Comments for Sistah Pat http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty Just trying to find method to the madness... Thu, 23 May 2013 09:10:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 Comment on Still hanging in there… by butterflyemergingsoon http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/04/26/still-hanging-in-there/#comment-3490 butterflyemergingsoon Wed, 15 May 2013 11:56:20 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1372#comment-3490 Hey sister Pat, Just seeing how you and your hubby are doing? Did his last roung of chemo end? How is he? How are you? You are in my thoughts and in my prayers. HUGS!!!!! Joy http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/butterflyemergingsoon/ Hey sister Pat,
Just seeing how you and your hubby are doing? Did his last roung of chemo end? How is he? How are you? You are in my thoughts and in my prayers. HUGS!!!!!
Joy

http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/butterflyemergingsoon/

]]> Comment on Still hanging in there… by laura705 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/04/26/still-hanging-in-there/#comment-3489 laura705 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 16:01:55 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1372#comment-3489 Any one of these things are major-major life events, and look how many you've experienced and are still going through!! I agree you definitely need structure to your days, even if you have to play it by ear a lot right now depending on how your husband is feeling. Like Joy said, please make sure you have a good support system - I think talking it out with people "who can relate" could be very helpful. Any one of these things are major-major life events, and look how many you’ve experienced and are still going through!! I agree you definitely need structure to your days, even if you have to play it by ear a lot right now depending on how your husband is feeling.

Like Joy said, please make sure you have a good support system - I think talking it out with people “who can relate” could be very helpful.

]]> Comment on Still hanging in there… by butterflyemergingsoon http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/04/26/still-hanging-in-there/#comment-3488 butterflyemergingsoon Tue, 30 Apr 2013 10:42:20 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1372#comment-3488 ~~~HUGS~~~ You have been through a LOT! It is a whole lot to internalize in such a small amount of time. You just need tot ry and find what works for you to not only get through this time but to start and heal yourself from all of this as well. Writing here is a really good start. It keeps you more aware of what is going on inside of you rather than just having it all be a numb blur. Please make sure you have a good support system to help you through this. I am here if you need an ear or a shoulder or a prayer. HUGS Joy ~~~HUGS~~~
You have been through a LOT! It is a whole lot to internalize in such a small amount of time. You just need tot ry and find what works for you to not only get through this time but to start and heal yourself from all of this as well. Writing here is a really good start. It keeps you more aware of what is going on inside of you rather than just having it all be a numb blur. Please make sure you have a good support system to help you through this. I am here if you need an ear or a shoulder or a prayer.
HUGS
Joy

]]> Comment on And here we are by laura705 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/03/08/and-here-we-are/#comment-3487 laura705 Fri, 26 Apr 2013 17:24:27 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1371#comment-3487 Pat, thought I saw your post on the recent updates list, but didn't see a new post. Hope you're hanging in there during this very difficult time!! Laura Pat, thought I saw your post on the recent updates list, but didn’t see a new post. Hope you’re hanging in there during this very difficult time!!

Laura

]]> Comment on And here we are by butterflyemergingsoon http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/03/08/and-here-we-are/#comment-3486 butterflyemergingsoon Wed, 24 Apr 2013 18:13:04 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1371#comment-3486 Here is my page here http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/butterflyemergingsoon/ Here is my page here
http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/butterflyemergingsoon/

]]> Comment on And here we are by butterflyemergingsoon http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/03/08/and-here-we-are/#comment-3485 butterflyemergingsoon Thu, 14 Mar 2013 16:51:57 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1371#comment-3485 I am glad your cruise went well . I am sorry to hear about your brother. I hope that your husbands treatment contiues to go well. You are often in my thoughts and in my prayers! BTW: this is Joy I am at findingjoy I missed being on here :) I am glad your cruise went well .
I am sorry to hear about your brother.
I hope that your husbands treatment contiues to go well.
You are often in my thoughts and in my prayers!
BTW: this is Joy
I am at findingjoy
I missed being on here :)

]]> Comment on And here we are by laura705 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/03/08/and-here-we-are/#comment-3484 laura705 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 16:30:36 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1371#comment-3484 Sorry to hear your brother's situation is so serious, and that's horrible about your son's eye damage. My thoughts and prayers are with you and them. Good job on the exercise - great that you pushed yourself. :) Sorry to hear your brother’s situation is so serious, and that’s horrible about your son’s eye damage. My thoughts and prayers are with you and them.

