Stormy Weather

Posted on October 19th, 2007 by lynard

dsc_0123.JPGIt’s very dramatic outside this morning.  Looks like we’re in for some rockin’ storms.  Life too has been rocky this week.  My daughter and husband are clashing like thunder clouds and I must choose to mediate or not.  Yesterday when arguments left both of them angry and frustrated I chose to go and take a walk.  It helped.  When I came back I spoke to DD about how much he loves her and cares for her and she needs to just listen without reacting.  Whenever he tries to give her advice, she immediately gets defensive and takes it as a critism - then he gets angry and feels rejected and I sit by and watch this storm escalate feeling helpless to stop it.  She eventually went to speak with him on her own, after both and calmed down and we ended the eveing on a smoother note.  I just hate confolct and that’s one of my weaknesses - I will avoid it all all costs.  I took one of those personality tests once and I came out squarely as a peacemaker.  At least I recognize that about myself.  ….Oh I also had a glass of wine and went to choir practice and sung my little heart out.  That helped too.

Eating and exercise-wise not a bad week so far.  Have stuck to the WW points for the most part and exercised at lease 30  minutes every day.  At least I checked the emotional eating in the face of all these emotional storms.

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3 Responses to “Stormy Weather”

  1. rubyjean, on October 19th, 2007 at 4:35 pm Said:

    lyn, that exact same scenario with husband and daughters plays out at my house from time to time! I even say similar things to the girls - and to Neil, reminding him that they love him and are not rejecting him, just being young. Don’t know if that makes you feel one whit better. Taking a walk is an excellent idea, as is the singing. I realised once that with singing, you spend so much time concentrating on your breathing and controlling your sound that its a lot like classic meditation. The wine helps, but in my case I have to be careful or I won’t stop at one :)
    Congratulations on sticking to your points and not doing the emotional eating.
    Your photos are beautiful. I love the sea. Wish I could be near it more often.

  2. lynard, on October 19th, 2007 at 6:22 pm Said:

    THANKS, rUBY. jUST READ YOUR BLOG…i TOO AM HEADED OUT TO A MOVIE WITH A GIRL FRIEND. Woops didn’t realize the caps lock was on. Just had my Friday night wine..yup I too need to be careful with that..luckly it was the last cup in the bottle! Good to hear I’m not alone in my “stormy weather” ..guess it’s just part of having daughters and fathers. Have fun the weekend.

    Lyn

  3. iniya, on October 21st, 2007 at 10:43 am Said:

    Hi Lyn,

    First of all, the photographs are beautiful. Loved the sea. More loved the one of the jungle. I wish I could go walking there. It is so green, so peaceful.

    I am very scared of conflict too. I avoid it at all costs (almost). When I am forced, I am so scared and then keep agonizing over it a long time afterwards. Even when someone else fights with someone else at office, I get upset and worse try to calm things down. I hate this weakness of mine.

    The only good thing is I am generally too upset with fighting to over-eat. I do that I am worried and/or bored. :) Trying to curb that too.

    I agree walking, taking a bath helps. Also good music helps a lot, a lot.

    Will keep reading you.

    Take care,

    iniya

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