in a 38 year old body…yikes! And I am grateful every day that my DD (almost 17) is my best friend besides my DH… Try to have some Halloween fun Rubes!!!

luv luv,

Raven

Comment on Harrumph. Me. Buggerbuggerbugger. by anngirl

anngirl — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 18:51:42 +0000

Yep, I guess even with a house full of folks we can feel a bit winsome sometimes….

Guess what - you’re in that department because you are one goddamn SMART cookie so f*ck the IQ game!

Now as far as Mr. Obama goes - you know how I feel about that…I welcome the new change! Bring it - let’s see what he’s got! So I am proud to have voted for him
Yep, I drank a pepsi yesterday in celebration of getting a year older (20oz bottle) and I will tell you that I tossed and turned all night… it was either that or my belly being stuffed to the max.

Hard to tell….

xoxoxox to you and thanks again for your birthday wishes xoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Harrumph. Me. Buggerbuggerbugger. by patty

patty — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 09:18:22 +0000

Hey, Rubyjean! Thanks for commenting on my blog (mindless stream of conciousness, utter ramblings, whatever…). Good to meet you! Thanks for the good vibes for little sis. I’m sure she’s not feeling too great right now but it looks like she’s going to be okay in the long run.

Comment on Moving by soclose

soclose — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 11:27:43 +0000

Into the 170’s…..Ruby, that’s great!!!! Congrats!!!

Your new building sounds fabulous….and walking indoors will be a wonderful option for all those cold blustery (as opposed to brisk, cold) winter days that we all know are coming.

Really don’t know what to say about J. Once they are fellow adults, even if they are still dependent, it’s a different kettle ‘o fish from anything I deal with. Take notes, cause I’ll be asking you for advice on that one when the time comes. But good luck. Maybe a good dose of guilt? How’s her schooling going? Does she enjoy it? How long is the course?

Awww….of course you will still miss your Shelby and will for a long time. It never goes completely away but the “sharpness” will fade with time.

Comment on Moving by anngirl

anngirl — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 06:37:45 +0000

I think it’s great that you’re getting in your exercise during lunch! That’s fantastic.

Finally - a nice working space for you Enjoy it ms. Rubyjean - if it gets gone it’ll go but in the meantime that worrywart at work needs to hush.

Yep, it’s the PMS. But thank goodness it’ll only be temporary! You’re doin’ great Ms. RJ - hang in there xoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Get up, get out, get moving… by anngirl

anngirl — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 19:31:21 +0000

Yep, I agree dear ms. rubyjean - it’s time to move up and move forward. I’m happy to hear that you are remembering ms. shelby so lovingly - I know it takes a while for the pain to ease but those sweet memories we will always cherish.

Me, too - I’m making attempts to move forward having just been through a particularly dark spell. Oh goodness. There is always some goodness out there - sometimes it takes a little bit to recognize it.
So here we are - going into our sunny days together.
hugs rubyjean….

lots of sunshine and hugs!
xoxoooxoxo

Comment on Shelby by ravengirl

ravengirl — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 16:37:23 +0000

Oh Rubes… I am so sorry! I haven’t been keeping up with my blog lately and this was the first time I had wandered to yours in awhile…my heart aches so bad for you…I am just so sorry…I am sitting here in tears for you…you know you did the best thing for her,don’t you? And that you gave her the best possible life, so many animals are abused, neglected, and forgotton, all you have to do is look around to see that…the ones that find there way into arms like yours are the lucky ones…and you can be very proud of that… Hugs to you Girlie…

Raven

Comment on Monday Musings by tjnorth

tjnorth — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 20:00:17 +0000

So sorry to hear about Shelby, dear. I know she was a beautiful dog.