Good job on the exercise - great that you pushed yourself. :)

]]> Comment on Open Up the Vents by brseay http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/02/04/open-up-the-vents/#comment-3483 brseay Sat, 09 Feb 2013 01:03:16 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1370#comment-3483 Walk, don't run, to the nearest support group. Or connect with your own therapist but please, please, please find someone who can be a support for you and be a safe place for you to vent. You are going to want to continue to be strong and positive for Donnie and that isn't going to be possible if you're (understandably) hanging on to a lot of anger and resentment. Plus, I know from experience that doing so has a negative impact on your own health. Having a regular place to vent can also lend some structure to your week. I know you have been struggling with your time since you retired and knowing that you have an appointment or meeting on a regular basis will be a good thing. I'm going to check back to see if you have made any progress with this :) Walk, don’t run, to the nearest support group. Or connect with your own therapist but please, please, please find someone who can be a support for you and be a safe place for you to vent. You are going to want to continue to be strong and positive for Donnie and that isn’t going to be possible if you’re (understandably) hanging on to a lot of anger and resentment. Plus, I know from experience that doing so has a negative impact on your own health.

Having a regular place to vent can also lend some structure to your week. I know you have been struggling with your time since you retired and knowing that you have an appointment or meeting on a regular basis will be a good thing.

I’m going to check back to see if you have made any progress with this :)

]]> Comment on Open Up the Vents by laura705 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/02/04/open-up-the-vents/#comment-3482 laura705 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 22:02:31 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1370#comment-3482 I'm glad you vented here, but I agree with you that you should find a support group. You will certainly be amongst people who are experiencing something similar at the various points in the timeline. Maybe they can help you deal with (or get past) why this is happening and support you in getting through it. Especially important is seeing how they deal with their future lives. I’m glad you vented here, but I agree with you that you should find a support group. You will certainly be amongst people who are experiencing something similar at the various points in the timeline. Maybe they can help you deal with (or get past) why this is happening and support you in getting through it. Especially important is seeing how they deal with their future lives.

]]> Comment on Open Up the Vents by hankpanky http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/02/04/open-up-the-vents/#comment-3481 hankpanky Mon, 04 Feb 2013 19:59:17 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1370#comment-3481 I think everything you're feeling is not only perfectly normal, but justified. You've had a lot to deal with over the last few months. Being a caretaker is one of the toughest things imaginable and now you're doing it for the second time. You absolutely need to find someone to share your feelings with, someone who can support you through your grief and I encourage you to that as soon as possible so you don't get sick, too. In the end, we have no control over how things work out. Your husband could go on for another 20 years, while your number could be up tomorrow. No matter how life works out, you have a right to happiness and peace and love and no, you're not too old and no, the best years are not gone. Hang in there; be kind to yourself. I think everything you’re feeling is not only perfectly normal, but justified. You’ve had a lot to deal with over the last few months. Being a caretaker is one of the toughest things imaginable and now you’re doing it for the second time. You absolutely need to find someone to share your feelings with, someone who can support you through your grief and I encourage you to that as soon as possible so you don’t get sick, too.

In the end, we have no control over how things work out. Your husband could go on for another 20 years, while your number could be up tomorrow. No matter how life works out, you have a right to happiness and peace and love and no, you’re not too old and no, the best years are not gone.

Hang in there; be kind to yourself.

]]> Comment on Crabby Patties by watchingweight4wedding http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/31/crabby-patties/#comment-3480 watchingweight4wedding Thu, 31 Jan 2013 16:51:53 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1369#comment-3480 I feel for you. I read this years posts and I am so sorry for all the pain you are and have been going through. You are a great sister, a great daughter, and a great wife. I feel for you. I read this years posts and I am so sorry for all the pain you are and have been going through. You are a great sister, a great daughter, and a great wife.

]]> Comment on Crabby Patties by laura705 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/31/crabby-patties/#comment-3479 laura705 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 16:48:51 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1369#comment-3479 Not an easy time right now. I imagine that the girls weekend you mentioned in you previous post is sounding better and better. I hope the chemo effectes ease up for your hubby. Not an easy time right now. I imagine that the girls weekend you mentioned in you previous post is sounding better and better. I hope the chemo effectes ease up for your hubby.

]]> Comment on One Day at a Time by brseay http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/27/one-day-at-a-time/#comment-3478 brseay Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:28:05 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1367#comment-3478 As always, you have written a beautiful and eloquent post. My heart caught in my chest when I read about the necklace you gave her being in your mom's jewelry box. For whatever reason she wasn't able to overtly show her love but it seems that her actions have shown it. Take care of yourself and talk to you soon. As always, you have written a beautiful and eloquent post. My heart caught in my chest when I read about the necklace you gave her being in your mom’s jewelry box. For whatever reason she wasn’t able to overtly show her love but it seems that her actions have shown it.

Take care of yourself and talk to you soon.

