Checking In

Back to work after an extremely difficult weekend with the funeral of my brother.  Thanks to EVERYONE  for your very kind comments last week.  This has been much more painful than I could have imagined, and there were a couple more awful things that happened that made this so much more difficult for my mother - as if the death of her son wasn’t already bad enough.  How much can people take?

Just so you know…my nephews are in their mid-20’s, so they’re very fortunate to have had that time with their dad, but it still seems awful to lose a parent that young.  And knowing what a great dad my brother was and them being so close to each other is what makes it so heartbreaking. 

I have to stop writing about that - too upsetting. 

Tonight will be the gym w/ bf.  I’ve already e-mailed our movie group “leader” that I’m not going to the movies tomorrow night - I just want to catch up on stuff at home.  I need to do a few thank you notes and want to get mt. mail under control.  I’ve come to hate the paper that comes into the house and accumulates!  I think I’m building up to a major, totally ruthless paper purging frenzy sometime soon. 

I saw today that I carried over 4 days of vacation into this year and have only used 1.5 days so far.  It’s preferred that carryover days get used during the 1st quarter of the year… Oops.  But I’d like to take some time, so I’ll start using it.  Maybe take a few Fridays off work in the coming weeks.  I’m almost 100% sure that I will NOT attend the “mostly guys getaway” next weekend, but now that I think about this some more, I need to make sure bf rides with someone else because I don’t want to be without the car that weekend!  We’ve been sharing a single car for 8-9 months and it’s definitely a challenge!  BF hates being a passenger and subject to someone else’s schedule and driving habits, but he’ll have to do that next weekend. 

Okay, less than an hour to go for today and I’m very tempted to duck out early.  Maybe. 

4 Comments so far

  1. espencer on April 27th, 2009

    {{{{Hugs}}}} Funerals and death in general are terribly difficult and tend to bring out the worst in people.
    Check out http://www.catalogchoice.org to cut down on a lot of the paper mail coming in. It works really well. Of course, I buy a LOT of stuff online, so I am continually getting back onto mailing lists, but I just throw the catalogs in a pile and once every couple months go log them into that site. Enough rambling.
    Definitely take some Fridays off. 4 day weeks are great for rebuilding energy! Did you find a spa or something fun to do that weekend?

  2. beerab on April 27th, 2009

    I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your brother :(

  3. loosingme on April 27th, 2009

    i agree with Kim….sorry you had to go through this…HUGS!
    I am a great pitcher…I get the mail, and immediately go through it and put it into the trash or recycle pile, if it is something I don’t think I will look at or use. I have never been sorry I threw something away this way. Totally cuts down on the paper piles!

  4. majestichollyhock on April 28th, 2009

    (((((hugs))))) it is soooo hard to lose someone very close to you and i dont know why but other nonsense seems to get tossed in. (hugs) for your mom too. Allow yourself to be in the grief journey. It is highly personal and different for everyone but it is a journey none the less.
    Hugs and love. H

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