Juggling
I wonder if there are any other married women out there with this problem. I have a very busy life and enjoy devoting time outside work to….keeping fit (mostly walking around the neighborhood), church stuff (choir rehersals once a week - love to sing), photography and volunteering at the local Community Darkroom, and my TOPs club (Take Off Pounds Sensibl) meetings and weigh- ins once a week. My DH just retired from the school system and is also busy - he’s in a production of Pirates of Penzanze and substitute teaching, has a new motor bike, and caring for an apartment house. I am happy with our lives and all of the comings and goings and our various activites, but my DH complains quite often that I am not spending enough time with him. That I am choosing other things over him. I really haven’t consiously done this…and have tried to explain, but he gets all hurt and moody. Then I feel bad and guilty and try and make up for it by skipping one of my commitments to spend time with him. I love him, but don’t feel the same urgency to spend as much time with him as he does, I guess. I wonder if I am too busy. I don’t feel too busy…I enjoy my life. any suggestions out there?
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I don’t have any statistics, but I have the feeling that probably a lot of married women have the opposite problem - husbands not spending enough time with them. That’s me, or at least, it used to be me. Maybe your husband could do one of your activities with you? I admire that you have such a varied and full life! I would love to learn to do something creative (apart from cooking) - I’ve even been considering learning to knit or crochet or draw. Photography sounds wonderful!
RubyJean
Hey I figured out what “track back means” and now I can comment back. Cool. Thanks for the comments..yes, maybe I can get him to come to TOPs with me!! He actually wanted me to sing in “Pirates of Penzance” but I know how much af a time committment these shows are.
Hmmmm….when you are at home and he is to be off to one of his activities does he ever cancell just to spend the time with you?? If not, I’d say his complaint doesn’t hold water… don’t get roped into stuff you don’t want to do
UGH, my husband is either gone or he is home 24/7. Over the last year he has mentioned that my energy always seems to take me away from him or we are chasing after the kids commitments and call those couple commitments. We are now trying to come up with some commitments that we do as a couple; a few years ago I signed up for a bunch of shows up at the mountain winery, and he has suggested that we do that again. its a work in progress because his travel schedule is so hectic. - good luck - dritta