]]> Comment on One Day at a Time by laura705 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/27/one-day-at-a-time/#comment-3477 laura705 Tue, 29 Jan 2013 17:21:05 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1367#comment-3477 My sympathies to you in the loss of your mother. You wrote a beautiful post - brought tears to my eyes. It sounds like you came to terms with your relationship with your mom as you went through her illness with her, and I'm happy you had so much support during all this. My sympathies to you in the loss of your mother. You wrote a beautiful post - brought tears to my eyes. It sounds like you came to terms with your relationship with your mom as you went through her illness with her, and I’m happy you had so much support during all this.

]]> Comment on One Day at a Time by hankpanky http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/27/one-day-at-a-time/#comment-3476 hankpanky Tue, 29 Jan 2013 01:48:53 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1367#comment-3476 I'm really sorry to hear that you lost your mother. I'm glad that you had the opportunity to tell her how much she meant to you and to be able to be with her when she passed. I will keep you in my prayers. I’m really sorry to hear that you lost your mother. I’m glad that you had the opportunity to tell her how much she meant to you and to be able to be with her when she passed. I will keep you in my prayers.

]]> Comment on And here I sit by pepagirl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/14/and-here-i-sit/#comment-3475 pepagirl Tue, 15 Jan 2013 05:40:12 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1365#comment-3475 Prayers for your brother, you are doing so much right now I hope that you are taking a little time out to relax too. Stay strong! Prayers for your brother, you are doing so much right now I hope that you are taking a little time out to relax too. Stay strong!

]]> Comment on And here I sit by laura705 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/14/and-here-i-sit/#comment-3474 laura705 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 21:36:26 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1365#comment-3474 I hope your brother's procedure goes well and you can get back to caring for your husband soon. I hope your brother’s procedure goes well and you can get back to caring for your husband soon.

]]> Comment on Six Month Meltdown by brseay http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/04/six-month-meltdown/#comment-3473 brseay Mon, 14 Jan 2013 00:47:19 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1361#comment-3473 Patty, I'm sure I have shared this with you before but in the 2 months after Kyle was diagnosed I put on 30 pounds. I was only dealing with 1 illness, you have been bombarded with stress. For a while the goal is surviving the chaos, but now that you have had a chance to adapt to a new reality you can start to focus on being healthier. My "moment" was kind of like yours...I got on the scale and saw I had gained 30 pounds in such a short amount of time. That's when I made the decision to be healthier and when I acknowledged that as good as chocolate chip cookies are, they aren't going to take away Kyle's illness so turning to them does nothing but hurt me. I have had my ups and downs over the last 6 years but you have helped me through more of those than I can count. I guess what I'm trying to say through my rambling is don't be too hard on yourself for numbing yourself with food the last several months. Just accept that this is your new starting point, create your plan for making a change and then get started :) Patty,
I’m sure I have shared this with you before but in the 2 months after Kyle was diagnosed I put on 30 pounds. I was only dealing with 1 illness, you have been bombarded with stress. For a while the goal is surviving the chaos, but now that you have had a chance to adapt to a new reality you can start to focus on being healthier.

My “moment” was kind of like yours…I got on the scale and saw I had gained 30 pounds in such a short amount of time. That’s when I made the decision to be healthier and when I acknowledged that as good as chocolate chip cookies are, they aren’t going to take away Kyle’s illness so turning to them does nothing but hurt me. I have had my ups and downs over the last 6 years but you have helped me through more of those than I can count.

I guess what I’m trying to say through my rambling is don’t be too hard on yourself for numbing yourself with food the last several months. Just accept that this is your new starting point, create your plan for making a change and then get started :)

]]> Comment on Love my Girls! by fatnomo http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/09/love-my-girls/#comment-3472 fatnomo Thu, 10 Jan 2013 04:24:47 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1362#comment-3472 Kudos to you, Patty. For having the sense 20 years ago to know who your friend were, and continuing to nuture those relationship so they can nuture you now! You are amazing, and your family is blessed like no one I know. You Rock! Kudos to you, Patty. For having the sense 20 years ago to know who your friend were, and continuing to nuture those relationship so they can nuture you now! You are amazing, and your family is blessed like no one I know. You Rock!

]]> Comment on Love my Girls! by pepagirl http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/2013/01/09/love-my-girls/#comment-3471 pepagirl Thu, 10 Jan 2013 04:01:28 +0000 http://www.3fatchicks.com/diet-blogs/patty/?p=1362#comment-3471 You are really having to take on the roll of being the rock right now and it must be exhausting! Keep your head high and remember to take care of yourself while you are looking after the ones you love around you. Still in my prayers. You are really having to take on the roll of being the rock right now and it must be exhausting! Keep your head high and remember to take care of yourself while you are looking after the ones you love around you. Still in my prayers.

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