Things are working out
I apreciate all the wonderful advice i have gotten from my friends here and at home. I had a long talk with hubby. Well mainly it was me talking. I have realized that hubby sucks at communicating. I say i want a baby soon and he goes ok cuz he wants to make me happy meanwhile he is thinking im not ready its not going to work now. I have realized that i need to ask questions when i want something to make sure it is something we both want in order for me to understand him and for us to communicate effectively. So the baby plans are on hold for about a year or so. Which i cant say i mind so much because it will give me a chance to finish school.
Another thing that i realized is that i dont have a life outside of hubby. And that is something i am working on. When hubby and i moved in together i stopped painting. Well i bought an easel and its all set up and ready for my creativity. I am also going on a vacation to the beach with my best friend and her 2 daughters for 2 days sometime this month.
And the comments about more “fun” time with hubby to get closer together is an awesome idea. I have an extremely low sex drive and i know he feels neglected in that area. I am making an effort to make sure that the neglect stops. You are right its 20 minutes out of my day and if it makes us closer and saves our marriage it is worth it 1,000 times over.
Ill admit it this morning i was 15 minutes late for work cuz i gave hubby some surprise fun time.
We have a long road ahead of us with everything against us but we can make it if we try.
glad you had a talk. DH’s always like surprises…something they just never get tired of…
I’m so glad you and dh talked! Communication is key!
I’m glad you got a chance to talk to DH to sort some things out. Just keep talking to each other, keep the lines of communication open. Work on what you need to work on (strengthening the marriage, money issues, etc) so that when the time does come for you to start your family, you can deal better with the stress little ones bring. They are a joy and most definitely a blessing to have but they do introduce new strains to a relationship, so it’s best to make sure that family foundation is strong. Make sure you have a strong sense of who YOU are also, not just as a couple but as an individual…I know as a mom I often feel like I’ve forgotten who I was before and I have to rediscover that part of myself. It sounds like you are on a good track with the painting, keep allowing yourself to be YOU!
About the low sex drive thing, I don’t know if you are on the pill or some other type of hormonal birth control but that can sometimes be a side effect. If you are, it might be worth talking to your dr. and maybe switching brands.