Comment on Monday Musings by Angel

Angel — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 18:14:21 +0000

Sweet RubyJean, I’m so sorry about your dear Shelby. You must miss her snuggles terribly. My cat, who generally only wanted to love on her on terms, was subjected regularly to my scooping her up and sniffing her furry little face. It sounds strange, but she always smelled so wonderfully of the grass and trees. It is sad to say goodbye to a beloved pet, but thank God for the wonderful memories we have of them. I’ll be thinking of you this week.

Comment on Monday Musings by ellabella

ellabella — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 11:58:45 +0000

Oh, Ruby Jean. I often wonder how people get through life without an animal or two to love them unconditionally. Oh, God, yes, it’s painful when we lose them, but they’ve contributed so much, haven’t they? Lovely picture of dear Shelby with her head on your pillow! What a beautiful doggie she was!
Sending you warm hugs, and so glad to see you communicating here again!I’ve missed you terribly!
Love,
Z

Comment on Monday Musings by Eileen2bLean

Eileen2bLean — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 03:39:09 +0000

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know Shelby was truly a part of your family and I feel so bad for the pain you’re going through.

Sending hugs.

Comment on Shelby by round

round — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 21:34:39 +0000

Oh, Ruby, I am so sad for you. Big hugs.

Comment on Shelby by brseay

brseay — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 16:41:58 +0000

I know that no words can make you feel better, just know that we care. Sending hugs your way today.

Comment on Shelby by soclose

soclose — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 12:35:49 +0000

I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face for Shelby and all of your family. She was treasured and loved beyond measure for many years. That she had her humans with her when she crossed speaks volumes about the love you all had for her. Shelby is beyond pain and confusion now. I wish all of her family comfort and strength and peace in shared memories of really great times with a very special dog.

Comment on Shelby by sharedbalance

sharedbalance — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 00:29:35 +0000

Oh Ruby,
I’m so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Shelby will be remembered for the beautiful spirit she was.
love to you. Sandy

Comment on Hey, it’s finally Friday! by anngirl

anngirl — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 20:36:09 +0000

How ya doin’ ms. rubyjean?

Miss ya sweets xoxoxoxo

Comment on The return of Chatty Cathy by iniya

iniya — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 14:53:25 +0000

I agree with soclose. I am never ever bored with what you say. In fact I wait to read them and feel really nice.

take care,

ini

Comment on Hey, it’s finally Friday! by lynard

lynard — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 18:16:04 +0000

Hi Ruby,

I’ve been absent of late, and struggling with my eating too. Good to hear from you - and you sound good. I love banana bread..yum. I made apple crisp and my DH and I ate over half the pan one night last week. I have been swimming 3 miles a week, however, so all-in-all I’ve maintained. We leave for our trip to CA and Hawaii next week. I’m psyched.

Lyn

Comment on Hey, it’s finally Friday! by Eileen2bLean

Eileen2bLean — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 15:07:24 +0000

Hi, I came to check out your blog, and ended up reading for quite a while - your entries are fascinating! =D

I don’t know if anyone else has steered you there, but I absolutely love writing.com - it’s a place where you can write stuff and people can comment on not only what you write but also how you write it. It’s a great place to learn. An account there is free but the blog feature is only available to paid members.

Just thought I’d share. =D

Comment on Hey, it’s finally Friday! by anngirl

anngirl — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 01:30:49 +0000

So happy to see you back here ms. rubyjean Sounds like you’ve got a full house this weekend….I think you’ve got so much talent comin’ out of them thar pores that WHAT CAN’T YOU DO?! Now that’s the true question, but damn if that economy isn’t fucking everything up….

That veggie soup sounds hecka good by the way….

Wish I would cook something for myself.

Actually, wish I could have a piece of that banana bread xoxoxoxoxoxo

Comment on The return of Chatty Cathy by grabthebull

grabthebull — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 20:58:23 +0000

i was thoroughly delighted with this post. thanks for sharing.

Comment on The return of Chatty Cathy by sharedbalance

sharedbalance — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 11:16:12 +0000

Thrilled you’re back… and I agree w/ soclose- you are a delight, and so full of energy. Love you girl.

