I just wanted to put in a quick post to say thank you to everyone who commented on my post - the support is much appreciated.

I do love my mum - she’s my mum after all - but I think when the time is right I need to tell her we just can’t do diets together.  Because I’m always there for her, and while I suppose her comments come from the best of intentions, they are not helpful.

I’m feeling a bit better now, and thank you for all your kindness.  It just shows you what this place is all about.  Thanks everyone

Mango xxx

Warning be heeded - this is a rant.

As I think I said yesterday, I was going into town today for a bit of shopping with my mother so I could get refitted (bra wise) and get a properly tailored shirt from Bravissimo.  Now, I’d had a really nice morning playing Eternal Sonata on the 360 and it’s such a beautiful game I felt all calm and happy.  I was wearing my skirt that I’m wearing at my interview tomorrow to make sure the shirt matched.  I was feeling pretty good about myself, actually.

I get into town, meet with my mum, and as I’m making a fitting appointment she said “That jacket’s looking way too tight.  It makes you look fat.”  Now, this is the only summer jacket I have.  It is the one she bought for me and the one that, just yesterday, she told me I looked good in.  Needless to say, her comment pissed me off.  I should just let it wash over me, but it’s my mum - she doesn’t really let herself be ignored.

So I got refitted (32FF now, ffs) but they didn’t have a shirt that fit.  I tried the 12 super curvy but it was too baggy.  Mum started bringing me clothes in sizes 16 and 18!  She does this all the time and I’ve tried to explain how it offends me.  I mean for goodness sake she’s seen me in a 12 that looks baggy, why the hell is she bringing up those sizes?!  How on earth does she perceive me?!

After that my mood was, needless to say, deflated.  She kept trying to buy me things.  This is how my mum operates.  If she hurts your feelings she buys you stuff to make you ‘feel better’.  Then, because you’re not five and can’t just be bought with material things, she gets all upset and starts doing a teary eyed thing because you’ve not forgiven her.  She’s bought you a present after all, surely that’s enough?

I know we all have disagreements with our mothers.  But I am so infuriated!  This is the woman who starts diets for a week, gives up then complains about how fat she is.  She routinely goes shopping with me, watches me try things on and then when she sees me wearing it tells me I look fat.  I mean WTF?!  Why doesn’t she say when I’m trying it on?!

I guess I’ll never know.  But I was so upset today.  She really hurt my feelings, and my mood.