Beyond the Looking Glass

Link to Xmas Cat: Tomorrow is Christmas Eve.  On the plus side, I have lost 4 pounds in two weeks thanks to my new exercise commitment at the local fitness center.  It’s very very Christmassy outside with over 16 incles of snow so far.  All of my front decorations (skiis and sled) are buried in the blow-off from our little snow thrower.  Tomorrow we will have a couple of friends over for Chrismas Eve dinner and then I am singing at the late service (and have a small solo…I’ve got to remember to go easy on the Chrismas cheer).

One the minus side, peace at home came to a grinding halt when my youngest DD began a discussion about her future after college graduation (hopefully in May).  She was under the false impression that we would fund a year of acting school.  We had discussed this with her several years ago when she was supposed to graduate in 2006, but she dropped out of school twice and we told her she was on her own.  So she has gotten loans for the rest of her BA degree. Now I am the softie in the family and I suggestted that I might be able to help her get a start after graduation, (financially) and my DH strongly disagreed and the arguments began.  She takes this all very personally and says we don’t have faith in her etc and she and my DH really get worked up.  Of course, this all happended about an hour before we were expecting guests for dinner and I was crying and telling them they were runining our plans, and I would have to call and cancel. Somehow, we managed to still have the dinner with my DH and DD glaring across the table.  The next day I called a family meeting to clear up any misconceptions.  The upshot of that was still a lot of hurt expressed by both of them, and my DD has been away at friend’s places since.  She called and plans to make an appearence tommorow for dinner, and will stay for Christmas day, but My DH continues to stew and I am just trying to keep going with holiday plans.  Ahhhh families…Both of us want the same for her…to be able support herself, and pursue her passion (acting), but we are concerned that some of her expectations are not realistic.  It’s so very hard for me especially to let her go and risk failure.  I know, I know, I’ve got to do it.

Enough of all that.  My other DD (the one who was married in June) will be coming home on Jan 8th for a long weekend.  We were originally going to meet in NYC, but when we considered the cost we changed our minds.

So hope everyone has a happy holiday.  Will check in later in the week.

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