Comment on The return of Chatty Cathy by soclose

soclose — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:59:55 +0000

Missed you.

OK…Let me make this CRYSTAL clear: YOU do NOT bore, irritate, or rub people the wrong way; you are a delight, simply a delight.

Glad to have you back in fine form!

Comment on Hangin’ in by islandgrl

islandgrl — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 12:29:02 +0000

hugs coming your way…………..
xxoxoxox

Comment on Hangin’ in by anngirl

anngirl — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 07:06:30 +0000

Kvetch darlin -
after all we’re only human.

frail,
fragile
freaky
and sometimes
absolutely
facked up.

you can add fat to mine.

love ya rubyjean…..
chin up darlin - i missed a nervous breakdown last week but often wonder the solace I would have found on the quiet, manicured lawn of a sanitarium….

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxooxoxoxxo

let’s stay strong ok darlin?

Comment on Catching up by anngirl

anngirl — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 05:37:00 +0000

Whatcha up to ms. rubyjean - do tell
miss ya darlin’!

xoxoxoxo

Comment on Catching up by feathers

feathers — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 09:12:05 +0000

It sounds like you’re settling in for the winter, planning the hope chests for your girls and getting the old knitting needles out. I do hope you find a writing group or teacher.

Comment on Catching up by lynard

lynard — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 00:00:20 +0000

Hi Ruby J - I’m still around. Been busy redoing our apartment house. I’ve spent more time in Home Depot and Bargain Outlet this past 2 weeks than any other time in my life. I actualy enjoy the fixing part. Sure hope we can rent them. Keep writing and I will try to do the same.
Lyn

Comment on Catching up by islandgrl

islandgrl — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 10:45:00 +0000

I am sorry to hear about your losses Rubes. I think you are dealing with them pretty damn good. You are a strong lady.
And good for the knitting class, never could get into knitting but I can crochet really well.
I am with Anngirl on the shots. I love botox, but haven’t had it for too long now. I also am religious with my skin care. Never go to bed with makeup on, cleanse twice a day, and I moisturize (?) all the time. I also like dermabrasion every so many months.
Good for you for doing the race, that is my goal for my first public run, to do the Susan G Komen 5k.
You are a good gal Rubes

Comment on Catching up by anngirl

anngirl — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 04:33:47 +0000

xoxoxoxo rubyjean x0×0x0×00x0x

yeah battling those goddamn wrinkles have been easier with the shot though sweets…. I like it - do it every 4-5 months and honestly it makes me feel better. my crows feet but i wish i could get relief from a potion rather than the needle

love your regimen - you’ll have to let me know how it works out for you!

You have gorgeous hair rubyjean

Comment on Catching up by delitaagain

delitaagain — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 03:04:58 +0000

Wow. What a lot you have going on. And you sound so good. I’m still getting oriented here but just wanted to say hi, and thanks for sharing. Exciting about the writing!

Delita
http://3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/delitaagain/

Comment on Catching up by soclose

soclose — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 02:30:46 +0000

You are staying????? YAY!!!!!

Very , very glad to hear your mom seems to be OK after that horrible experience. You are so good to look out for her like you do. As for the losses, you work your way through any way you see fit….yeah, it’ll be in the front of your mind for a while, then hopefully fade a bit–kind of like a death, you know what I mean—how sharp the pain is in the beginning. Being able to feel some lightness (relief?) is a good sign, I think.

Good to hear you did the race and had some fun with your girls; those rusks sound delish, I do LOVE biscotti!!!

Happy birthday to Jessica!!! Take care.

