Comments for Sistah Pat

Comment on Two days in a row! by brseay

brseay — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 23:01:07 +0000

How have things been going this week? Please don’t give up or say you’ll wait until you retire–you deserve to start NOW

Comment on Two days in a row! by incontrol2day

incontrol2day — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:25:49 +0000

I can totally relate. I totally dropped off the blogging world but recently I’ve been blogging a lot more consistently. I find myself more accountable when i do

Good luck with everything!

Comment on See no evil, Hear no evil, Speak no evil by brseay

brseay — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 01:07:13 +0000

I’m so glad to see you on here. I wasn’t on much myself until the last week–we must be on the same wavelength.

I’m glad you have finally made a decision about retirement. Knowing that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel has to make it easier. I hope that you will be able to enjoy this last part of your career, though, instead of them having to be something to get through. I know it has been a challenge recently but I remember how much you have loved it and how much you impact the lives of your students.

How is Donnie?

Comment on See no evil, Hear no evil, Speak no evil by patty

patty — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:31:12 +0000

I’m not sure, Laura. I like to keep busy but I think I’d like to be busy just doing the things I want for a while. I’ve been working for 45 years and I’d like to just enjoy the freedom for a bit.

Comment on See no evil, Hear no evil, Speak no evil by laura705

laura705 — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 15:47:44 +0000

Sounds like a good decision for you. Will you do some other kind of work after you retire from teaching?

Comment on Early morning coffee by brseay

brseay — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:10:15 +0000

The new trip sounds wonderful, I hope he gets on board and that it’s a wonderful time for the two of you.

I also get frustrated w/my hubby when he complains about being tired and then look at the pattern of frozen pizzas, ramen noodles and couch potato life he leads. I go between being angry and then remembering when I wasn’t ready to make the change. I “knew” what I should have been doing but didn’t do it. Luckily we don’t have the drinking issue and at this point his health is still decent (knock wood) but he’s also only 43 so who knows where he’ll be 20 years from now or if he’ll even be around. Scary thoughts and I doubt anything I have just said makes you feel any better but I wanted you to know that you’re not alone.

Comment on Far and Away by brseay

brseay — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:04:34 +0000

Oh, Patty, I’m just catching up on things and my heart aches for you. I share your fears about what will happen when he retires, both financially and with his added free time. And I agree w/the others, AlAnon is definitely worth checking out. It has to be so sad and scary to see someone you love so dearly throwing away their life. But he’s also throwing away your future and your dreams and that’s what makes me sad. You are such a wonderful, caring woman and it seems that no matter where you turn things keep piling on.

Promise me you’ll find one thing in this situation that you have control over and make a decision about it. That feeling of power and control can go a long way toward being more able to handle a situation like this.

Comment on Early morning coffee by janeemosher

janeemosher — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 16:06:08 +0000

i can’t even imagine what your life is like and how hard the temptations are with all the fun travel and things. are you struggling with weight loss like i am? what is your most difficult obstacle to overcome? do you have a home gym and a pool? how wonderful that would be! i hope you have a great holiday and enjoy your trip(s)! success to you!

Comment on Far and Away by jewlz280

jewlz280 — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 15:51:52 +0000

I know this may sound mean, but have you thought of video taping him and showing it to him and just simply saying, “THIS is what we deal with EVERY NIGHT.” You should NOT have to deal with this. Unfortunately, I also understand where you are coming from as this is an issue on both sides of our family. Not from my husband, but other family members and it has caused major issues in the past. I couldn’t imagine living with it EVERY DAY. I understand you love him and he’s your partner, but what about loving you? And the kids? How is this fair to to any of you? It’s not. Something has to change and you know it. That’s the real reason you’re angry and feel you have no control. You know in your heart it has to change, but you’re mad about it and don’t want to do it. But you should and you can. I hope you find peace soon. I know this is a bit early, but Happy Thanksgiving and I hope you are able to find some inner happiness, too!

