Yesterday was interesting. It warmed up above freezing and the sun came out. The ice fell in tubes, in shards, in sheets. It hit the ground and shattered and, this morning, it looks like everything is covered in shards of glass. The damage? Lots of debris, limbs that need to be cut up and carried off, a week of school (so far) that will have to be made up, a hole in the shed, two fences that will need repairs, a broken chaise, and another rift with DIL that will make things awkward and difficult for a while.
DS went home for a while yesterday afternoon to get some more clothes for the kids and check on things. DIL was there. Sitting in the dark with a kerosene heater. She spent all her paycheck. Said it was “her money” after all and she didn’t need to explain where it went. Told DS she will NOT come back over here because I had no right to judge her. She’s an adult and she can do what she wants, when she wants, and it’s none of my business. She may be right. But then, don’t bring it to my house. DS told her she could sit at home in the dark if she wanted. He picked up more clothes and came back over here.
The tooth fairy made it. Scout’s running around beaming like a little ray of sunshine and clammering for more french toast. Jake is still asleep. I know I should get him up. He may have school tomorrow, after all, but it’s difficult to get into any kind of routine when you’ve been out of school, sleeping on a couch, and stuck at Nana’s for a week.
Everything is still a mess. 450,000 Kentuckians still without power, 122,000 right here in Louisville. A water main broke down the street last night and flooded the road but we still have water at my house. I filled the tub and every container I could find just in case. They’re supposed to make an announcement at 4:30 about whether or not we’ll have school tomorrow. It’s going to be difficult. There are still 37 schools without power, shelters are overflowing, and many roads are still impassible because of downed trees. So far, 21 deaths related to the storm. Seven of them from carbon monoxide poisoning due to inadequately ventilated generators.
I know how lucky we are but I’m still sick of the entire mess. The house overflowing with airbeds, blankets, people, dogs, and cats. Yesterday, DH and I received a flyer from Grand Victoria Casino up in Indiana with a couple of coupons for a free room. Pay $59.00 and they make it a deluxe riverview room, 2 breakfast buffets, 2 dinner buffets, a luxury room package, luxury bath amenities, and a VIP turndown in the “Luxurious Grand Bed”. Sounds like just what we need. It’s good for Sunday through Thursday until Feb. 14th but they sent another that’s good until March 14th. I’m going to pick a Monday and take a personal day and make a reservation today. I keep thinking, “I’ve got to get back on track. Gotta eat better and start exercising again”. Still, it doesn’t seem important in the face of everything that’s going on. I’ll be so glad when things return to normal.
10:30 – Okay, so I’ve been fairly productive the last 30 minutes. Got Jake up and fixed french toast for him and Scout. Called and reserved a deluxe room and the deluxe package for DH and I next Sunday at Grand Victoria. We’ll check in Sunday afternoon and stay the night. I’ll have to take a personal day but he’s off on Mondays anyway. That leaves another coupon that’s good until March 14th!
DS’s neighbor called him and said their electricity is back on! He doesn’t seem particularly happy about the prospect of heading home. Can’t say I blame him. With DIL still in a manic mood, no telling what will happen. He knows he doesn’t have to go. In fact, if school is still out tomorrow, he’ll need me to watch Jake and Scout anyway. I’m not going to say anything but I think he’s going to wait and see what happens at 4:30.
6:45 – DS finally gave up. At 5:00, they still hadn’t made any announcement about school so he decided to go home. Got home and DIL had locked him out. I call her DIL because it’s easier but they’re not married. Been together for ten years and have two beautiful children but they’ve never gotten married. They’ve planned it three or four times but Stacy always seems to have a meltdown right before the date so they always cancel. Under the circumstances, I don’t push for it. It’s his house. He had it before he met her. He has full custody of the kids following a two year meltdown she had back in 2003 when she walked out on him and the kids and spent 1 1/2 years going from one boyfriend to another and partying followed by 6 months back on her meds and trying to win him back. She did, much to my dismay, but he still has full custody of both kids and I’m VERY glad that they’re not married. I suspect, if they married, it would be much more difficult for him to keep things under control when she gets manic. As it stands, she can’t legally take the kids or take the house.
But: I digress. She doesn’t like the way bi-polar meds make her feel and refuses to take them. As a result, she has frequent manic episodes. We all struggle to get through them. She’ll come around, eventually, but it’s always much more difficult for us to forgive her than it is for David. Even yesterday, he said, “You know I love her, Mom. I’d give my life for her. But, I get tired of dealing with it.” I’m not quite so forgiving. I feel like she should stay on her meds even if she doesn’t like them. So what? Is it worth the pain she causes everyone with her mania just because she doesn’t like it? Her own mother wrote her off a long time ago because she refuses to do what she needs to do. I’m her mother and my family is her family. Still, I’d use tough love and demand that she takes her meds if it were up to me. Unfortunately, as long as DS puts up with it, I need to keep the doors open for the sake of those beautiful little boys.
DS called when he got home. She’s wasn’t there and had locked the deadbolts on the doors with the key. She thinks there’s only one set of keys to the deadbolt. The ones that hang in the kitchen but she doesn’t know that he made duplicates after she pulled the same trick last time she locked him out. She’s not home. Good. I hope she stays away for a couple of days. Maybe she’ll calm down. The way she behaves when she’s manic is so bizarre that it’s scary. She does things that are wrong and then she attacks everyone around her in an attempt to deflect attention from what she’s done. She’s verbally and physically abusive to others and will lie and hurt anyone who stands in the way of what she wants. After DS got home, they announced that schools will be closed again tomorrow. He decided to stay at the house but he’ll be bringing the boys over tomorrow for me to babysit. I HOPE DIL doesn’t come home tonight. Better for everyone.