Boy advice? help :( April 11, 2013
I’d like to ask your opinion. I am chatting with this other boy. he lives in NY and he is planning on moving to LA in June (job opportunity).
He seems really nice. Except…… after a while of messaging, I let him know that I had lost a lot of weight. I tell my potential dates before we go out. I figure if they have a problem with it, then we don’t waste our time on a pointless date.
His response was “No! you diet? I don’t think people should diet. I wish people would be more accepting of their body”. My response was “well, I don’t consider it dieting. I eat healthier and exercise”. the convo wasn’t mean or judgmental, it was just sharing opinions, and just chatting.
When he asked me how much I hd lost, I said “over 100lbs”. His response “you’re so beautiful right now. But I bet you were beautiful 100lbs ago”. hmmmm. Basically, he likes big girls. Like he finds hips and ass and tummy sexy! I said “well I’m not planning on gaining weight” and while I’m overweight, I don’t necessarily have a stomach. My stomach is surprisingly flat. I do have hips and booty. He responded with “I think you’re gorgeous, but yes I would think you’d be gorgeous heavier too. I would still think you’re beautiful if you lost more weight, but it’s not something I really care for. You shouldn’t have to diet if your body is naturally happier at a bigger weight. Genetics has a lot to do with it”. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
I just don’t know what to do here. We’ve continued to chat. It’s good convo. But, I’m just like should I be weirded out by this? I don’t think I’d be tempted to gain weight, and I don’t think he is a “feeder” lol. How do I know that term. I just think he likes big girls. LIke bigger than me. Sure he finds me attractive. and he’s dated thin girls (all types of girls). but he just prefers girls with tummies. He’s not even in Cali, so may be I shouldn’t worry about it. But, is it wrong that I continue to respond to his messages ? Is this fetish-y? I have no idea if it’s normal. ?
ahhhhh HELP? What say you?