Comment on Catching up by anngirl

anngirl — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 02:05:25 +0000

So good to see you back here Ms. RubyJean and you have been a busy busy be…. I love what you’re doing. You’re being so proactive in both your creative goals (finding that elusive writing class and enrolling in that cool knitting class), creating beauty and memories for your girls, seeking out some spiritual balance to round things out as well as doing those things that we never seem to get around to doing (jewelry) but makes us feel so much better after we’ve done them. You are doing BIG things Ms. Rubyjean and managing to move your body as well… awesome.

I’m sorry about those losses hon - I can only wish healing warm fuzzies for you. You are certainly doing enough good in your life (takin care of Mama and your family) that it will help to fill some of those new gaps.

I have no doubt you’ll drop those 18 lbs by Christmas Love the baking - it was so heartwarming to read about it….

xoxoxoxoxo RubyJean - so great to see you back here xxoxoxoxoxoxooxox

Comment on It wasn’t quite bye for now, then, was it? by ellabella

ellabella — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 16:05:04 +0000

Okay, Ruby Jean. I really must hear something about where you are, what you’re doing, and what you’re thinking about! Report in SOMEWHERE, fahgoodness’ sake!
Love,
Z

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islandgrl — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 22:03:44 +0000

Comment on It wasn’t quite bye for now, then, was it? by lynard

lynard — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 21:36:05 +0000

I know I know. I’ve been missing in action. Thought I’d add my 2 cents worth that I hope yu don’t leave this site. Good that you are considering writing more , though. If you move, let us know where to find you!
Lynard

Comment on It wasn’t quite bye for now, then, was it? by ravengirl

ravengirl — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 16:46:50 +0000

Ahh Rubes… What can I say, except I will join my voice to the others and say that I am also very glad that you are here… Maybe this is just where you are meant to be right now…I tend to believe that sometimes things sure do happen for a reason. I have been trying so hard to adjust to my new job…I love it and it is crazy, dirty, and exhausting and I just didn’t want to admit, even to myself that I simply can’t do it all right now. After winding up in the ER on Monday thinking I might be having a heart attack that came into stark relief. I had a talk with my boss and she was nothing like the boss in my head…she offered me less hours and less days a week to make sure that I am safe…I am so very grateful that I am going to be able to continue doing what I love and get back to some of the other things that I love and need…mainly my yoga and pilates… On a positive note, I have just taken my final pill this morning! And I am finding ways to get my salmon in without gagging…all positive things…:) I understand how much it hurts to lose people that you thought would all be there. I thought I had lost my own friend like that…forever…but it turned out that we both needed some time and to grow up a little (mainly me) Our relationship is different…but good…and as wonderful as you are you people will see that and find you…I promise…
luv luv,
Raven

Comment on It wasn’t quite bye for now, then, was it? by anngirl

anngirl — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 03:22:44 +0000

shoot ms. rubyjean I hope you decide that this is your outlet and you don’t leave.

Sounds like you’re doing BIG things with your new writing thing, the knitting group, the WALK for the CURE and your watching your drinks & intake.

All great things I just wish your sleep would get better so you would feel refreshed!

Happy that you are here with us darlin….
xoxoxoxoxo

Comment on Fragile Heart by ellabella

ellabella — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 15:10:31 +0000

Well, here I am, lurking about, and just got to reading this post of yours, Ruby-my-dear-Jean. Change is a difficult thing for sure. No matter how unhappy we are with the status quo, changing it is oftentimes too much of a challenge to even try. Then there are those changes that we DON’T really want in our lives - changes that happen around us and even sometimes to us, without any input from us. When one reaches my advanced years, I think we have experienced sufficient change to finally be at peace with whatever happens. No - not family tragedies; those still have the power to hurt deeply - and not the illness or death of loved friends, either. But, people thinking differently than we do - and coming to dislike us for our beliefs; well, that’s a common theme throughout the history of humanity, you know? And people at work moving on - well that goes on regularly, too. I actually find myself identifying with your thoughts and feelings because at your age, I think I was feeling that way, too - that changes were less than happy occurrences. And I AM sorry about your silly friend who seems to believe she can only be friends with people who agree with her (How boring!) and your sister, who lives in her own painful world and can’t see past its borders to the needs of anyone else. But you, Ruby-my-dear-Jean, are so much better than that! Within you there is real character, real strength, and real personhood, I suppose is the best term to describe it - and that will keep you on the right track for all the years to come. (And if you don’t send me a link once you start your new blog, I shall surely rise up in protest!)
Much love,
Z

Comment on It wasn’t quite bye for now, then, was it? by soclose

soclose — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:28:48 +0000

I am one of many thrilled to see you “still using up space here”!!!!!!

