Selected 3FC posts May 21, 2010
Post title: “It’s my metabolism.”
The OP (opening post) is mine. This has generated a whirlwind of responses, and made for interesting discussion.
My grandchildren’s father is one of those people who can eat like there is no tomorrow and not gain an ounce. He is so thin that people have accused him of being a meth or crack addict, yet I’ve seen him eat stacks and stacks of pancakes, dripping with butter and syrup. According to my daughter, this is the way he eats all the time. He says it’s his metabolism and that he has always been like that. His older three children are the same way. We don’t know yet about my daughter’s year-and-a-half old son, or baby upcoming, if they are going to inherit that fast metabolism, or my family’s slow one.
What I want to know is this: When people are prone to be so thin, no matter what they do, and they say “it’s my metabolism” nobody questions it.
But when someone prone to obesity, who can gain weight reading a cookbook and has a hard time losing it despite excruciating work, says the same thing, they are told they are making excuses. Why?
Now, I’m not going to say we should just lean back and claim “it’s my metabolism” while eating badly and failing to exercise, but I want to know why the metabolism plea is so much more believable coming from someone who is thin as a whip, than it is coming from someone who is inclined to be fat?
Among other things, it was correctly pointed out that if “nobody questioned it” then he wouldn’t hear comments about being a drug addict, would he? Others who are naturally very thin, particularly women, are accused of being anorexic. So, skinny people do get rude remarks too. While we hear, “Put down the Big Mac and take a walk for once,” they might get, “For Heaven’s sake, eat something, my dear, you need some meat on your bones.”
The discussion led to my further observation:
I think the ones saying that the higher-metabolism people are more active are right too, but the point I am making is that they seem to have more energy in the first place. My grandchildren’s father hardly ever slows down, and his three older children, not biologically related to me or my daughter, are just plain hyper. However, none of them are making a conscious decision to get exercise. They don’t follow any program. Besides obviously not caring what they eat or how much, they also don’t think to themselves, “OK, I need some exercise, so I’m going to do this specific action for this amount of time.” They simply have a lot of energy. While I have to watch everything that goes in my mouth, and deliberately set aside times to move my body in ways I carefully plan, this man and his children aren’t even thinking about it.
Regardless of any physical factors, I think it’s the “having to think about it” as opposed to “it comes naturally” that makes the most difference.
Post title: Sewing NSV
The OP is mine. For the curious, NSV means “non-scale victory” and refers to seeing evidence of lost weight or improved health, other than the reading on a scale.
For several weeks, I haven’t been well enough to go the clubhouse I’ve mentioned is normally part of my daily routine. So I hadn’t been near a scale, since I usually weigh myself there. I have no idea if I’ve lost any poundage. But I can still report a major NSV that involves sewing.
I had been in the middle of making myself a black velvet skirt. I cut it almost three months ago, carefully fitting myself, but then found I couldn’t see well enough to sew it. I needed new glasses, and it took a while to complete the process of getting them. I took the skirt back up today, started sewing on it, and when fitting, I quickly discovered that now I’m going to have to widen the seam allowances and take it in! For those of you who don’t sew, that means make it smaller! The measurements I took three months ago are no longer accurate. And in the “right” direction too. I’m so happy.
I had taken to sewing new clothes myself because it’s cheaper than buying them new and already made. Next time I’m going to think twice before buying shiny black velvet, however, since even with the new glasses I’m still having trouble seeing. Darker colors tend to be more difficult when you have vision problems.
When I get it finished, I’ll ask hubby to take a picture of me wearing the skirt. OK?
I am tickled pink to follow this up with:
I just finished the skirt. Just now.
Tried it on, and discovered that after I had taken it in by probably 2 or 3 inches….
It’s still too loose on me!
I’m all stitched out for tonight. But at this point it’s only a matter of tightening the elastic in the waistband. As long as the waist fits snugly, it’s ok for the hips to be a bit roomy. It’ll only take a few minutes to do that.
Which leads me back to that “it’s my metabolism” thread where I admitted:
What’s really funny is that I started out on my weight loss journey to prove my point. I knew that if I were caught eating sugary, fattening junk, even once, I would be giving someone room to say, “Now you see? You’re fat because you eat like that.” No way was I going to allow that. I kept it up in order to prove that it really is beyond my control, that I cannot lose weight even when I am careful to eat right and exercise.
Except… I now discover that I have been losing weight.
I will continue with more selected 3FC posts in future entires.