Comment on Far and Away by hankpanky

hankpanky — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 15:50:33 +0000

I’m so sorry to hear about your DH. You already know you can’t change him or make him stop, but you can go to Al Anon; you deserve to be happy. Find things you can go out and do and leave him home. Also, you know, he could be using the alcohol to self-medicate himself; he sounds like he’s depressed.
Hang in there.

Comment on Far and Away by tjnorth

tjnorth — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 14:43:28 +0000

Oh honey, I am so sorry. Please, please, please reach out to someone who knows what you are going through. Please try Al Anon, or talk to your pastor, or if you have access to a counsellor at work try that. YOU MUST DO THIS. I know, trust me, I know.

Comment on Wendy’s Berry Almond Salad by brseay

brseay — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 21:13:52 +0000

I’m looking for my friend Patty. Has anyone seen her? I hope she’s doing well.

Comment on Island Chicken with Pineapple Salsa by brseay

brseay — Sun, 23 Oct 2011 21:30:52 +0000

I was trying to find your page on sparkpeople and can’t find it (I’m on there, too, although I don’t visit there very much). If you want, find me over there (brseay) and we can chat there, too

Comment on zzzzzzzzzzzzzz….. by Joy

Joy — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 10:31:48 +0000

wow! I can comment on here
I hope that your sleep issue goes away or that they can solve it easily.

Comment on zzzzzzzzzzzzzz….. by susan

susan — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 11:37:58 +0000

Yay Patty, this is great! Life-changing, even! So happy that you will be getting sweet sleep at last. Sleep deprivation is used as a torture method, for cryin’ out loud.
Pleasant Dreams, girlfriend

Comment on zzzzzzzzzzzzzz….. by brseay

brseay — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 23:04:15 +0000

How fantastic that it had such a dramatic improvement!! Maybe instead of Darth Vader he can close his eyes and picture Princess Leia

Comment on zzzzzzzzzzzzzz….. by beerab

beerab — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 22:33:48 +0000

I am so glad to hear that you slept better! I also have sleep apnea and use a cpap at night. It is an amazing night and day difference when you get one I went from being exhausted ALL the time to actually having energy! I would go to bed at 9 pm, get up at 5:30 am, get to work by 7, SLEEP during my lunch, then go home and take a NAP for TWO hours, etc. I mean I was sleeping round the clock and exhausted. Finally I told my husband I thought I was sick cuz I was always tired and he THEN tells me I made weird choking noises at night- I was like GEE THANKS FOR LETTING ME KNOW! And he said he didn’t tell my sooner because he didn’t want to embarrass me… lol MEN!

Turned out I had MILD sleep apnea, 10 apneas per hour for 10-12 seconds. I was like if this is MILD what is severe?! Or moderate?! My machine is set very low and I use the resmed nasal pillows instead of a full mask

Haha my husbsand told me he didn’t mind sleeping next to Darth Vader- the meanie!

Comment on zzzzzzzzzzzzzz….. by jewlz280

jewlz280 — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 14:17:32 +0000

WOW. So glad they (and you!) figured out what was going on and you were able to get in to get some help. Hopefully you get your CPAP machine and SOON. Do they have any idea what brings the sleep apnea on? I’ve known a couple of people who have had it. One guy was in his 20’s and they said it was purely his weight. He’s lost nearly 100lbs. and now no longer needs the machine. Others it just seems to be something they just… have. Imagine before we had this technology???? People must’ve been walking around severely sleep deprived! Anyways, congrats on a solution and hope you get some much needed rest soon!

Comment on zzzzzzzzzzzzzz….. by laura705

laura705 — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 14:30:27 +0000

Great that the CPAP is going to help you and that you didn’t seem to have a problem with it. I have a friend who began using one about a year ago and she said the difference is amazing.

Comment on Crazy Cat! by brseay

brseay — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 23:14:07 +0000

I haven’t been on here for a while and I’m not sure how to respond. Obviously, being in education, we know the school had to follow protocol so the logical part of your brain can’t fault anyone. But the emotional part; the part that has given kids chance after chance after chance, the part that saw Jake crying so hard he couldn’t speak–doesn’t always listen to the logical part.

Since it has been a week or so since you posted this, how has the return been?