Like putting a pin in a balloon…
Warning be heeded - this is a rant.
As I think I said yesterday, I was going into town today for a bit of shopping with my mother so I could get refitted (bra wise) and get a properly tailored shirt from Bravissimo. Now, I’d had a really nice morning playing Eternal Sonata on the 360 and it’s such a beautiful game I felt all calm and happy. I was wearing my skirt that I’m wearing at my interview tomorrow to make sure the shirt matched. I was feeling pretty good about myself, actually.
I get into town, meet with my mum, and as I’m making a fitting appointment she said “That jacket’s looking way too tight. It makes you look fat.” Now, this is the only summer jacket I have. It is the one she bought for me and the one that, just yesterday, she told me I looked good in. Needless to say, her comment pissed me off. I should just let it wash over me, but it’s my mum - she doesn’t really let herself be ignored.
So I got refitted (32FF now, ffs) but they didn’t have a shirt that fit. I tried the 12 super curvy but it was too baggy. Mum started bringing me clothes in sizes 16 and 18! She does this all the time and I’ve tried to explain how it offends me. I mean for goodness sake she’s seen me in a 12 that looks baggy, why the hell is she bringing up those sizes?! How on earth does she perceive me?!
After that my mood was, needless to say, deflated. She kept trying to buy me things. This is how my mum operates. If she hurts your feelings she buys you stuff to make you ‘feel better’. Then, because you’re not five and can’t just be bought with material things, she gets all upset and starts doing a teary eyed thing because you’ve not forgiven her. She’s bought you a present after all, surely that’s enough?
I know we all have disagreements with our mothers. But I am so infuriated! This is the woman who starts diets for a week, gives up then complains about how fat she is. She routinely goes shopping with me, watches me try things on and then when she sees me wearing it tells me I look fat. I mean WTF?! Why doesn’t she say when I’m trying it on?!
I guess I’ll never know. But I was so upset today. She really hurt my feelings, and my mood.
Sorry your mom was a poop today. Sometimes it sucks when people we really care about are so insensitive. Trust me, I know all about that.
I hope your day gets better!!
Sounds frustrating. I’m sure she was trying to achieve something but went the wrong way about it. It kind of reminds me of the mum/daughter relationship of the Aussie girl in dietgirl by Shauna Reid. I loved that book. You might read it if you find it at all interesting
aww sweetie
You know, we can pick our friends, but sadly not our relatives. I’m sorry your mom is such an insensitive jerk at times. Been there, had that problem myself. I took pretty drastic action to turn that around, but if you ever decide you want to “divorce” a parent, even for a while, come talk to me. 
Don’t give her the power to hurt you; you know that’s her “m.o.”, so take it’s effect on you away. You are doing great and SCREW HER if she can’t see it or acknowledge it. I have a sneaky suspicion there is jealousy involved; you are DOING it. 
I’m sorry- maybe one day talk to your mom and say “it hurts me when you say I look fat or bring me sizes much larger than my actual size. Please mom, don’t call me fat anymore. Thank you.”
If she goes but but but! Say “mom, I just told you, this HURTS me, can’t you say oh honey I see where you are coming from and I’m sorry, I won’t say it anymore.”
My mom used to be like this and one day I just sat her down and said my peace- I didn’t say it during an argument, but at a neutral time- and it worked.
Wow girl you are a 32 FF! What is your mom thinking bringing you such large sizes?! I’m a 38D and I wear 10s!
Have I told you this? I just love the colors in your blog. =D
I know what it’s like to have a mom that you love to pieces - but she also has the power to hurt you like no one else in the world. My mom is really a lovely woman but sometimes she just says stuff that makes me wonder if we’re really related (the fact that I look just like her aside).
I agree with sunny - I think there might be the teensiest bit of jealousy involved here.
I don’t know if it is jealousy, or she’s trying to dress you as she would herself. I have fights with my Mom for this exact same reason. For some reason she thinks clothes should be baggy. I don’t know if it the mama way of protecting their little girls from stares from the boys. I don’t shop with my Mom.. it would be a total disaster.