Wonderful on the Komen walk; I remember this from last year, I think. Is this the one in NYC?

WTG on the knitting; my bestest bud back home recently picked up her knitting needles again after joining one of these groups and is now making all sorts of fab stuff……..including some great socks!

Comment on Fragile Heart by soclose

soclose — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:17:05 +0000

ACH!!!! I’m trying finally, to get caught up only to find out that I can’t reach back on your blog to read what I’ve missed! Am I being stupid, or did something change, or am I just not seeing the right button???
Anyway…….I think am stunned by your leaving us; it will take me a bit to get used to no Ruby jean here.
Glad for J.; yeah, you did what any of us would have; and what a great choice for her, she can go anywhere with that and so many aspects she can specialize in if she gets tired of one or the other.
I am SOOO sorry about all the recent losses in your life. A lot of my friends and I don’t agree on basic issues but to get so extreme that you close out people just cause they don’t agree cookie-cutter like with every thought in your head is just plain wrong!!! It’s THEIR loss!!!!
I am sure the guy at work valued you!!!! Isn’t imitation flattery, or something?

Comment on Fragile Heart by feathers

feathers — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 00:15:54 +0000

Aw Ruby, I’m really feeling your loss of your friend with you. I had a buddy I’d been besties with since 1969. Lost her friendship a couple of years ago. It was cruel. Thing is, she never got over her husband walking out. Now, she no longer loved this guy and always claimed that she was glad he’d gone, but 18 years after he’d left (and they’d been together 13 years, no children and she’d had 3 serious boyfriends since he’d gone) she was still talking about him like it was yesterday.

I was so over it. I was so mad at her letting him hurt her all that time. Time and again I’d told her that every time she thought about him, it was just him winning again. I went and googled him and found out his life and when she brought him up one last time I told her, basically, that he was over her and she has never spoken to me again, except an email telling me she was no longer my friend.

That was what hurt me. That My best buddy for 35 years was more interested in hating her ex than in being my friend.

I’m disappointed that you didn’t make the writing class, but it’s so great when our kids get a passion for something and it sounds like your daughter has picked a terrific course.

Stephen King’s book “On Writing” is a really great book. And don’t worry that your story might be similar to some other book that’s out there. There are no totally “new” stories in the world, it’s all about the people, the characters we bring to light.

Comment on Fragile Heart by tjnorth

tjnorth — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 21:57:42 +0000

Oh man, somedays it feels like it will never end, doesn’t it? But it will, and you have a great foundation to stand on to weather the storms. Sending hugs your way.

Comment on Fragile Heart by sharedbalance

sharedbalance — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 23:22:36 +0000

hey ruby- Sorry to hear of your sadness- I’m happy to hear your daughter is going to expand her knowledge- and you get free haircuts for life- and manicures and pedicures- dont let her forget it! lol. I have 2 books on writing I picked up on ebay- they are more creative writing- but I love them dearly. One is called- Writing and Being, by G.Lynn Nelson, and the second is Writing Down the Bones, by Natalie Goldberg. They may be completely opposite from where you are looking to write, but I thought I’d mention them.
Thinking of you. Hope you feel better soon!

Comment on Fragile Heart by anngirl

anngirl — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 07:23:13 +0000

Oh Rubyjean - my heart ached to read this today. You are going through so much right now. I’m so sorry for all of it.

