22ndSeptember

Ughh…Woman stuff

I have to leave work 20 minutes early today to see my GYN.  It’s been a year and a half and she’s not taking no for an answer.  Is it my fault it’s hard to get in there?  Who ever heard of a doctor whose latest appointment is 2:40?

On the DIL front…DGS told DS that “Mark moved out.”  DIL’s phone is disconnected and she told me to call her mother if I needed to get in touch with her and her mother would let her know.  Guess he got tired of paying her cell phone bill.  Interesting.  Her boyfriends usually last at least six months.  This one only made it four. 

I’m sure she’ll have another one lined up shortly.  She’s never taken care of herself.  Much less, the kids.  She’s pretty good eye candy.  In the year and a half when we went through this before, she moved in with FOUR different guys.  Of course, in the current situation, no one was willing to admit that she was living with him in the first place so they probably won’t see him moving out as a problem.  I told the caseworker but the caseworker asked her and she denied it and that was the end of the story.  I don’t know why he moved out.  I’d like to think that someone actually found out and told her he had to go but I suppose he just got fed up with her and left.  I’d love to have been a fly on the wall in that house.

Nothing else going on.  DIL says she has to work late all this week and can’t pick up the kids until 8:00 each evening so I worked with Jake on his homework yesterday afternoon while DS played with Scout.  Jake had a note in his agenda book from his teacher that he hadn’t written a story on Thursday, another on Friday and he wouldn’t be getting recess until they were turned in.  He had math homework, too.  We got it all done so he’s heading to school this morning all caught up but, again, DIL didn’t make him do it on Thursday, Friday, Saturday, or Sunday.  I wanted DS to write a note in his agenda book saying, “I’m sorry Jake got so far behind.  He should be caught up now.  Please let me know if he gets behind in his homework again.” but he wouldn’t do it.  Doesn’t look good that DIL is letting him get so far behind in school but I guess the important thing is to take up the slack and make sure it gets done.

Guess I’d better head to the shower.  Considering that I’m visiting the GYN immediately after working 7 hours, shaving my legs is the least I can do.

5 Comments

brseay says 22nd September @ 5:47

I have that lovely appt. Friday after school. I generally have them scheduled in the summer so I can go straight from the shower to the stirrups but I blew off scheduling it and now get to go after a day at school. My lucky doctor! At least you’re getting it over and done with.

On the other front, maybe consider photocopying the note from the teacher. One incident of a kid not having their work done is no big deal, but if there is note after note after note it could show a pattern.

round says 22nd September @ 6:38

You ladies are far too considerate. Considering that I’ve had about a doctor a week putting me in stirrups for the past few months I’ve really stopped caring. Legs hairy or not depends on my schedule, not their appointments, as does other prettying up. I make an effort for my husband still (thank goodness) but the doctors? They get whatever is on that day…

I used to DREAD these appointments (especially in France without a gown, without a nurse present) but I’ve gotten so blasé with practice!

On the kids homework, I do think that noting that the guardian parent at the time was not making sure the homework gets done is probably helpful to your case, even if your son doesnt want to do it. It’s part of a guardian’s responsiblity to make sure it’s done. It’s good for the kids that you step in and help, but for your son’s sake he probably needs to man up on this one & make it clear that it gets done on his watch and not on hers.

firefly says 22nd September @ 10:05

Glad to know I’m not the only one who grooms for the gyno! I do admit to going a step further and… uh… pruning the shrubbery, so to speak! I know, like they care, right? I suppose it goes along with wanting to make sure I have clean underwear on in case I’m in an accident. God forbid someone performing any life-saving first aid on me should notice I have on dirty underwear!!

On the DIL front - I’ve been the rounds of the child-custody crap and it just seems to go on forever. I believe it is it’s own circle of hell. It’s hard not to lose sight of the kids’ needs in all of it - you’re doing a great job of not letting your anger and frustration get in the way. It would be all too easy to say that the homework is DIL’s responsibility on those nights and too bad. But then the kids suffer in the end.

However, with homework, I don’t remember how old this particular GS is, but it’s time to start working with him to remember to do his homework. That it’s his responsibility and he should know to come home (where ever home is that night) and do it. I’m going through this with Sean, my newly minted 8 year old. He’s in third grade now (he’s autistic) and he’s home from school with his brothers for a good three hours before I get home. He knows he’s supposed to come home and do his homework, but he’d rather play. I’m trying to come up with different incentives for him to have his homework done by the time I get home. No luck so far, but I’ll keep trying. In your situation, the sooner the kids can start being more responsible for themselves, the better.

Good luck today, Patty!

beerab says 22nd September @ 11:35

Gah I’m due this February and the goal is to get there THINNER than last year and I do shave my legs when I see the doctor- I trim down there and wash really well cuz I know they say hair retains the smell from your “area.” I don’t shave it down though I just think that it doesn’t look good lol. Though my hubby would say otherwise! ;)

patty says 22nd September @ 12:35

Yeah, Firefly, he’s old enough to remember it himself. The problem is that DS has to pick up the kids at school at 4:00 and he gets to my house at 4:30. He has to leave at 5:30 so DIL can pick them up at 6:00. Since he only has an hour with them five days a week, he doesn’t want to spend every minute of it dealing with homework. I understand where he’s coming from but if she’s not going to see that it’s done, someone’s going to have to.


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