Now I remember.  How my house got this way.  I live with slobs.

DH is a stubborn man.  Very. 

After 41 years of living with him, I’ve come to accept that there are a lot of things I can’t change.  I can let them drive me crazy or I can let them go.  It takes a lot out of me to try to address them or change them.  And it doesn’t work.  The best I’ve ever been able to do is to harp on them constantly but it never seems to really change the bad habits.  It just masks them a little bit.

And now I’m surrounded by DH, his protegy, DS and his “trainees”, the twins.  I spent all day yesterday cleaning and addressing issues that I’ve addressed a thousand times.  With everything that’s been going on, I’d eased up on the bad habits and they’ve gotten worse.  Examples:

Women do not pack the washer so tight that nothing gets clean, throw everything in the dryer so that it comes out wrinkled and then throw the entire pile in a basket in the laundry room.

Women DO NOT leave skid marks in the toilet.

Women don’t brush their teeth, spit out the toothpaste and leave it to dry in a nasty green smear down the side of the sink.

We don’t use the expensive white handtowels and washcloths to wash the car or do the dishes.

Women don’t fall asleep on top of the covers with our shoes on and then rant when someone wakes us up so they can go to bed for the night.

We don’t take the trash out, put the empty trash can back under the sink and walk away without putting in a liner.

Women don’t finish dinner, put the plates in the sink and then walk over to the stove with a fork and start eating out of all the pans.

We just don’t.

And that’s what I’m dealing with.  All the time.  I did a lot of cleaning yesterday and, after dealing with “man messes” for a couple of hours, I was definitely getting fed up.  All their “shortcuts” add up and pretty soon everything is ten times harder than it needs to be.

The bathroom is clean.  Sparkling.  And I’m on the warpath.  Better watch out, boys.


Joy says 14th December @ 7:59

Oh my lands ! And I thought MY men/boys were the only ones like that. I handle some of it by giving all of the boys one bathroom and the small bathroom is mine and NO one but NO one is allowed to use it EVER!! Only me!! haha I got so sick and tired of skidmarks, boys and men not aiming right and its all over everything , toothpaste in the sink and all over the mirror, towels on the floor etc…… I so feel for you Patty! I so understand! I am glad that you decided what to do for Christmas.
Have a great Monday.

brseay says 14th December @ 19:04

Yet another example of how we live parallel lives; my boys do the same thing. Here’s another one for your list:

–women do not put their dirty laundry next to the laundry basket.
It drives my crazy how my hubby will collect his dirty clothes from the bathroom after a shower and then put them on the floor next to the laundry basket. Ugh!!

susan says 14th December @ 20:12

Men. Men. Men.
Ooooo have you struck a nerve!

Can you imagine what the world would be like without us wimins to go along behind them, righting the discord they leave in their wake?

I often shake my head in wonderment at the things they do. My son ~ captain of his basketball team ~ CANNOT make the clothes basket.

How ’bout when “they” put things away, all willy-nilly like? Especially in the frig. I have everything arranged in there so I could be blindfolded and still be able to reach in and pull out what I needed IF I was the only one who lived here.

I don’t know about your DH but no one wrecks a bed like my DH. I don’t know what he is dreaming about. I get out of bed and only have to lightly flip the covers back. His side? A complete re-make. Even the “fitted” sheet has curled up in retreat on his side. I’m tempted to get out the staple gun.

Yes, a nerve has been struck 🙂

susan says 14th December @ 20:14

… looking forward to Chapter Two!

RubyJean says 14th December @ 20:34

Oh man, Men! But have you lived with any young women? They can be pretty bad too. I’m living your life – or at least the aspect of it that deals with 1) washing machine 2) balled up, wrinkled laundry 3) liner-less garbage bag 4) icky bathroom I’ve been at this for 27 years. Do you mean this goes on even longer? I look forward to chapter 2, too. I wanna hear how you solved this.

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