You are an incredible woman and a loving soul. To lose such a dear friend because of political reasons is more heartbreaking than illness. I can only hope that she will come around at some point. I too have lost my oldest friend for differences in beliefs. But I know that like you - my heart is forgiving and at some point, I will try again to contact her. My heart is soft towards her and I will always trust that deep down inside she will know this. I understand your loss.

Life is short and such losses take a toll on a battered heart after a while.

But your capacity to love and forgive will always overcome these emotional setbacks. Sometimes it just takes a little time.

I’m convinced that your friend at work respected you and admired your wit. After all, he was so compelled by your ideas that he presented them as his own to the group. He obviously valued your skills. I am sad that you have lost someone who gave you ‘fire’ for various reasons. You’re awesome to miss him - you do realize that right?!

Stay strong Rubyjean. Write your heart out and that novel sounds like an absolutely wonderful idea. You can channel that emotion into your writing. Perhaps you can write it in it’s rough draft form while waiting to take a class. Let it flow onto the page…

Hugs and kisses

Comment on Sweet soul day by feathers

feathers — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:45:05 +0000

Oh Rubyjean I hope you got to sign up for that writing class. I’ve had such a wonderful time in writing groups and classes in the past few years and have made friends with people who I know will still be there when we’re old and grey and doddery.

Loved the sound of that tag sale. Glad you got that bowl.

Comment on Sweet soul day by ellabella

ellabella — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 12:20:59 +0000

It’s nice hearing about you and your Mum having such a nice day. After her trip, I’m guessing that she’s realizing how lucky she is to have you. I must reiterate - the book? Go for it! I’m so glad that you’ve found a writer’s class!
Love,
Z

Comment on Sweet soul day by anngirl

anngirl — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 02:54:15 +0000

you had a wonderful day Thanks for letting me read about it… sometimes you just feel grateful for everything and life is good. sounds like it was one of those days.

xoxoxo

Comment on Bye for Now! by ellabella

ellabella — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 20:21:54 +0000

Ah, yes. I know the feeling. There’s more to life than how much we weigh - in my case, it’s coming to grips with growing older and figuring out where I’ve been, you know? Well, you know where to find me, and I trust that if you do any blogging anywhere, you’ll send a link. Just as an aside, tho - I picked up one of Leslie Sansone’s walking off the pounds DVDs. THis one has one mile and two mile walks on it. I’ve done the one mile twice, and DH has, as well, although we haven’t done it together. So far, I’m really, really liking it, and just am hoping that I can keep myself motivated to keep doing it - and maybe moving up to the two mile walk. Still having a little trouble with strictly healhful eating, but am doing better than I was. Stay in touch, you hear?
Love,
Z

Comment on Bye for Now! by islandgrl

islandgrl — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 12:27:47 +0000

Awww Rubes, you are going to be missed. Best of luck to you, and please pop in once in a while and let us know you are okay.
xoxoxo

Comment on Bye for Now! by anngirl

anngirl — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 02:02:03 +0000

ruby jean - I hope you don’t mean that you’ll be leaving us. I can’t bear it.

i am injured after all (dripping with big puppy dog eyes) - but if you must go you MUST let me know where you’ll be so I can keep up with you ok?

I hope that you won’t leave though…..
xoxoxoxoxoxoox

Comment on Bye for Now! by ravengirl

ravengirl — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 16:50:44 +0000

Hey Rubes!

Are you sure you aren’t having a little “big d” creeping in? I sure hate to lose you on here! I think it is great if you have other outlets and want to go that way…I will miss your posts though… I haven’t been getting to my blog really consistant lately because of all the changes in my own life! Today is my 2nd day at work at the doggie spa! I was supposed to work yesterday but had to take DH to the Dr. for his eye… I am sure I will be posting more as things settle down into a routine though.. You take care..write when you feel like it okay?

love,
Raven